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writes:Hello, I just need some advise for a situation with a friend. im going to be very brief sorry.Tomorrow I'm seeing a friend, who I have not spoken to or seen in quite a while. Both studying away from home, I tried to keep us together but he made new friends and has a new life. We have been bf's since we were in 14, we are now 21! I want to tell him that I feel he takes me for granted and it sometimes feels his uni friends mean more to him than me. But i dont want to sound needy or like its a game and hes won because I caved in first. Im worried that im going to sound desprate and pathetic, but I want him to understand, he can't just do the things he does and expect me to stand by and watch. I just know hes going to say that hes got his own life and 'what do i expect', but after I tell him, I dont know if things will be the same. But it has been eating away at me for months. Should i just tell him and face the consequences? thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): thank you both for your advise and taking your time to awnser my question. :)
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reader, Dreamer1988  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 "I want him to understand, he can't just do the things he does and expect me to stand by and watch." Tell him that, see what he says. If he gets mad, then you know that he is using you. I wouldn't be surprised if he was seeing someone else (I mean, new life, come on). You're supposed to be his girlfriend, which is part of his life. He has you on a tight leash. If you want your freedom and independence, get out of this relationship. Good luck
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reader, petina1  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 You are both still young, he is living his new life and making new friends, things are bound to be different for you both now. You need to talk about when he can find time to fit you in with your schedules. You may even have to say, go your own way and see what lifes like with other people. You are both growing up , maturing and moving on. If you ask him where he sees you both heading in the future you may be able to let him know then how you feel about it and if you want this for yourself whatever the plans are. These should be exciting times for you both and some people fear being tied down at this age.
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