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writes:I was talking to this guy for about a month when suddenly he went completely M.I.A for two weeks...then he contacted me apologizing, saying that things were moving too quickly and he didnt want to get hurt so he tried to just cut it all off between us, BUT that he also needed to tell me something but that it had to be in person. So...about a month later we saw eachother out and he proceeded to tell me.."you're too good for me"...that he's not normally the jealous type but that he felt that with me. Now I am signed with a modeling agency and do stuff like that on the side but its not my "career"..and he claims he wants me too bad and thats why he thought not being together was the best choice for both of us because "he's a nobody" and i "need to be with a model" umm? So after this whole talk...literally seconds later, he grabbed my hand and proceeded to kiss me the rest of the night. THEN asked me to dinner the following Tuesday...which he blew me off for. THEN contacted me on that Thursday saying how he saw a poster of me and that now i should "understand" why he says the things that he does...we then (not purposely) ran into eachother that same night...said HI and what not and then when he was leaving he grabbed my face and kissed me AGAIN! in public in front of everyone. So do i believe this guy is maybe insecure (i do know his ex cheated on him) and try to work on things...or do i just forget about it and delete him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): He sounds deeply insecure and a bit of a drama queen. I don't think he needs hand holding either.
It's nice he thinks your attractive, but I don't think he thinks of you as a person; which explains the MIA and why he stood you up after inviting you out. He's more concerned about himself being "good enough" than getting to know you. I don't think he has the maturity or emotional imagination to consider your feelings, because he's so distracted by your side job. Let him slide.
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reader, Dreamer1988 +, writes (29 December 2010):
 It could be a couple different things. Maybe, when he was MIA for two weeks, he reconnected with another girl. That's why he is acting this way... if he really liked you, he would be stoked that he is dating a model! My advice would be to find someone else
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): I have no patience for hot/cold guys and relationships. I was in one for 5 years. It drives you crazy. It's all mind games and it's so emotionally draining on you. Finally I ended the relationship by doing his own thing back at him - I went increasingly cold on him and just kept it that way ever since, and without any explanation. I figured after him doing it to me for 5 years I owed him no explanation.Your guy sounds really insecure and has low self esteem. I think he may doing the hot/cold thing to test you to boost his self esteem. If you still respond to him after he goes cold, he feels better about himself and his worth.either that or he's being manipulative. some people do hot/cold on purpose because they know that this makes you go crazy and 'appreciate' them more, and for awhile it works that is until you just plain get fed up and no longer interested in playing their games.
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