Self conscious during sex
Q. Hi me again. I'm going to have sex with my friend but i'm just worried that my self consciousness will ruin my first time. I'm not fat by any means. I just think i look too skinny and awkward. what if he doesn't like how i look. he's seen me in my ...
A. 1 June 2009: I know everyones said it, but you are very young and if you want to place any value on sex you will wait until someone that you love can be with you. Anyways after all that, just to throw it out there I don't think most of people actually have sex ... (read in full...)
Would anyone know what causes sexual performance anxiety, or how to resolve it??
Q. Does anybody know ,what causing sexual performance anxiety? And how to resolve it?...
A. 1 June 2009: stress and being nervous. Kill that voice in your head and when you do tell me what you used to do it.... (read in full...)
Want a relationship, but I may have intimacy problems, any advice?
Q. I think I have some sort of commitment or trust issues because i start to like a boy and when he likes me back i start to get uninterested. it's not the fact that he likes me back that pushes me away, it's all the flirting and calling. when a boy ...
A. 1 June 2009: Well if all that makes you uncomfortable why not try saying a couple of these phrases and it might make things go smoother. "You don't have to dote on me." "You don't have to flirt with me we already know we like each other." I don't try coming ... (read in full...)
Why would I be so dry during sex?
Q. I have a problem with getting wet. I am very attracted to my boyfriend and we have been dating for quite some time, but nevertheless Im always dry as the sahara desert. I know using lube is an option, but I was wondering if anyone knows why this is ...
A. 1 June 2009: I don't want to be too perverse, but oral works well to start things off with some moisture. I am no medical professional but that previous post is right. Stress can bring upon problems even in this area. Maybe try getting into the mood more, ... (read in full...)
Really like this guy, he pays me attention, but he has a girlfriend, any suggestions?
Q. okay so theres this boy i really like and i hang out with him almost everyday. he's sweet,funny,and such a good friend. on a scale of 1-10 i'd say hes a 10. well anyways when we walk we always walk next to each other,and we always look at eachother ...
A. 1 June 2009: If he stays in bed with a street walker I wouldn't touch him if I were you. ... (read in full...)
I am a guy, little blonde hairs on my belly make me uncomfortable at the pool, what should I do?
Q. Okay so im 15 and i have little blonde hairs on my belly. Like where guys have there happy trails and i use to not care but they are becoming to where you can see them bad (well to me) So does anyone else have this problem or know what to do. Please ...
A. 1 June 2009: Dude, don't do anything to it. It'll grow in probably during this year and all will go according to plan. If you mess with it and shave it, it could lead to razor rash and make it look red there and all sorts of scenarios could happen. If no ... (read in full...)
Love her, told her, now she's playing hard to get, what gives?
Q. well hi im knda new to all of this but i need help with my girl. im in love and i told her so. she also said t back we both really like each other and it seems like everything going my way until she started playing hard to get a couple days ago. i ...
A. 1 June 2009: Lose her or act like your busy too and see if she comes back to you. She might be keeping you around as a boyfriend drone, which I define as a good guy that some b/tch has to go and play head games with while she's still bed hopping.... (read in full...)
I am 18, need advice on winning over a girl, who has an awful boyfriend?
Q. OK this girl i been talking about in my previous questions? I am kinda nervous and i don't wanna be turned down she has a boyfriend who is on drugs smoke weed pcp take zannies perks oxy's and he screws all her friends and im trying to win her over...
A. 1 June 2009: Find a better girl than this. Most girls that stay in relationships like this are either doing the same drugs themselves or fooling around all the time too. I hope I learned the lesson for you, but life doesn't come with an instruction manual.... (read in full...)
I just don't feel like I can compare with the girls he sees in porn
Q. I feel totally hideous and this is keeping me from enjoying and wanting sex. I feel too self conscious. My boyfriend watches porn, but it's not like he's addicted far from it actually. But these women look a thousand times better and this puts me ...
A. 1 June 2009: Don't hate your body. Be confident you got this guy in the net already anyway :). Ask yourself this question. Do you think a beautiful porn star would pick your guy out of the crowd? Maybe, but probably not. If your not attractive to him why is ... (read in full...)
Broken up because of family/religion but I can't get over him!
Q. My case might be unique cause I am from a very conservative background. I am a very religious Hindu and i CANNOT go against my parents to marry a guy they disapprove of. But emotions took over me, and i fell in love for a Buddhist guy! He loves me ...
A. 13 May 2009: In my mind religion causes more problems than it helps. Love is real, but I hardly believe in my opinion that any god exists in this crumby world, but that said if you love the guy, you love the guy regardless of what religion you believe in. He ... (read in full...)
I hate my sister's boyfriend! What can I do?
Q. I hate my sister's boyfriend! What can I do? They're currently LDR, but he's planning on coming to live here. Well, the thing is that he's 32 or 33 and she's 22. He's so annioying. He may be old, but he is so immature. He doesn't work, he's looking ...
A. 13 May 2009: You could always leave roller skates at the top of the stairs when he's the only one there... Just kidding, but not really. How about you think of a plan to put your sister in a position where she needs to depend on him in some way and when he's ... (read in full...)
What should I think or do about his Erectile dysfunction?
Q. I'm really at the end of my rope. My husband is just off sex. It is very painful. He once lost it in middle of intercourse,and than since he is limp.. And he WENT TO DOCTORS, but they can't find anything wrong with him... We are in this situati...
A. 13 May 2009: Has he had anything bad happen to him lately? Lost his job? Lost a loved one? Stress plays a big roll in this area. Had anything happened before that night that it happened that you can think of? Did he drink before that? Some men are more ... (read in full...)
What's proper protocol on who says "I love you" first?
Q. Is he already in love with me but not saying those three words? After a few weeks of dating he said, 'I think I'm falling for you.' Weeks later he said, 'You know you love me.' I played it off and said, 'No, you love me.' We both laughed at lef...
A. 13 May 2009: why is everything the mans responsibility? I told a girl I was in a three month relationship I loved her and she told me she could never love me... I guess that's the worst it could possibly get.... (read in full...)
We've dated 2 years...and his ex will not allow me around their son!
Q. I am 29 years old and have been dating the love of my life for 2 years now. He is almost 10 years older then me. He was in a past relationship for 13 years and they have a handsome 7 year old son together. We are kind of in a rut I guess you coul...
A. 13 May 2009: I don't know why she could have her lover around the boy and not you.. Also i don't know if its possible that she could seek sole custody of the child if she is doing the same thing. Either way too much baggage for my taste. Every time i dated a ... (read in full...)
I don't get it...why the sudden change in him?
Q. So me and this guy have been bestfriends for about 4 years, there was never connection between us. Not as far as I was aware. One of my friends, who used to be his too, told me that he used to say I was pretty and wants to kiss me, you get the ...
A. 13 May 2009: It seems like this guys terrible attempt to get you jealous. Maybe he got with that girl just to make you jealous and make you see what you were missing and what he really wants is to be with you, but he is probably afraid it will jeopardize your ... (read in full...)
Am I a stalker as she says I am?
Q. Would anyone here consider it like stalking if the person your with says they're somewhere and you drive by to really see if there are where they say? Especially if they've lied before? it blew up today with the girl i was seeing she said she was at ...
A. 13 May 2009: A lot of women would see this as stalking(stalking is saying I never want to see you with someone and then having them follow your every move), but in your case I would see it as validation of her dishonesty. If she was somewhere she didn't want ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with her?
Q. Should I dump my girlfriend? We have been together for about a year now. My problem is I always feel I am the one driving our relationship and organising things for us and doing things for her. My bday was on this sat just gone and she didnt...
A. 13 May 2009: I had a girlfriend treat me like this and turns out she was such a witch that she was purposefully being mean to me to get me to break up with her so that she could get out of the relationship to get back with her baby's dad with dilapidated teeth. ... (read in full...)
Frightened of my boyfriend and possibly pregnant
Q. Hi I am 16years old and my boyfriend is 19. We have been going out for a little over a year a recently he has been getting angry towards me such as when i have been text ed by a friend he will ask me who it is and if i do not say then he will squ...
A. 13 May 2009: if this guy is violent and jealous then he has a very childlike mind. This man is not fit to raise a child and if you are not sure if you want to raise a child at this age there are many parents that cannot have their own baby who would love to ... (read in full...)
I know its wrong to like your own kind, but I cant help it!
Q. Ever since i went to an all-boys school for a year last year,i started to fall for this shy boy which i knew it was wrong to like your own kind.but if you were in my shoes,you would be the same as i am.before i moved to a different school,a mixed ...
A. 13 May 2009: Oh yeah and if you don't pursue it you could always end up like me a self loathing closet case with a built in inferiority complex.. Too much info, but anyways you get the point...... (read in full...)
Do I need medication? I have an irritability problem
Q. I have always had a bit of an irritability problem, and i try to control it. When i say irritability i mean that if someone ask 5 times are you feeling ok or are you sure you dont want to go with me? it tends to get on my nerves so bad i will yell ...
A. 13 May 2009: If someone asks you something five times after the first time just say we discussed this already.. If people are repeating themselves trying to badger you into doing something it's their mental problem not yours. Don't get a big guilt complex ... (read in full...)
My sister says she hates me
Q. I love my sister but every time I ask her if she loves me, she says no. Then when I say I love you to her, she says I hate you to. Now I know she doesn't mean this 80% of the time, but it still makes me upset when she says this. I have heard her say ...
A. 12 May 2009: Ask her what she's overcompensating for. Most children at this age have no sense of concepts. You probably have a strong concept of hate(to hate is to dislike someone to the highest degree) in her mind she is probably a bit sadistic like most ... (read in full...)
Update: He is overly protective of his email and workplace
Q. Hi I was on here before about my boyfriend being over protective of his email and Blackberry. He viciously protects his office and the vicinity and wants me nowhere close. This is an update. He found that question here on DC, plus your a...
A. 12 May 2009: For him to even insult you like that he must have some kind of respect issue. He is definitely hiding something from you, but it is not necessarily an affair. He seems to be controlling also if you says he has found you post.. He has the right to ... (read in full...)
Should I keep our baby? Please help me...
Q. I'm in a bit of a tricky situation. I'm almost 17 and my boyfriend is 19. I just recently found out i am pregnant, my boyfriend says he doesn't feel he's ready to be a dad and feels i should abort but says it's my decision, he'll be there no matter ...
A. 12 May 2009: If your feelings are that you want to have this baby then have it. Your boyfriend is probably scared and doesn't know how to handle this situation and reacting with this idea of abortion. If you are secure with the idea of having the baby and ... (read in full...)
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