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writes:I'm really at the end of my rope.My husband is just off sex. It is very painful.He once lost it in middle of intercourse,and than since he is limp.. And he WENT TO DOCTORS, but they can't find anything wrong with him...We are in this situation years ago, and when he touches me ,or looks at me never even gets hard.It is very hurtful for me, and I wish I WOULD KNOW WHY?If I wold know ,he has diabetes ,or something it would be ok, I would be nice about it.But this way ,that I dpn't know what is causing his impotence,I;m suffering very much.So I don't know what to think or do?What do you hin,what could be wrong with him?Is this psychological,something is his head went wrong?Nobody has a clue, and he says he wants to be with me?What should I think or do?Thanks for reading this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Hello CommonSpencer!
The first time was, after a very nasty fight, around 3 years ago.
And since than he is never able to get a normal erection, or desire sex.
Now I do think, there is a connection, but he does not.
So you had this , and it got resolved with someone else? This is what I'm afraid of. That it's ,me. And he could do it with someone else, and than we both wasting oour time//.
What do you think?
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reader, CommonSpencer +, writes (13 May 2009):
Has he had anything bad happen to him lately? Lost his job? Lost a loved one? Stress plays a big roll in this area. Had anything happened before that night that it happened that you can think of? Did he drink before that? Some men are more sensitive than woman think. Give him sometime and maybe indulge in some different or new sexually stimulating activities. Each man and woman is different and have their own turn ons and turn offs. I know I had a bit of a problem with this when I dated a girl that would only sleep with me after she got me drunk and she didn't like to kiss or hug while making love so it was not enjoyable for me and I couldn't keep the erection, but when i got with someone that was more into hugging and kissing I had no problem even after drinking a little bit because I was turned on by kissing/hugging.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Thanks very much..
Our relationship was good, but this mysterious E.D makes a huge impacton our emotions.
I wish ,someone would know it for sure ,what goes on...
I love him, he is a nice husband,and good dad, but sure he is a bit changing from this dyssfunction.
Well, he say, he does not feel sexualy excited at all, very seldom..
I wish, the therapist would have more clue, but she didn't.
I just don't want to end up ,with some bad suprise. I can't imagine at all ,he is cheating ,but how a sexually active man, can go flat line, all in a sudden?
If it is never going to be solved,can you imagine we can stay together with no sex? I never thought it will happen, its such a shock. Thanks
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reader, Charr09  +, writes (12 May 2009):
 He's in good health so we should thank the lord for that!
This is the first question i've answered so sorry if it's not good, but... i think you should try and see if he can get an erection from masturbating. If he can maybe try something new and different in the bedroom?
Maybe, if you come with something new, it will shock him and who knows it might be the best ever!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2009): Hi there,I can only tell you from my own experience that its not you. Males have lots of testosterone, this is what gives them there temper, aggresiveness, and yes there sex drive. If there is nothing medically wrong with him, he is probably releiving himself, himself or with someone else. Does he stay on the computer longer than the time he is with you? Thats what someone asked me and I found out my husband had 16 females listed on his Instant messanger. And was making dates with them all. I caught him asking one Friend to meet him during his work hours. She is married and screws around on her hubby too. She sent all kinds of nude pics, nude joke's and rubbed his ego to a bright shine. I was to busy looking after our family. he never needed to shop, go to school events, meet teachers, go to swimming lessons, bake for the school fair. These were the times he cheated. When I got home he would say he was tired and needed to go to bed. All the sex was exhausting him. Vola' no time for me. he got his. And yes he got erectile dysfunction too, but not really, men need a few hours to refuel. Why would he love me, men only want sex and not the relationship. Cheating works very well for men. Good luck, By the way during your yearly physical make sure the doctor swabs for STD's as well. Keep safe. look after #1 (thats you, then the kids)
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reader, mikefromms +, writes (12 May 2009):
Imagine how difficult it is for him? Assure him that you love him "no matter what" this is important. His confidence must be really hurt which just adds to the problem or imagined problem. He could be suffering from depression...is you relationship good otherwise, I mean, do you talk and seem to be on the same wavelength?
Therapy would be good. Hang in there. Take your time with one another and don't hurry your special time. Be understanding as you can be. Remember, thereapy.
Just a suggestion.
Mikefromms
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