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*cho_darling
writes:Hi me again. I'm going to have sex with my friend but i'm just worried that my self consciousness will ruin my first time. I'm not fat by any means. I just think i look too skinny and awkward. what if he doesn't like how i look. he's seen me in my bra and underwear but i just think he won't like how i look when we have sex. so my question is do guys usually make a whole big deal out of that during sex or do they just not really care.
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reader, echo_darling +, writes (5 June 2009):
echo_darling is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks guys, you all were really helpful. a lot of the same repeating thinks but still, thanks! one of these was extremely helpful and i'll definitely have to thank them. my friend and i will have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): echo, your mind is already made up. you want to have sex and no mater what i tell you you won't listen.
so please listen to this - please practice safe sex. condoms/birth control pills. be aware of pregnancy issues be responsible with this sex idea.
lastly, you are fretting too much. your body is fine. your 1st time should be speacial so please make it special, with a special guy.
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reader, CommonSpencer +, writes (1 June 2009):
I know everyones said it, but you are very young and if you want to place any value on sex you will wait until someone that you love can be with you. Anyways after all that, just to throw it out there I don't think most of people actually have sex with the lights on, but i don't know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): OK, the others have said all the "you're too young" stuff that was my first reaction.
If you're going to do it anyway, my two cents from experience is that guys don't have enough blood anywhere near their brains at those moments to notice, let alone critique, those kind of details. If he's seen you in your undies already, the final unveiling won't bring any critical response. Gratitude, absolutely, but not a critique.
But really, you're too young to be doing this.
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reader, krazykira22  +, writes (1 June 2009):
 babe of course he will care its you, he has choosen you just like you have him. He wasnt weird when he saw you in your knickers and bra was he? cuz if not then dont worry babe. At the end of the day we all have body hang ups, im sure your partner will have some too!! so worry less and remeber its about you and that person. Your partner wouldnt be with you if they werent attracted to you! They would look elsewhere trust. Just enjoy yourself and have fun! x Need anything else, message me and ill try and help
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (1 June 2009):
 Hey Echo,
I see that you are anxious about being intimate with your boyfriend. I am just thinking that your age is a bit too young to be thinking about sharing your body with someone just yet. And at your age also, I am sure you are beautiful and gorgeous. But you are also not fully developed yet as a young lady. I am sure you are thinking that I am raining on your parade but the fact that you are feeling self conscious even before you have sex...means that you are not ready honey. This is going to sound so cliched, but sex is such an intimate loving act....having it so young without fully understanding how it will affect you isn't a good idea. Plus you have all the diseases to worry about etc. Be careful honey...I know none of the auntys here can stop you, but whatever you do respect, love yourself and just be careful with you and your heart.
Ana
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): In my opinion , if someones ready to have sex then they should do it no matter what age just think it over. Make sure you guys are safe you dont wanna be pregnent at 15 , your not mentally mature or emotionally mature to handle one at the moment it will ruin your life you wont be able to go to your freinds because your taking care of a baby at home you wont be able to do alot of stuff that us teenagers do. Make sure you guys are safe make sure he wears a condom and good luck. bye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2009): Ok, guys are way less critical than us about our bodies. However, you are young and also, is your friend someone you can really, really trust to do this? I had a friend with benefits once and I ended up very hurt, I was 15, I regret it now.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (1 June 2009):
 look first of all your under age and shouldnt be having sex your bodys not finished developing either not to mention your friend could go to jail. also do you know anything about sex and how you could get pregnant or std? also your insecure about yourself so work on yourself and perhaps when your old enough you will be happier with how you look rather than worrying about it. good luck aphex
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