How do I approach the trainer at my gym without looking desperate?
Q. How do I approach him? Will I look desperate if I do? This guy (trainer) at my gym is so cute. He's friendly to everyone and talks to everyone but me:(!! He's always looking at me. He's always in a place where I can see him and he c...
A. 4 October 2012: Start at step one before asking him out, which is simply having a conversation with him. Find out all the things you want to know over a few weeks and get to know him more. I'm sure if he likes you back he'll have no problem whatsoever finding time ... (read in full...)
I feel so empty inside and I'm rarely happy anymore
Q. I know this isn't something to mention on here and may be silly asking advice on, but I don't want to talk to my friends about this. I don't want my family, friends or anyone I know what i'm going through or how I feel. I don't know how i've ac...
A. 1 October 2012: I haven't got a magical cure but I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one who feels this way. You're not alone with this feelings.
I suggest seeing a doctor, you may not be diagnosed with anything but they can always refer yo... (read in full...)
I feel sexually attracted to men but not emotionally or romantically at all. Is this because of hormonal imbalance?
Q. I am a 15 year old male and I was wondering if my sexual orientations are due to hormones? I feel sexually attracted to men but not emotionally or romantically at all.. And I am only attracted to some women (usually middle aged) but have emotional ...
A. 6 September 2012: It could just be that you haven't met the right guy for you to have an emotional or romantic attachment to. God knows the guys your age I knew were in no way relationship material.
Give yourself time and try experimenting. If you find a guy you'... (read in full...)
How do guys see needy girls? If a girl is very needy will it not matter to a guy if he TRULY loves?
Q. I'm really confused. Two days ago, my LDR ex bf broke up with me. Deep down I know it's mainly because I was being too needy and pushed him too far. I always cry during our skype, complaining he didn't spend enough time online with me, I was e...
A. 6 September 2012: I was about to make a comment about insecurity when I read you said it yourself.
I truly believe that you need to be comfortable with yourself and your own life before you can have a relationship with another person.
Sort out your problems (e... (read in full...)
Is shyness a sign of interest?
Q. What is the meaning if the girl cannot look in your eyes or she is feeling awkward when you are talking to each other? she knows that I like her since 4 years ago but im shy so i cant show it to her. Only now im trying to talk to her. Is being ...
A. 6 September 2012: It depends on the person really.
With me, I can be really shy when I:
a) Like someone and I'm consciously trying to not make a fool of myself
or
b) Avoiding talking to someone and being quiet so they lose interest in me..
For your sake, I ho... (read in full...)
My libido has gone from 100% to about 10%
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over three years. I lost my virginity to him when I was thirteen, but as soon as my parents found out they broke us up. Anyway I’m eighteen now, and recently my libido has gone from 100% to about 10%. I ...
A. 6 September 2012: Maybe try having a few weeks/months without sex and see if your desire grows from there.
Best of luck,
J... (read in full...)
I love my wife and I can't tell her to chose me over her father but it's starting to feel like it's him or me.
Q. My wife and I have been married for 2 years now. I have known her for about 7 years and for the last six years her father has been an increasingly son of a B#$CH. I wrote him off personally about a year ago. But my wife still tries to have a ...
A. 6 September 2012: My, he sounds like quite a handful!
Is your wife stressed over his actions too? If she is, maybe suggest a date night where you cook her dinner or go out for dinner and properly talk to each other. Maybe even agree that the topic of conversa... (read in full...)
What should I do if you are nervous and have anxiety on a new job
Q. I have been so nervous and having a little anxiety. I need some advice. I just started a new job and I am scared; I am afraid of messing up and having my other employees angry and frustrated. I don't want to be embarrassed.I am also afraid to ask ...
A. 6 September 2012: Hey there, It's absolutely normal to be nervous when you start a new job. I think asking for help is almost essential when you start a new job. In my opinion, if you don't ask questions you're giving the impression that you are a 'know it all' an... (read in full...)
How do I find out if this coworker is interested?
Q. Hi so i just started working at a new job, and the very first day I was greeted by a very handsome coworker. I dont usually get flustered around cute boys, but with him I was a mess. I noticed throughout my shift, this guy kept.coming over and ...
A. 1 September 2012: Work relationships are a tricky situation. You just started the new job, give yourself some time to settle in and get to know this guy better. Be friends first! For all you know he could be doing this with every new girl who starts working at the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend posts about our relationship problems on Facebook.
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I discussed a problem we've been having and it didn't turn out so well. We ended up arguing then ended the discussion. A few weeks ago we had got into an argument and he posted a status about it on facebook. He says it'...
A. 1 September 2012: Suggest him setting up a private blog to post his feelings on. If he's really upset and needs a place to vent, this can be a great way to let loose. It's what I do when I need somewhere to express my feelings. Don't ask that he gives you or anyone ... (read in full...)
Tips on socializing needed, please!
Q. Hi. So i need advice for someone that is quite shy and finds it hard to socialize. I'm 17 and my friend is having a get together before she goes to university were only going for a meal and then to a pub but i'll only know like 5 people and i fin...
A. 1 September 2012: I used to be very similar to you but now I will basically talk to anyone. For me, it was all about practice really. Experiment with conversation topics and get to know people! The most useful (and a little funny) thing I remember is that people L... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend wants to go to prom with me but I'm afraid he won't like me because I am fat.
Q. i have a long distance relationship and he wants me to go with him to his senior prom, i told him i will. HE wants to see me sooner than that and so do i but the problem is im afraid to. I know im fat, but im not really huge like i should be, i ...
A. 1 September 2012: Maybe the best idea would be to talk to him about it. If you trust him and are in a committed relationship, he will respect you no matter how you look. Tell him you're insecure about your full appearance. If you feel like it, send him a photo of y... (read in full...)
This guy seems into me but I think he may be engaged, help!
Q. So me and this guy have been talking. We both find each other attractive. Here's the one thing that's bugging me...he has told everyone I know he's single. But we found pictures of him from a few months back with a girl and an engagement ring. His ...
A. 1 September 2012: It is possible that him and his fiance have recently broken up. Often ex-s still have photos of each other on their facebooks, I believe that's normal for long term relationships.
None of us can tell you the truth or what's really going on with ... (read in full...)
Should I get out of this relationship?
Q. I've begun noticing unpleasant things about my boyfriend and I've come to the conclusion that he is controlling... I just couldn't figure it out for the longest time because he is so timid and he has never lifted a finger on me...I never thought he ...
A. 1 September 2012: You're getting the right idea here. Well done for recognising that this man is absolutely no good for you.
It definitely does not sound like you're in a healthy relationship. He makes it sound like you being around his apartment is a burden o... (read in full...)
I'm back and still in need of help in overcoming my obsession with her
Q. I have made two posts about this girl before if you remember me. Doesn't matter though if you do. I am ashamed to say but I am obsessed over this one girl and I need to know of some tips to get rid of this feeling. So basically like a month ago I ...
A. 1 September 2012: It's normal to have dreams about people you're interested in. As for getting over her, there's no miracle cure for it - just give it time. Keep yourself busy with hobbies or start talking to other girls who might interest you.
Don't stress t... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to lose interest in my boyfriend
Q. I think I am starting to become uninterested in my boyfriend. I was afraid this would happen if our relationship did not take off. Some things may have changed, but not enough to say this is who I want to spend the rest of my life with. When i...
A. 1 September 2012: I think perhaps you guys just aren't meant for each other. If you're bored after 2 years, imagine another 50 together. How does that sound to you?
Another problem is that in a relationship there should be mutual respect. It seems like you're t... (read in full...)
Is it normal to talk about sex like this when we've never even made out?
Q. Ok so i've been dating this guy currently for almost a year.We are both 16 and our one year anniversary will be in about 3 1/2 months, but this is the 4th time we've dated so we know basically everything about each other. Even though we have dated ...
A. 25 August 2012: I'm glad that you know you're not ready for sex, because going by your reply you overreact quite a lot. If you don't want him to make sexual advances towards you, maybe don't send him photos of your body as you're just leading him on.
He's ... (read in full...)
Will oral sex have prepared me for regular sex?
Q. Basically, im a 19 year old virgin and a guy. I guess in my younger teen years I had low confidence and never got round to getting a serious girlfriend or having sex. Now that im 19 I feel like im missing out and I really, really want to start ha...
A. 25 August 2012: I'm a 19 year old female who doesn't fit into your stereotype of women your age. We're not all the same! :)
Don't overthink it, enjoy yourself and make it enjoyable for her too.
All the best,
J... (read in full...)
He's moving overseas for work, but I want to keep the door open for later. Do you think this will work?
Q. I'm looking for advice and to hopefully hear some success stories where people reunite after some time. The situation is that I met a guy while he was in the process of moving overseas for a job contract that will last 15 months. We dated for 2 m...
A. 25 August 2012: Your questions are only ones that can be answered with time. So be patient, my dear!
I think you're doing the right thing by dating other people. He's probably wanting to know the same answers that you're looking for too. I say don't keep your hop... (read in full...)
Is this girl flirting or just being playful?
Q. I hope you guys don't mind long reads and I warn you I am very detailed with these types of questions so that I can get the best information. So I was kind of new to this church and nobody really knew me that well. One day we were sitting there at...
A. 25 August 2012: Boy, you need to stop over-analysing this! I bet you've gone over it all a thousand times in your head.
The truth is that there's only one person who can tell you if she's interested in you - and it's her!
Ask her to hang out one on one and h... (read in full...)
He performed oral on me and then we broke up. What happened?
Q. He kept telling me how much he wanted me in his life and wants to tell his children and siblings about me but only told siblings and they wasnt happy about it {or he's white and Im black} but he said he didnt care how they feel he cares about me. I ...
A. 25 August 2012: He might feel funny about you saying that the way he should prove his love to you is by giving you oral sex.. That could have been taken the wrong way and his siblings may have supported any doubts he may have had about you.
I suggest talking ... (read in full...)
I am a separated woman trying to date. After you've read it all do you think I should see a therapist?
Q. Apologies! This situation description isnt as short as I'd hoped it would be. Click back if you dont want to read a long story. I want responses, but if I dont get any because my post is too long, at least I'll have cyber-vented! My husband an...
A. 16 August 2012: I think getting involved is a dangerous idea. He sounds like he's in a bad place and it's not a new thing. Definite self esteem issues and, as someone else said, depression or the like. Be weary. ... (read in full...)
Do you see any possibility for us to have a future together?
Q. I met this guy through a friend in my group since 4 months ago while I was still with my last long distance relationship boyfriend who broke up with me 2 months ago. And right after the break up, this guy started to initial contact with me and get ...
A. 16 August 2012: I think there really is hope for you two. Usually if a guy doesn't want to be in a relationship my first guess is that he is screwing me over, but this guy has given you a genuine reason. If you believe him and care for him, then give him a shot. ... (read in full...)
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