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writes:Ok so i've been dating this guy currently for almost a year.We are both 16 and our one year anniversary will be in about 3 1/2 months, but this is the 4th time we've dated so we know basically everything about each other. Even though we have dated this long we have never done anything physical other than kiss. And i mean anything. We have never even made-out or anything cause i am a chicken and he is just super sweet and doesn't want to ever force me into anything. Although we have never done anything phyiscal, we are comfortable talking about anything and everything and lately the topic of sex(pr things of the like) come up a lot. Yesterday he told me that his fam went to walmart and it was super awkward cause his step-dad (who scares the shit outta me cause he looks like a mass-murderer) bought him condoms. And i was just like "R U KIDDING ME?!" and then we talked about it and i made it clear that i loved him but i wasnt ready to have sex yet, and he was totally cool with it. and i am not quite sure how it ended up the way it did but he ended up sending me a pic of him in just his boxers so i sent him a picture of me in like just my bra (only from stomach to neck, it didnt have my face or anything) and he just kept telling me how sexy i was. Then today he tells me that his grandparents got a camper (kinda like the caned ham looking 1's are) and gave it to him parents so they said he could use it and he text me saying "i have 2 rooms now" so i was like "what?" and then he sent a pic and i was like oh haha nice and he said "yea i got a love mobile lol jk" and i was like "OMG! BAD! BAD (nickname here)!" and we was like "haha yea i know" so then i was just kidding and being an ass so i said "on second thought maybe we could?...." and then i instantly sent another saying "JK lol plz do not take me seriously! lol" and he said "if u want to i will haha" so i said "omg no! i was kidding!" so he said " i know haha just for future reference" so i said "like far away future. far. far. away." and its response was "i know" and then the topic kinda changed and stuff so now i am just like confused, i love him and yes i want to have sex with him but not now and he's ok with that but is all this normal for ppl to talk about when they've never even madeout? espically when we are only 16? plz help!
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reader, chaijam  +, writes (25 August 2012):
I'm glad that you know you're not ready for sex, because going by your reply you overreact quite a lot. If you don't want him to make sexual advances towards you, maybe don't send him photos of your body as you're just leading him on.
He's a 16 year old boy.. I hope he can hold out as long as you can.
Stick to your guns and don't give in if you're not ready - no matter what!
All the best,
J
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2012): You guys may love each other. But im sure his patience will run out. Im not saying you should do it because you feel under pressure or so, but do it when your'e ready. And if his not willing to wait... then i guess the presence does tell the future.
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reader, kimostuff  +, writes (3 August 2012):
 You are still young for having sex yet ... and in a relationship like you have you can't just don't have sex & also not to talk about sex ... this is not normal ... it is painful also ... I think.
Don't worry about just talking about sex when you have never even made out ... it is normal.
In our country ... our religion , culture & traditions forbid us to have sex before marriage although we have many girls have boyfriends and guys have girlfriends ... so what do we do? ... we just talk about it when we never made out ... exactly like you.
Don't worry , and over estimate it ... and keep yourself for the right one that you will find for sure .
Good Luck
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