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writes:I know this isn't something to mention on here and may be silly asking advice on, but I don't want to talk to my friends about this. I don't want my family, friends or anyone I know what i'm going through or how I feel.I don't know how i've actually got myself into this situation or why i'm feeling like this. I just feel so empty inside and rarely happy anymore, when I am it's for very short periods and other times I feel i'm just pretending i'm happy around everyone hoping that maybe it'll soon be second nature without having to try. I use my university work as a way to distract me and keep my mind off things. When I go on nights out with friends, I drink so much just to forget how depressed I feel, which I know is bad. But recently some nights i've ended up leaving early because I can't be around anyone, or in fact I get emotional and sometimes cry over nothing?I just feel like i'm all alone, when I know i'm not. But when i'm by myself, I keep feeling really low and emotional, I've been sleeping a lot more than most people should recently and i'm still really tired. I don't eat much anymore, i'm just not hungry and I would rather be by myself, than in the company of others. I feel like a recluse at times, which I am far from.There's so many things that have changed with me in the past few weeks and i'm worried because I don't know how the hell this has happened, I have nothing to be depressed or sad about!! Yet even when good things happen, it still seems irrelevant to me like it doesn't matter. I know you aren't doctors, but why would I be feeling like this, or have a change in behaviour and how has this happened? I don't know if I should go to the doctor and find out what is going on with me, i'm only 19 and have everything to be happy about, yet all these strange things i've said about is just making me feel like i'm slowly getting into depression or some disorder and I don't know what or why this has happened?
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (1 October 2012):
 Sounds like Major Depressive Disorder to me. Please see a psychiatrist as soon as possible. This can be treated, if you are indeed suffering from clinical depression. You need to have it ruled out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2012): You need to go see a doctor, I'm a mental health nurse and though I can't diagnose you, I can however point you in the right direction, and the first port of call is to your local g.p.
Not eating, sleeping too much, keeping away from company are signs of depression.. And just because you see it doesn't mean you don't have it .
Go to the gp sweetie, tell them all what you've said here and let them give you the help you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2012): This sounds like a classic case of depression, which could either be biological or brought on by your change of circumstances or a mixture of both.Either go to your doctor and describe your feelings (or lack of them), or go to a counsellor at the university that you're attending. College counsellors are particularly good at helping people to cope with their experiences of university and will help you to look into what might be affecting you - that said, if there's more than one counsellor you may need to get a more 'senior' one - this happened to me at uni. and this first one I saw had just started/was not able to really help me but then I asked to see someone else and she was fantastic.You don't necessarily have to take anti-depressants - There are some really good safe legal alternatives, that can help to just 'take the edge off' depression enough for you to start to cope better by structuring your life differently and with the help of a counsellor.Many, many people of all ages feel the way that you do - it's just that people rarely discuss it openly and some people who seem to be coping are literally just more practised in putting a good show on and/or simply don't have the same depth of character that you have - your feelings of numbness and isolation are a sign that you have depth of character that is not, at the moment, connecting up with the world in a way that you are enjoying. You can turn this around so that life feels rich and rewarding, but you must get help first.
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reader, chaijam  +, writes (1 October 2012):
I haven't got a magical cure but I just wanted to let you know that you're not the only one who feels this way. You're not alone with this feelings.
I suggest seeing a doctor, you may not be diagnosed with anything but they can always refer you to someone who can help you talk about things. When I was graduating from high school I had a really dark period where I couldn't sleep and my closest friendships had been destroyed. My doctor referred me to a sleep psychologist who helped me plan out a sleep routine and just listened to me talk for ages about whatever was on my mind. I was so much better off for it.
I hope you feel better soon :)
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reader, GoVegan +, writes (1 October 2012):
 Hey, if you have moved away to go to uni then you maybe missing your family? and your friends from where your from? I sometimes get like that and I just sit down and focus on myself and meditate, it's not for everyone but it's worth a shot.
you should really eat, not having anything to eat and sleeping way to much isn't a good habbit to get into, it'll make things a lot worse especially cos the way you are feeling. Try eating healthier foods and try and go to bed early, i know it must be hard because you're at uni and everyone wants to party and get drunk, but you have to have some 'me' time.
Just focus on yourself, stand tall when you're walking, and keep smiling, hopefully you'll feel more confident instead of being slouchy and stuff.
You're only young you shouldn't be feeling like this at all.
So have fun, but remember to have some 'me' time as well :)
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