We flirted for a while but I haven't heard from him in a week. Time to move on?
Q. So I like this guy at work, and I'm positive he likes me too. He's a little younger than me so I made the first move after a few months of working together. We kissed at work and he brought up hanging out outside of work. Well we texted a couple ...
A. 16 February 2014: Hi everyone, thanks for your responses, it really helped and stopped me from making a big mistake of texting him. And I talked to him about this once I saw him at work again. And basically he said he wasn't able to have a relationship because of ... (read in full...)
Which is more important in a partner: being physically attractive, or being good in bed?
Q. I have a general question for everyone. Do you prefer a partner who is good looking but boring in bed, or a partner who is average looking but good in bed?...
A. 8 December 2013: Great in bed of course!! If you're giving me multiples than youre great looking to me. If I have that connection with someone than that is how attraction grows for me personally. Other way around, no matter how good looking you are, if we have no ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my housemate that his girlfriend cheated on him?
Q. Basically, I haven't known my housemate for a long time. Only about 3 months and he and his girlfriend have been together for about 7 months. This guy is a wonderful, decent and honest who absolutely adores her. Last night, I discovered from ...
A. 8 December 2013: I completely agree with honeypie. Tell him youve heard these rumors, and also tell him you don't know what is true and what isn't. Like said above, because you dont know really. Your telling him will make a conversation between your friend and his ... (read in full...)
Is my friend jealous of my life? Is that why she behaved this way?
Q. Hello People! I have a question that needs a third party response. I have a friend that I have known since pre-school to break a friendship over something so childish. Story: I just had a baby 4 months ago and was asked by my old coworkers to go ...
A. 2 March 2012: Possibly. Can't really say based on this one incident and with out having some background on her life or your relationship with her. Sounds like there must be some more history. If it was serious enough for you to feel the need to let it go, then go ... (read in full...)
Is it sensible to stay friends with my ex when I want her back?
Q. hi, my girlfriend of over a year broke up with me recently. We didnt fight much, I didn't do anything extremely wrong and it's fair to say the break up was out of the blue. It was because she wants to be single. she said she wanted space and...
A. 2 March 2012: You probably won't get over her if your still in contact, at least not for a while, going through confusion and heart ache the whole time.
Best thing to do for yourself, and her, is to not respond to her texts or calls, maybe tell her ahead of time... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's fantasy of me being a teenager has freaked me out
Q. I have recently started dating someone and I'm having a pretty awesome experience with it. I'm really comfortable with him, we talk very personally, and its the first dating experience I've ever had where I wasn't nervous, and I was able to be ...
A. 17 February 2012: He never said twelve year old, but I did as a joke that my panties were my 'ten year old' panties (end of laundry cycle) and he was really turned on by that, and I thought about it a little but not too much at that point. Until the text...like that ... (read in full...)
I wanted to marry my girlfriend and now I don't. Now what?
Q. This year will mark the 10 year anniversary of me meeting my girlfriend. Early in the relationship we talked of marriage, but neither of us really believed in it and we were trying to establish our careers - moving around and generally unstab...
A. 17 February 2012: Be really honest with her about you feel about the whole situation. How important her sorry is to you, that your confused about the relationship, or whatever is on your mind. Be open to her response and I'm sure you find a way to work through it. ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with built up hatred for my ex? He just went missing when I told him I was pregnant and he never cared to check on me until months later
Q. It has been about 4 years since I had an abortion. I had gotten pregnant by my ex. I had also gotten sick around the time I was pregnant. I had to make a choice to have surgery for my illness and lose the baby..or stay sick and keep it..I ...
A. 17 February 2012: Sad story. But it is in the past, four years in the past. You don't know the exact reason he left you and it doesn't really matter even if it seems like it does. He left because he is selfish and he didn't care about you. And you don't need him to ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to spend $5 at the school cafeteria to send an anonymous gift to my crush?
Q. There's this thing going on at my school where if you have a crush on someone, you could spend five dollars at the cafeteria to send them an anonymous gift. I'm thinking about doing this for the guy I have a crush on but I'm not so sure, I mean ...
A. 13 February 2012: Go for it, it'll be fun to hear him talk about it and know it was you.
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Old flame, old rumours ...
Q. I have reacently been in contact with a guy I knew from late high school, we had been messaging one another on and off for about 6 months. We had said we would meet and catch up. Then I get a message from him that said he had heard a rumour about me ...
A. 13 February 2012: He sounds really out of touch with reality. How old is this guy? He sounds extremely insecure and it really isn't fair for him to take something like that out on you, or to care so much about who you slept with a long time ago.
If he believes what... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is much more casual about sex than I am. Can we make this work?
Q. My girlfriend and I are both in our 40's and we are not virgins. However, she is much more experienced (I was in a relationship for a very long time) and has a much more casual attitude about sex than I do. I am really wary about sleeping with a ...
A. 12 February 2012: Myau says your uptight and I have to agree. Sex is a normal part of everyday life for every single living organism on this planet. Even if your not having it, you think about it. She is just being herself.
Talk to her, maybe you can feel more comf... (read in full...)
I am against drinking but b/f has started to drink! How do I deal with this?
Q. I was wondering, how much action i should take or not take with my boyfriend and alcohol. hear me out. I was raised in a very religious home, i have never even SEEN alcohol outside of TV/ads/in the store. In highschool, I never was around t...
A. 12 February 2012: Well your young and still holding onto sheltered ideals of a world that doesn't exist the way you thought growing up. You say YOU KNOW it is wrong.. why? For a reason outside what you were told to feel. As you get older....the more you learn the ... (read in full...)
B/f rarely gives me any time but yet when with his ex they were always together!
Q. My boyfriend has only had one previous relationship, and in this relationship he fell hard and fast. They were together all the time, but after a year they broke up and it absolutely devastated him. From mutual friends and himself I've heard it took ...
A. 12 February 2012: It probably has something to do with his last relationship. He learned something from it, whether it was right or wrong he is just acting out on what he got from his last relationship. Perfectly normal. Either way you still have your needs too. So ... (read in full...)
My gf cancelled our date last minute. Could this mean she doesn't like me?
Q. This may be a stupid question but it's been on my mind all day. I've been dating this girl now for a little less than 2 months. Due to our busy schedules we have only gone on 4 dates so far but we communicate when we have time in between. Toda...
A. 12 February 2012: It's really impossible to say what her true intentions or feelings are. She told you why, just believe her. If you get the feeling for whatever intuitive reason that she was trying to avoid you, then I would say to lay back and let her make the next ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't answer phone or want to hang out with me
Q. My boyfriend barely wants to hang out with me. It was totally fine the first week we were dating but now he barely responds to my texts and doesnt answer his phone when I call but if I call off of someone elses phone he answers. Im kinda scared that ...
A. 12 February 2012: Your suffocating him. And if you've only been dating one week you can hardly call him your boyfriend. Just leave him alone and let him chase you. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? If he's not answering you its ... (read in full...)
I don't think I want to go on this date, but I don't know how to tell my friend!
Q. So my friend is trying to set me up on a date with this guy she's friends with at college. She said we're going to be going on a date with her and her boyfriend too so it isnt that bad and at first I agreed but now i'm having secong thoughts. We've ...
A. 7 February 2012: Just tell your friend and/or the guy your not interested. The better you get at voicing your feelings/thoughts the easier life gets. ... (read in full...)
My husband of 29 years is suffocating me and I want a way out
Q. my husband of 29 yrs. is sufficating me. everything he does and says annoys me.he calls me 5 times a day.hes at work and he knows im at work.hes 9 yrs older than me and wants to veg out and i want to go.he dont want to spend time with anyone but me ...
A. 7 February 2012: First I am so happy to see a woman who is able to recognize what she needs to do in her life in order to be happy. A lot of women continue to lie themselves being unhappy for more unnecessary years. Congratulations on the first step.
Instead of w... (read in full...)
We had sex and now his texting is spotty. I'm always left feeling insecure and ignored, should I pursue this guy?
Q. Ok so before I start this is a lot of back forth history before the real problem starts. This guy I just started dating suddenly has a communication failure. We had sex for the first time, I stayed the night he made breakfast nothing wierd. That ...
A. 8 January 2012: Thank you ladies for your advice. I decided to go with your opinions and not respond to him, which I feel very good about. Yes I had sex with him too soon and thank you to the anonymous writer for your advice not to sleep with men until you are ... (read in full...)
Are men intimidated by smart women?
Q. Before i start rambling and telling the story behind my question..guess i should jump straight to it. Are men intimidated by smart women? So i'm 17, and not gettin into this whole subject, but i'm really close friends with a 35 year old that i'...
A. 8 January 2012: He probably feels insecure or not content with what has happened in his own life. And he cannot relate to anything that your talking to him about. I would probably glaze over too. I think you should take a minute to realize not everything is ... (read in full...)
I really want to, but I always back out at the last minute
Q. I'm 17 and I've only ever had two boyfriends. The first realtionship I was in was really innocent even though it lasted a long time. He was really respectful and chivalrous, and we never really even thought of moving past making out (and letting ...
A. 17 October 2011: New things are scary its normal. Once you do it it won't seem as scary. You will have lots of learning about your own sexuality once you do, but there has to be that first step. Don't psych yourself out, if you want to do it, do it. If your not sure ... (read in full...)
Am I over-thinking this issue with my LDR?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with my bf of three years. some times some of the stuff he does makes me question if he really is in love with me. he doesn't put as much effort into the relationship, makes me feel like I'm not appreciated, puts ...
A. 17 October 2011: Go with your instinct. If your feeling unappreciated or ignored there is a reason for it. Sounds like you both need some space from the relationship. Long distance relationships normally don't work. Neither of you are getting the things you need and ... (read in full...)
How to be in solitude and heal from heartbreak
Q. So I've learned now that I am not worth that much to my husband and in a great deal of pain. I'm very depressed and lonely. I am not ready to leave this relationship at this time. I don't want another man in my life and I don't want to make friends. ...
A. 4 October 2011: You can't heal while damage is still being done. Your husband being at home ignoring you is bad for you on many different levels as he is with holding what he knows you need, everybody needs. That itself is abusive. If you are not ready to leave the ... (read in full...)
I'm just really hurt and I didn't see it coming. Do I just let her go? I really do like her.
Q. First of all thank you for reading this! So i've been in love with my best friend now for close to two years. We met at a friend's house and we liked each other and went on a few dates. She had just broken up with her boyfriend of two years so she...
A. 26 September 2011: This girl is never going to be with you. I'm saying that as a young female who knows what your friend is doing. I'm so sorry to put it like this but she is using as someone to make her feel special (a little confidence boost). I suggest to move on a... (read in full...)
I really do like this girl, but I don't want to be THAT guy. She has a Bf already
Q. So i met this girl at school and i started falling for her. After a couple months of crushing, i found out she had a boyfriend. I tried hard to forget her and move on but it was very hard because I see her everyday. So we started becoming clos...
A. 26 September 2011: Every relationship is different but long distance usually doesn't work for certain reasons. However that is not your issue, you should ask her how she feels about you and just be honest with her about what you think about her. See what she says and ... (read in full...)
Sad part? I don't think he likes me that way. Is it that he just wants to have sex?
Q. I've been friends with this guy for quite some times. We are really close and I believe we've known each other for 7 years. Well this year we finally confessed we liked each other and dated for a two months. After we broke up things went back to o...
A. 26 September 2011: I'm with CindyCares on this one!... (read in full...)
I am moving soon. We argue too much. Would it be healthier to completely separate?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 6 months and things are starting to fall apart. I am moving to a neighboring state in a few weeks and we have just been having little arguments ever since i told him. Arguments about little pointles...
A. 26 September 2011: Sounds like you have answered your own question. You are obviously thinking of breaking up and any relationship expert would tell you that long distance generally doesn't work, especially in a new relationship. If you are already on the verge it ... (read in full...)
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