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writes:So I like this guy at work, and I'm positive he likes me too. He's a little younger than me so I made the first move after a few months of working together. We kissed at work and he brought up hanging out outside of work. Well we texted a couple times after he left work that night, I said he should hit me up tomorrow. Now that was a week ago and I've never heard from him. I don't really know what to think, we always laugh together and have all these inside jokes, and not to toot my horn but I'm really attractive. So I'm lost here, I don't get it. Should I let it go, or send him a text, and if I do text him what should I say, just ask him what happened, or whether or not he's interested?
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reader, Babs1 +, writes (16 February 2014):
Babs1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone, thanks for your responses, it really helped and stopped me from making a big mistake of texting him. And I talked to him about this once I saw him at work again. And basically he said he wasn't able to have a relationship because of everything he's going through (he just got out of rehab, is trying to live a new life, doesnt drive etc..) in his words he's not a good guy and just got done being a piece of shit. In my words he's having a self esteem issue and needs his own time to work on that. So since then I've gotten over it and we're good friends at work again, minus the kissing. Thanks again!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 December 2013):
 Don't crap where you eat.
(with that I mean don't mess with or date co workers) It can all become so awkward and full of drama, which doesn't belong in the workplace.
Could be he has a GF? Could be he didn't mean anything by kissing you, though I kind of doubt that. Personally, I'd nip this in the bud and not pursue it.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (8 December 2013):
 He has his own reasons for not contacting you. You dont want to come across desperate. If I was you I wouldn't message him.
Just leave it.
If you see him around you can smile and be your usual self. At the end of the day you don't need to chase him; you made it obvious already you like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2013): Here's what you need to do.
Don't do anything.
If he likes you back, I think he does but he can also like anyone aside from you.
Men are capable of dating more than one woman.
He kissed you last night, tomorrow its gonna be a different thing. He may kiss another girl and forget about you.
A man seriously into you, will not stop contacting you, or will never get tired seeing you unless he knows his exclusively dating the girl of his dreams.
If his not doing any of those, then its like a bubble.
it means nothing. I'm so sorry to break your heart. But that's how you will really know a man seriously likes you.
So save yourself from disgrace just play it cool and don't do anything. I believe you when you say your attractive. Pretty soon you will find someone who will really adore you for real. When you find him, you will never find yourself writing here.
Good luck!
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