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I have experienced more than my age would usually yield
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United Kingdom (Although its not too united)
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A lot of things.... Chocolate?
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He kept naked pictures of his ex in an old phone!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly two years now. Today I came home and was going through our old cell phones so I could clean up our desk. I came across one, that belonged to him, I was erasing contacts, pics, videos and whatnot.... Well ...
A. 25 May 2012: Relax and take a step back before making assumptions. 1. Talk to him, don't make accusations just simply ask if you can throw the phone away, as its his property. 2. If you feel that insecure about it ask him if he was keeping the pictures, if ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is making me feel so confused, help?
Q. (UPDATE) Ok so now i'm getting kinda cheesed off, my girlfriend is ignoring me and it's hard to figure out if she's doing it on purpose, or if it's just something that i might not be able to see, because at the end of the day i don't know what she ...
A. 25 May 2012: You may need to relax a little and put a little trust in her. You haven't said how old she is or what you both do (school/college/uni/work) so can't really give you suggestions on what might be keeping her from answering your calls or texts, ... (read in full...)
He has depression, do I wait or not?
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for the last two weeks and he confessed to me yesterday, that he has depression and is on anti-depressants, has attempted killing himself twice and is seeing a counsellor. This doesn't bother me, I still want to see him but ...
A. 25 May 2012: I was once in that guy's shoes when i first met my GF. (That was seven years ago) Changing of anti-D's can be quite a scary prospect, especially with mood changes, all the different side effects, and the fact that most SSRI's take at least a mont... (read in full...)
I don't want this relationship to end but I just don't know what else I can do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years, he has always had a problem with expression his emotions, its his up bringing, all his brothers are the same, find it hard to express how they feel and put feelings into words. He became depresses so ...
A. 6 September 2011: It is most likely his anti-depressants that have put him off sex, speak to him about it, and ask him to speak to his doctor about changing to a different type.
If he says he still fancies you, then you are going to have to take his word for it, ... (read in full...)
Have I screwed everything up by sleeping with him early?
Q. I met a guy at a friend's gathering a few weeks ago. We really hit it off, and he drove me home at the end of the evening. Came in for a few hours - we have some drinks and laughs, swapped numbers, but nothing happened. I text him the following ...
A. 6 September 2011: This quite a short answer for me, so i will expand on it if you want me to, just ask.
I know you dont revisit the conversation but i think you should speak to him, let him know that you understand that he doesnt want to rush things due to his d... (read in full...)
How do you find the inner strength to help people?
Q. I just want to let everyone know that I have been on this site for at least 4 years and its been the best site from heaven.... I have been troubled by my broken marriage and have a hard time putting things together ....how do you people do it ...ju...
A. 6 September 2011: I am not one of those angels, I am however just like you, and many other people using this site, I am a human who has been hurt, confused and in need of answers.
I have received good advice from others before, and know how helpful an outside ... (read in full...)
During sex I "zone out" and think of anyone but him. Yet I love him. Did my past issues affect my ability to enjoy sex with him now?
Q. I think I have some intimacy issues. I love my boyfriend very much, I am extremely attracted to him and we have sex on a regular basis (1-2 times a day). The only thing is, when we have sex I am never able to think about him or what is happenin...
A. 6 September 2011: To start with I would like to say, I'm extremely sorry you are in the situation you are in, it must be extremely frustrating.
"As a kid, I was sexually abused by a close relative and I am wondering if this has anything to do with it?"
I... (read in full...)
Second chance? promises? what are the chances the relationship will last this time?
Q. If a couple who have been together only a yr. or so have a lot of issues throughout their relationship end up breaking up and then 2 mths. later decide to reunite without really working through these issues, can this relationship survive the second ...
A. 6 September 2011: It completely varies from couple to couple, unfortunately for myself, i am in a couple where re-uniting, means starting off from where we left off with no "honeymoon" phase.
However, re-uniting shows that you both still care for each other, a... (read in full...)
I look too straight to be a lesbian!
Q. hi am new to this,well all of it really.basically i only realised i was a lesbian a few months ago after a while on my own, the problem is i have never been kissed by a woman mainly because i look to strait ok i mean i really do look strait i have ...
A. 6 September 2011: Well i dont think it matters how straight you look, its more about how gay you act.
I realise you have children, and its a tough to act full on. Maybe you just need to be a little more confident when you are at a gay bar, and just go for it, find... (read in full...)
My girlfriend left me and I don't know what to do?
Q. hi, please help me i'm sorry this is going to be long but please take the time to read this really need someones help... i have been with with my girlfriend for 4 and half years, she was 16 and i was 23 when we met. we have always been ther...
A. 6 September 2011: Thank you for making me read all of that =) (joking), dont worry, it is always helpful when people give all the information, it allows us to give properly informed answers.
It seems you both clearly care about each other, but at the moment y... (read in full...)
How can I accept that I have herpes?
Q. i need help with accepting i have herpes. Anyone know of a better way to think about it? besides having a dreadful permamnent disease?...
A. 6 September 2011: Hmm, well maybe i should post as an anon but i wont. I too have herpes, as does my girfriend. Its all my fault too. I have had cold sores since i was a kid, cold sores being a herpes simplex virus. Problem is, i gave her it from a cold sore, and... (read in full...)
I don't want to have the rep of a girl who makes out with a lot of guys but I'm moving so, I really want to make out with him!
Q. So there is this guy I like and he likes me. We have hung out a few times but then we both went away for the summer. He is back today and we are hanging out on friday the thing is he has been hinting about fooling around. I would love to make out ...
A. 31 August 2011: What the hell, you only live once so why not?
Plus you will be moving away so no need to worry about reprecussions.
However please think about the guy you will be making out with, he may lose his friend, and may be seen as an ass by others.
... (read in full...)
I would love to make my boyfriend happy but it's just so much effort and I get nothing out of it!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for two years and love him so much and still find him very attractive, but when it comes to sex i just cant be bothered.... When we first got together we were doing it all the time but its faded to only about once eve...
A. 31 August 2011: Well in my experience yes this is very normal. Me and my Gf have been together 6 years (in november) and we found that the same thing happened to her after the 2 year mark. Although difference is, she can still climax. It has put a lot of strai... (read in full...)
Is this cheating?
Q. I was talking online with a man and we were talking about sex. He described something that reminded me how my husband does things. My husband and I were fighting at the time and I hadn't got off for over a month. Is it cheating that I masterbated ...
A. 30 August 2011: If my girlfriend did that to me i wouldn't consider it cheating,i would however find it hurtful.
Try thinking about it if the shoe was on the other foot, by that i mean what if your husband had did it?
In my honest opinion and as a boyfriend i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's lifelong friend is a gorgeous stripper. How can I be less jealous?
Q. Hey there, I am in an interesting predicament. My bf and I have been together for 8 months, and we are very much in love. I am conflicted over his relationship with his life-long female friend. She is very attractive (and a stripper), and h...
A. 30 August 2011: Hmm, well i think you have 2 main options: 1* Talk to him, explain how you feel, but dont sound like you are making accusations. Let him know that you trust him and love him, but just need a little reassurance. He will either reassure you, or ... (read in full...)
Getting him to open up?
Q. So, last winter, a was a having bi-curious thoughts, and a boys told me he liked me. He asked me out, but after a little bit of flirting, I turned him down. Eight months later, I broke up with my gifriend and realized I liked him. He never stopped ...
A. 30 August 2011: I am not sure if i can give you a full fledged answer, but i can offer you a little to think about. Think about when you came out about being bi-curious, and how hard that was, he too is now in that exact situation. I understand it must be d... (read in full...)
She's been distant and defensive, and I'm starting to get a bit insecure
Q. My question is, "Are my insecurities making me a bad boyfriend at the moment?" A bit of information to help answer my question: *We are both 21 *been together 5 Years, 5 months and 3 weeks *We have a happy, and usually strong relationship *...
A. 10 May 2011: Thank you, i'll take that into consideration.
I hope that clingyness isn't the case. But i will ask her next week.
Anyone else got any views on this, any advice will help... (read in full...)
Dreaming of my girlfriend's sister!
Q. i've started having dreams about my girlfriends sister, and wanting her, what do i do, i cant get away from the sister because she lives with my girlfriend, help. ...
A. 1 February 2011: Looks like you may need an answer from a male reader.
tennisstar88 is right, (always is amazingly) but may have been a little blunt.
Its nothing to worry about as many people have this very same dream (men and women), I too have had dreams ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave her but I'm fed up of being treated like excrement!
Q. Ok, not quite sure where to start as i'm usually the one giving advice never asking. Key points: *My girlfriend is 20 (21 in a week), and i am 20. *We have been together for 4 years 10 months. *We had a very active sex life for the fir...
A. 12 September 2010: That sounds like a good idea tennisstar88, i will have to give it a try, at this point im willing to try anything.
Im aware women speak of sex, men do the same, but when we have barely a sex life what is there to talk about?
Thank blahblahb... (read in full...)
My GF claims that I don't love her as much as she loves me!
Q. just recently i am my girlfriend have been having problems. we meet in school and we are still schooling together. i love my girl friend but i got the feeling that she loves me more and she shows it more than do because i usually have more self ...
A. 12 September 2010: "My GF claims that I don't love her as much as she loves me!"
That is just one of those crazy things people say, i think i love my gf more, but she thinks otherwise, its just one of those things you have to put up with.
Try to bring the romanc... (read in full...)
Steps to having oral sex?
Q. i am a virgi nand don't want to lose it.But i plan to have oral sex with a girl...i want to make her feel special....can anybody please tell me the way or steps...actually i m a beginner....
A. 12 September 2010: There are many ways.
There are just a few things to remember first:
*Relax
*make sure she is relaxed
*Dont dive straight into it (sorry for the pun)
*start of with kisses and slowly work your way to it.
*Give her a massage if you fe... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a guy to remain in love without experiencing "what else is out there"?
Q. I have been dating the same guy for 18 months now and he is a great guy. Before this relationship I had been in several others (although not as long) and had been sexually active, but my boyfriend was a virgin when I started seeing him and I have ...
A. 12 September 2010: Im in the same situation as you except the roles are reversed, i am my girlfriends first real boyfriend, and i have had several girlfriends before her.
This isnt much of a problem, i had to teach her essentially what its like to be in a relation... (read in full...)
Are orgasms stronger from a big one?
Q. I've heard that women often experience more intense orgasms when they are with a guy who is very large. I've read about the T-spot, and how only a large penis can reach it, and it is proven to increase wetness and the intensity of orgasms when ...
A. 12 September 2010: Are you sure your not refering to the "G" spot?
If so its located a few inches in, so as long as your over 2 inches long you should be able to stimulate it (with certain positions)
Indeed some women enjoy the head of a penis hitting the cerv... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had to cut ties with a close family member?
Q. I have to cut all ties with my father. Basically, he is an emotional bully and because of him my whole life I have not had any confidence or self-esteem. Im 27 now and because of how he has made me feel, I am unable to deal with conflicts and ...
A. 12 September 2010: Ok, only a short answer as i dont have much experiences.
I have a had to cut ties with my younger brother (wont go into why, too much info), He took things too far, and i've had to cut him out my life, before i did i told him the truth, the blun... (read in full...)
Kids having sex!
Q. OK lately I see a lot of questions here where children from the age of 14-16,17 years think that they are old enough to have sex. They don't understand anything about it. They think that they are ready. There are even parents who agree with the idea ...
A. 12 September 2010: I agree with you to some extent.
(I had sex at 16 with my girlfriend of almost 5 years)
But i see so many young people who have had several sexual partners already, i dont think its solely the parents responsibility to guide children, but th... (read in full...)
Guys: How beautiful would a girl have to be for you to cheat with her?
Q. They say that a guy may not purposely go out to find someone to cheat with, but that if someone latches on to THEM, they would be willing to cheat. Guys, how beautiful would a girl have to be in order to get you to cheat on your significant other ...
A. 12 September 2010: No matter how beautiful another girl is i would never cheat on my girlfriend.
Looks are only half the battle for me, i would never risk my relationship for a good looking girl.
If i were to risk it and cheat, chances are the "good looking" g... (read in full...)
We got into a fight and now best friend doesn't want to be friends anymore
Q. Alright so I got into a fight with one of my best friends, and now he doesn't want to be friends anymore. The first time I tried saying sorry it was lame, I didn't really express my feelings. The didn't even look at me and when he finally said ...
A. 12 September 2010: Try and talk to him is the short and simple answer.
"apparently he's just mad at me because I can't seem to see how "awesome" I am"
Sounds like you may have a slightly low self esteem (no worries most people do), just reassure him that your gl... (read in full...)
I have feelings for him but he treats me like his big brother
Q. I'm bi-curios and I love this guy who just treats me as his Big Brother, He still doesn't know that I have this feeling for him, what do I do? Please I need help....
A. 12 September 2010: Hi, im also bi-curious so might be able to answer this question.
The best advice i can give is to talk to him, and see if he feels the same way, if your worried about this ruining your friendship then take a while to think about whether its wort... (read in full...)
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