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writes:They say that a guy may not purposely go out to find someone to cheat with, but that if someone latches on to THEM, they would be willing to cheat. Guys, how beautiful would a girl have to be in order to get you to cheat on your significant other with her? Let's say that you weren't looking for anything, but that SHE came up to YOU. How beautiful would she have to be? Describe her body, age, looks, etc. What would she have to say to you? Honesty please. Please don't say that no girl would be able to do it, unless that is true. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): Beautiful?
What is beauty?
A lot of women who are described by others as "hot" are not so very hot when you get to know them, and a lot of women who are not thought to be so hot are really firecrackers when you get to know them a little.
I've seen thousands upon thousands of women I could see as sexual partners if the conditions were right.
But the conditions have to be right.
That only applies to one person at this point over a lot of years.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (14 September 2010):
 I'm pretty damned cute and my ex cheated on my with a girl who had a beard. Actually, she had a goatee.
Rarely is infidelity purely about looks.
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reader, KittenPaws  +, writes (12 September 2010):
Actually, I had a guy approach me on my way home tonight, very drunk. He rambled on telling me how gorgeous I was and I said thank you very much and wished him a good night whilst stepping away. He carried on rambling 'If I was single, I'd take you home...'
Just goes to show- even in some drunken state of approaching people in the street- he still wasn't planning to misbehave!
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reader, Miamine +, writes (12 September 2010):
 Don't really think it's the beauty... guys cheat with ugly people as well.
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reader, jkirk +, writes (12 September 2010):
It depends, after to being married to a physically beautiful woman for 20 years it's hard to find someone to beat her looks even at 49 she looks like 35. The problem is she is not a very nice person (even got arrested several months ago for family violence, I know why am I still here comfort level I guess since she is okay 95% of the time). But here is the story at work I had to work with a woman who is the same age as my wife (married with 2 kids), I wasn't particularly attracted to her physically at first but as I got to know her better she has become more and more beautiful in my eyes. Now she sure as hell ain't ugly, at 49 she is 5'5" and 105lbs. I now look at her and just say DAMN. What happened to change my physical attraction to her? It's because I got to know the whole woman, are we having a sexual affair NO we are not. Are we having an emotional affair, I don't know. We keep it professional at work and don't see each other or call after work. But there is a connection between us. I suspect if we were both single we would be together, but since we are not single we just remain friends without benefits. :) Hope this helps.
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reader, Ashley0112358 +, writes (12 September 2010):
 No matter how beautiful another girl is i would never cheat on my girlfriend.
Looks are only half the battle for me, i would never risk my relationship for a good looking girl.
If i were to risk it and cheat, chances are the "good looking" girl will only have the looks, she could be the most boring person in the world, or could be hateful and mean. If this was the case i wouldn't want a relationship with her, therefore i would be left with nothing.
Its like if i was to ask you,
"Girls: How hot would a guy have to be for you to cheat with him?"
You would probably give the same reply.
Not to be offensive or nosey, but are you asking this question because you are worried someone you care about may be tempted to cheat?
If so, i just want you to know, that he is with you for a reason, whether its your looks, personality, brains etc and that most guys wouldnt want to loose the people they care about just for someone who is maybe better looking.
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reader, Beccccccy  +, writes (12 September 2010):
Not that beautiful ..Dont trust or believe Any guys , you would be horrified if you saw exactly who they would have sex with ..Guys like to spread their seed , they will bang " nearly " anything with a heartbeat ..NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY .Guys are programmed differently , they love a new ..... individual
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reader, young_and_foolish  +, writes (12 September 2010):
I find it funny how female posters are always so quick to blame the girl their other has cheated with as some kind of demonic seductress and less to blame their boyfriend/spouse and his wandering eye..
I find that a lot of time girls get preyed on. A lot of them, underaged... =\
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (12 September 2010):
 I think its not about looks as much as it is for the "other" girl to be in the right place at the right time.
A random girl showing a guy a lot of interest just after he's had a massive fight with his girlfriend would be a good example...
Some guys won't cheat ever... but they're never believed when they say this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): It's not about looks it's about availability and opportunity. I've never heard of any guy cheating with a girl because she was more attractive than his girlfriend. If she was then that was more of a bonus than the underlying reason.
Who's "they" because "they" are wrong of course there'll be guys that go out and look for women to cheat with. We live in a world were it's mostly us guys who have to make all the moves and approach women.
Cheating for us guys is always a choice and it's pre-meditated there are no accidents when it comes to guys cheating. We have to consciously perform and want it.
There's no such thing as a woman so irresistible that we just had to cheat with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010):
Hi
It should not matter what she say's to you...but what you say to her, that sets your course of future events good or bad. Your choice your life........:(
Spunky Monkey
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reader, Odds +, writes (11 September 2010):
 I believe in karma - what goes around, comes around. Cheating is not in my long-term interests.
While nature has certainly imbued guys with the drive to spread the seed far and wide, I like to think we are all capable of controlling ourselves. Sadly, I suspect only a large minority of guys even bother to do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Well, I cheated on my wife of 15 years. It was a huge mistake. I ruined my life over it.
So what was I thinking? What made me do it? Well, over a decade of disconnect, neglect and rejection from her. Frustration over differences in opinion, financial responsibility, career objectives, material wealth and a bunch of other crap. The woman I cheated on her with was sexier.. She was skiinier, athletic, tall, supermodel like and svelte. She was a vixen in bed and did everything I ever dreamt of...but it wasn't her looks. It was MY decision to move on from an unhappy marriage. A decision to find the open sexuality and love and passion that was missing. Did I find it?...absolutely. Did I throw away 20 years of friendship, trust and partnership?...absolutely. And I am suffering and so is my ex. But in the end, it was an issue of the heart, not the eyes. If a relationship is in trouble, we instinctively either leave it, or find something better. Better doesn't always mean more attractive. Societal norms frown on infidelity...especially in marriage. But in a contorted way, it makes things work out better for everyone. But I will NEVER do it again. That IS the lesson I learned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Looks don't affect my decision.
I don't cheat, period.
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reader, RIKI93dw +, writes (11 September 2010):
Though some guys do go looking for a women when they are in a relationship because they are unable to commit or as a result of argument with the girl they are already with but that's not the what you asked for so sometimes a guy can give from being constantly seduced by a girl who is looking for sex and such by getting him drunk etc. It does not always depend on looks or age sadly this can happen and when it does the wrong people get blamed sure you can say the guy should've been aware but things can go wrong, the guys only fault is probably that he should've told the girl to go away and be aware that someone was interested in him. But yh to answer the question it's not always the guys fault sometimes others are to blame.
I hope this helps
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 If a guy wants to cheat, he'll cheat with whatever comes along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Most of the friends that I have that have cheated have cheated with some of the plainest people. I am always suprised. I dont know if it is that plain people actually spend time listening and working to be a good companion...I honestly dont know...or if people around me are different than the people in other areas...mal
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