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writes:Alright so I got into a fight with one of my best friends, and now he doesn't want to be friends anymore. The first time I tried saying sorry it was lame, I didn't really express my feelings. The didn't even look at me and when he finally said something his words were cold. I got one of my friends to talk to him and apparently he's just mad at me because I can't seem to see how "awesome" I am. I've talked to most of my friends about it and most of them say to just "let go." But its not that easy for me, stubborn and I feel like there are things that need to be said, but no matter how much advice I get can't seem to express my feelings. I wish I knew how he felt, I knew we're never be more then friends (even though he kissed me) but I don't know what to do..What should I do, suck it up and talk to him or let go?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (9 October 2010):
 Just going to have to give him what he wants and hope he'll let bygones be bygones. Let him be, because the more you push, the more mad he is going to get and the more he is going to push you away. If you guys had that tight knit of a friendship then this will eventually pass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all of the people that have helped me. I finally wrote him a letter and we talked last night. Things are still pretty bad though. He got mad at me, and I said sorry about one hundred times. Then he said "its not you, i'm just done with everyone. Just leave me alone." one percent of me wants to leave him alone. About 30 percent of me wants to yell at him and say that he shouldn't give up on people and life so quickly. And then the rest of me just wants to help him so badly, and to tell him its going to be ok. I don't know what happened to him, and I don't know what to do....I wish just I could hold him in my arms just one time if I have to let him go......
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (12 September 2010):
My close best friend changed several times over the years, I moved different places, got into fights with some, and actually ended a 9 year friendship. Now my husband is my best friend, :) (and he's a stubborn one)
Anyway, I see that you guys got into a fight because he likes you and you don't feel the same way. This is why I never ever dated my guy friends, boyfriends in one category and guy friends in the other never ever mix the two. Good for you, my dear. It's just that he needs to understand that. So you rejected him, he's hurt and now it would be awkward to be friends again. Although it is possible, if you guys were that good of friends then he will apologize and work on being friends again. Now, one of your mistakes is getting your friends to talk to him for you, that's not going to resolve this situation. You have to try to talk to him, tell him you don't feel the same way and you're best friends so it's possible to overcome this feud. If not, then your just going to have to listen to us and your other friends and move on. You can't make someone be friends with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): OK tell him that he is one of your best friends and you don't want to loose that just over some stupid fight. Everyone makes mistakes and both of you will make a big mistake if you let this come between your friendship. Don't let something wonderful turn into a disaster :)
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reader, Ashley0112358  +, writes (12 September 2010):
 Try and talk to him is the short and simple answer.
"apparently he's just mad at me because I can't seem to see how "awesome" I am"
Sounds like you may have a slightly low self esteem (no worries most people do), just reassure him that your glad he thinks your "awesome" and try to speak to him, dont worry about getting your feelings out just yet, take it one step at a time,
apology first
feelings second
just sit him down in private, and let him know how you feel about your friendship, it is obviously valuable to you otherwise you wouldnt of posted here, I would not suggest letting go as you will likely regret it later on, and you will have both lost a friend.
Good luck =)
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reader, LiveAnnLearn  +, writes (12 September 2010):
 Apparently this friendship means a lot to you so I'd advise you not to give it up that easily. You did talk to him once and got a negative response but I'm sure he knew your friend will tell you what he said when he told them you're awesome (he wasn't sarcastic was he) - go for it, but this time prepare a speech, not literally but make sure that you do express your feelings and let him know you'd like you two to stay in touch. Good luck:)
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