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Is it a sign of weakness that I cannot hold my cum long enough?
Q. when i watch a video or talk about sex my penis gets hard and i experience precum...why is that? is it the sign of weakness? how can i avoid it? i cannot hold my cum log enough, how do i last long?...
A. 3 September 2009: well its perfectly normal..
altho im not a guy i know a old trick alot of guys use.
during intercourse try thinking of something un realated too sex when you get close to enjeculeting.
or masturbate before you have sex,that way you will last lo... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is very close with her ex's but wont let me meet them! Should this be a warning sign?
Q. My girlfriend of 7 months is very close with her ex husband and ex boyfriend even though they both left her, she considers them "good friends". She keeps her relationship with the both of them very seperate from our relationship and is insistant on ...
A. 3 September 2009: well, if she doesnt understand why you are not ok with this then she has to understand that you are not going to trust her and then the realtionship wont work,
she maybe is being perfectly honest but there's a very good reason for you too be upse... (read in full...)
I really like him so why do I blow hot and cold with him?
Q. I'm not sure what I am doing, I keep blowing hot and cold with this guy who I really like. We have known each other for a few years, never dated but we used to work together, we have kissed a few times, he wanted more but I said not at work but ...
A. 3 September 2009: you should say, exactly how you feel! no doubt that he will understand and that should give you a little bit more confidence. as long as you are having safe sex and you are both comfterable with each other and the situation. things should be fine! ... (read in full...)
Can a person change after cheating/hurting you?
Q. Hey, Last month I organized a home party for my birthday, to which my girlfriend was invited as well (obviously). The thing is, she had way too much drinks, after which she did some things with another guy I didn't like at all. In my own house. Un...
A. 3 September 2009: im sorry, but im my experience once a cheater always a cheater ESPECIALLY if its happend more than once!
sorry that thats problery not want you want to hear
xxx... (read in full...)
No affection, no sex and yet husband says he loves me and doesn't want a divorce
Q. If my husband works all the time like 7 days a week, and long hours. And he became impotent years ago. He does not do anything with me. Nothing around the house, like chores. He seats all day in his office and works.The children are grown , but ...
A. 3 September 2009: well im afraid it seems as though he's gone through some changes. he says he wants to be with you and he seems a little distant. maybe he could be worrying about something? or he could be depressed.
you cant do much more than talk to him.
he ma... (read in full...)
Why won't he let me perform oral sex on him?
Q. hi, i am a 21 year old girl, and my boyfriend is 26 we've been dating a lot, and are active with our sexual life. we had practically every type of sexual relations, even foot fetish and everything, but what bothers me, why wont he let me give ...
A. 3 September 2009: remembe every person has different sexual activties that they do and dont lke. obviously your man does not enjoy oral sex. or maybe he sees it as something that a couple do when they are just having fun and there is no relationship.
alot of wome... (read in full...)
40 day long period
Q. I am 14 years old, i got my period when i was 12 and i have had my period for 40 days straight as of today. I was on the pill but after 20 days of having my period i stopped, i dont know why i am bleeding like this, but i'm extremely worried and i ...
A. 3 September 2009: sexualy active means having sex!
xx... (read in full...)
How do I tell her that I need her?
Q. How do I tell my girlfriend that I need her. I've told her lots of personal stuff, but I've never told her that I need her and I know I do so how do I tell her. I want to just so everything is in the open....
A. 3 September 2009: ok. if you can tell her everything else then you shouldnt have too much of a problem telling her you need her although you may have to elaborate as to why you need her!
but she should be happy that you can talk to her about everything. you obvi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend begged me to end things because he has feelings for someone else, but now he wants to give things another go!
Q. my boyfriend and I have been together for 14months.we've had our ups and downs like every couple but we both love each other.however he has meet this girl through a friend a couple of times and has admitted that he has started to like her.yesterday ...
A. 3 September 2009: if you really want to give it another go, then give him another chance. but its unlikely your going to trust him and that will lead to a break up anyway! so you have a choice.
do you really think things could work?
or do you think it would save the... (read in full...)
How do I get my girlfriend to trust me? And how do I know if she loves me?
Q. hello people.well im 15 years old.n heres my question how can u get ur gf 2 trust u...well i mess up on her n the firest 2 months i kiss another girl..it took me i say 2 months 2 tell her.but it was the time i statred realizing how much im n love ...
A. 3 September 2009: you shouldnt have kissed another girl. but you realise that, and so you can understand why she doesnt trust you.
the trust needs to be re built or this wont work.
hopefully time will re build that trust!
try talking to her again and tell her how... (read in full...)
I'm enjoying the attention, but I know I have to choose one or the other
Q. im seeing two guy's, im sleeping with one jim* who does not want anything serious just casual but we rarely go out together, this old flame came back into town 6 wks ago he has been wineing and dinning me cinema i lost my phone he bought me a new ...
A. 3 September 2009: ok firstly,
this is selfish of you to string them along.
second
why would you want to be with a womanizer?
think about it
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Afraid of my 1st sexual experience because I don't love him!
Q. a women : hello. i will get married in 18 septembre 2009 and my question is how i well have sex with my hasben and i dont love him i am soo fried that i well refus him because i don t feel conftrouble when ...
A. 3 September 2009: sweetie, why are you going to marry a man who you dont love?
i understand thats its proberly a arranged marriage, but there are many charitys that are set up to help people who are not happy with this.
i strongly adivse you not to marry him!
co... (read in full...)
Its so pathetic that I seek an invisible lover online!
Q. I met this foreign guy on Internet and we've been chatted online on and off for about 1 year.At first,he wrote me for asking a language partner and we just talked about life after that.I think we both know quite a lot about each other because ...
A. 3 September 2009: your not pathetic. many people use the internet too try and find a partnet!
but i must express the dangers of meeting people off the internet. and the fact that its in a another conutry.!
if you are very sure that you want too meet this guy then... (read in full...)
Its so pathetic that I seek an invisible lover online!
Q. I met this foreign guy on Internet and we've been chatted online on and off for about 1 year.At first,he wrote me for asking a language partner and we just talked about life after that.I think we both know quite a lot about each other because ...
A. 3 September 2009: your not pathetic. many people use the internet too try and find a partnet!
but i must express the dangers of meeting people off the internet. and the fact that its in a another conutry.!
if you are very sure that you want too meet this guy then... (read in full...)
Why do I want sex so much?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months, and our relationship was great up until recently. I've become atached to her, I want her to be around all the time, and I'm always wanting sex. I can't seem to look at her and not think about sex. Its ...
A. 3 September 2009: this is due to your hormones.
at your age its very very common. eventually these feeling should become a little less frequent. although be careful not to pressurise your girlfriend into sex as that may infact ruin your relationship!
try to take you... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he made me his girlfriend?
Q. ive been talking to this guy for about a year now. we arent officially together but the topic of being in a relationship has come up once or twice. me and him have been through a lot....i really like him, i may even love him. hes told me that he ...
A. 3 September 2009: he may just be shy or may just not be ready for a relationship.
another reason could be that he's worried how it would affect your friendship!
just tell him how you feel.
and see where it goes from there
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How do I tell my mom about the older man?
Q. im 18 years old, and i hve been talkin to this guy for a yr now. hes 31 years old . i really like him, moree then anyone knows and i dnt want to keep hiding things from my mom. we have such a close relationahip but i want to be more open with her. ...
A. 3 September 2009: honey, your 18 year old. there is nothing to stop you from seeing this man. but your mum is going to be a little bit protective as it is a large age gap!
but if your honest she might come around! but dont expect her to be completley happy! what... (read in full...)
40 day long period
Q. I am 14 years old, i got my period when i was 12 and i have had my period for 40 days straight as of today. I was on the pill but after 20 days of having my period i stopped, i dont know why i am bleeding like this, but i'm extremely worried and i ...
A. 3 September 2009: i had this myself.
if you go the docter they will give you some tablets that will stop the bleeding and they will advise you too stop taking the pill and will provide you with another contreceptive if you want one,
i hope the reason your on the p... (read in full...)
I love her and she doesn't want anyone to know about us
Q. hi just wondering what to do i love this girl very much but she doesnt want annyone to know about us only a few people know about us every time i go to school and sit around her its like hiting a brick wall in our relationship she tells me s...
A. 3 September 2009: i think its very unlikely that this relationship is going to work. clearly there's little trust and she's being selfish when you voice your opinion!
try talking to her once more and then ask your self why people cant know about you? there must be a... (read in full...)
Why risk the chance of pregnancy?
Q. If man know when their are cumming, why is it that their still will cum inside? (Especially when they are avioding getting her pergnant)....
A. 3 September 2009: well honey, men dont panic so much as women about these sorts of the things, well the majority of them anyway! as its not them that carries the baby and makes the choices.
if you dont want to get pregnant then use a contrceptive! you should stil... (read in full...)
After his dad died our relationship totally changed and now we have broken up, but I still hope we will get back together!
Q. Hi,i was going out with my boyfriend for almost a yr and a half when his dad died. this changed everything from the way he looked at life and from the way he acted towards us. he is the nicest person in the world and already in our relationship we ...
A. 2 September 2009: grief can affect people in different ways and he may come around. but right now he's proberly very upset and finding it hard to come to terms with losing his father. you need to be paitent and give him some space to sort his feelings out
xx... (read in full...)
I'm dating an overly flirtatous man, what should I do?
Q. I am in a relationship with a man who constantly is flirting with other women. He has several female friends although I don't think they like him in the physical sense. He thinks that if he keeps it all on the table then there is nothing wrong...
A. 2 September 2009: dont put up with it if you feel like that make it perfectly clear that he has a choice. stop the flirting or dont be with you. simple. its not obviously upsettings you. and you have made your feelings clear if he cant stop his behaviour then he ... (read in full...)
So my FWB wants me to get pregnant. I'm not interested in having kids. What is going on here?
Q. I've been in a friend with benefits "situation" with a guy for 2 years now, and so far everything has been good. Last month he said he wanted me to stop taking my birth control so I can get pregnant. I don't know what 2 think. Is he seriously ...
A. 2 September 2009: surely saying that as a test would be stupidly childish. you haev made your feelings perfectly clear and your obviously doing what you want. tell this guy straight, you two are not even in a relationship so how can he expect you to have a child? i ... (read in full...)
Married almost 25 years, are we falling APART or is he????
Q. Hello, My husband and I have been married for almost 25 years. We have 5 children. Our oldest past away when he was 6, we have a daughter 21, son 11, daughter 8, and son 6. I am just really confused here. I work, one year ago he changed jobs so ...
A. 2 September 2009: i hate to say it but everyone and i mean everyone changes. sometimes for the better sometimes for the worse. its unlikley hes going to change back to the way he is unless he wants to. sit down with him and explain how your feeling without getting ... (read in full...)
Is he too far gone to save this relationship?
Q. So my boyfriend who I have been dating for 4 years and I seem to be falling apart. He wants to have and open relationship and I am just not up for that. He said a while back that he would attend coucling with me. So I finally looked into it and set ...
A. 2 September 2009: ok. why the hell are you still with this guy? he's disrespecting you! has no regards to your feelings! and is being incrediably selfish! its obviously your descion but being with this man is not going to make you happy!
leave him!
i know this is ... (read in full...)
How to get through to financially irresponsible fiance?
Q. I love my "fiance" to death, but since we have been living together, and especially now that I have a ring on my finger, I have been taking our problems more seriously. Here's my thing.. my parents raised me to be responsible. I always keep on t...
A. 2 September 2009: this problem made me smile. you sound very grown up and responsiable. but like you pointed out.. you were brought up like this where as he was not.
when he will grow up no one can answer, he will when he is ready infact he may not at all. but ther... (read in full...)
After a break up, aren't we supposed to learn from our mistakes? I'm not! What's wrong with me?
Q. Hey im 17 and am very counfused apparently that after a break up we learn from our mistakes, but I think I haven't or have I? Everytime im with a decent guy I know that treats me right I get scared within the 1st month and start to feel traped a...
A. 2 September 2009: nothing sweetie! that is complety normal after being hurt in the past. of course you are going to find it hard to trust, but i can assure you that you will do at somepoint. just try to relax.
and if this guy likes you enugh he will understand, your... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my boyfriend will meet up with his ex girlfriend when he flies over to his home country! Help!
Q. me and my boyfriend we been together for 6 months and we are madly in love. we both have different culture and religion. but we both understand each other well. soon his going back to his country to see his family and im worried if we meets up with ...
A. 2 September 2009: you love this man and you have no doubts that he loves you. you have no reason to be paranoid. i can understand why you feel this way, but by the sounds of it there really is no reason too honey x... (read in full...)
Boyfriend hiding something?
Q. Hi Everyone, Last night my instincts got the better of me and i decided to look through my mans phone. Well at first it was just interest in the photos he has. But there was a hidden file there that caught my eye. "Temp Cache" which is also on...
A. 2 September 2009: firstly. if you dont trust this man then then its not going to work. you need to tell him that your worried, and hopefully he will prove too you that hes not cheating but i personally have been in the same postion and it didnt work out the way i ... (read in full...)
Am I misinterpreting his actions? I'm avoiding him at work now!
Q. Hi I am a gay 18 year old male, closet guy and I have had a part time job for about a year, And new guy started and at about 3-4 months ago at first I hated him and now think I fancy him, I have spoken to him a lot and we have so much in common w...
A. 2 September 2009: there is nothing wrong with you honey, but you need to realise that this man is off limits, he has a girlfriend. even if he is gay it wouldnt be a good idea to get involved with him untill he has split up with his girlfriend.
your best bet is to a... (read in full...)
Ex showed up at my work out of nowhere...why?
Q. Well I just have a question really...why would an ex who you havent seen in a long time just show up to your job out of nowhere? So here's the story in a nutshell...I work in a convience store/ gas station and my ex came in to buy beer and gas, ...
A. 2 September 2009: honey, this could mean either, he may have wanted to see you or he may have simply just stopped in.
it sounds to me like he wanted to see you as he did say he thought he would stop in. but i wouldnt read to much into as it might not mean anyt... (read in full...)
Been with my gf for a year but we only have sex once every two weeks!
Q. i've been with my girlfriend for a year now and everything is going great apart from one thing, we hardly ever have sex im a 19 yr old man and feel i should be haveing sex more than once a fortnight, ive tried talking to her plenty of times but she ...
A. 2 September 2009: listen, you'v tried talking to her but it has not worked? then maybe she just does not have a sex drive as high as yours. its perfectly normal.
you can not pressure her into sex as that will proberly drive her away. you need to try talking agai... (read in full...)
How do I move on from an LDR who I thought was Mr right..?
Q. How do u move on from a long term relationship after you break up with the one who you felt was mr right. Obviously i get the point that if he was mr right then we would still be together but some things are 1 sided. I might not be mrs right for him ...
A. 2 September 2009: hun, its going to hurt. Of course it is. But you will move on and like you already said, if it was meant to be then you would not have broken up. the best cure for a broken heart is having fun with friends. you need to stop wondering what might have ... (read in full...)
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