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writes:I've been in a friend with benefits "situation" with a guy for 2 years now, and so far everything has been good. Last month he said he wanted me to stop taking my birth control so I can get pregnant. I don't know what 2 think. Is he seriously saying this, or is it a test to see if I will do it? Its kinda strange to me that he'd suggest that because I told him before that im not interested in having kids, and he said he wasn't either(he already has 4.)I don't know what to make of this. I know that there's no way im gonna stop taking it, but I would like to know how I should handle him. If he's serious about this, I don't wanna put my self in a situation to where I don't know what he'll do to get what he wants.He says he was serious, but part of me doesn't believe he is. He had very good reason to not want to have another child, and I think he still feels that way. I guess its obvious im clueless lol.Can someone please help me. What do you all think?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 September 2009):
 That is just odd. To be really frank, I suggest you dump him and find another FWB ( if you don't want a relationship), I think he is one of those guys who thinks the more women he knocks up the more of a man he is.
Seriously, I would cut ties.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (2 September 2009):
 I think he's an irresponsible man, and you shouldn't trust him to stay with you if you became pregnant.If you give in, YOU will be pregnant. You won't be able to run away from the responsibility, but he will.I wouldn't count on his staying with you and helping you if you became pregnant.I don't think that the possibility of a pregnancy is something to use as a "test".Don't do it. Keep using contraception. Or, better yet, leave the man. I don't think he's reliable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): In Uk we usually call them FB's or F***k buddies.Common sense should tell you that you dont bring kids into the world with your F buddy. Maybe he doesnt know thats all he is.
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reader, AlexCM  +, writes (2 September 2009):
surely saying that as a test would be stupidly childish. you haev made your feelings perfectly clear and your obviously doing what you want. tell this guy straight, you two are not even in a relationship so how can he expect you to have a child? i think you are doing the right thing. stick to your guns and do not give in! do what you want, afterall its your body and you would be the one with the baby anyway! ignore what he says. if he doesnt like it then tell him to get lost!good luckxx
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reader, applebite8821 +, writes (2 September 2009):
 Regardless if he is serious or not, do what you like and that is to not get pregnant. Stick with the pills and don't ever miss it. He cannot do anything anyway.
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