A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi, i am a 21 year old girl, and my boyfriend is 26we've been dating a lot, and are active with our sexual life. we had practically every type of sexual relations, even foot fetish and everything, but what bothers me, why wont he let me give him a blowjob?!?!i was a virgin before him, and when i ask him why not he says "i love u and i dont wanna see dicks in ur mouth, not even mine"i dont get it, can someone help or atleast explain?! plz and many thanks
View related questions:
blow-job, oral sex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, mediocreland +, writes (3 September 2009):
I think everyone else is right. He just wants to respect you.
Also, he could be insecure about himself. I know thats why a lot of girls (including myself) don't like receiving oral. Maybe he thinks you'll be offended by the way he tastes or smells, and if you don't like it, you won't want to have any sexual relations with him at all.
But it sounds more to me that he wants to respect you and in his mind oral is demeaning. Just give him time, and remind him now and then that it doesn't have to be some dirty act that only overacting pornstars to.
A
male
reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (3 September 2009):
 I hate to post "me too", there are some great answers here. I just want to add that I had a friend/acquaintance who didn't buy fancy lingerie for his wife because they both felt it was demeaning. It was good that the agreed on it.
I do think that you do deserve the opportunity to thoroughly explore his genitalia. If you haven't had the chance to do that. Just tell him you want to. And, remember in love we do not use force, or nagging or whining. Respect any boundaries he gives you, and have fun.
FA
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): One reason is because pornography always shows girls taking the facial cum shot and slurping up the load. It is a dirty act to many people, even some guys.A more likely reason is maybe he doesn't like blow jobs. I have had a lot of blow jobs from many different girls and none of them have been any good. Girls think that all they need to do is put it in their mouth and move up and down. Many girls didn't know their teeth were hurting my penis, they couldn't deep throat it because of gag reflexes, they didn't understand that the head has most of the sensitivity so they run their lips up and down the shaft, and they didn't understand the importance of ball rubbing. I would rather have a hand job than a blow job any day.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): Me and a couple of my friends had a conversation about whether we would let our girlfriends go down on us. On of them side wouldn't let someone he plans to be with on a long term do it because she deserves more.
Q) "Why won't he let me perform oral sex on him?"
A) Because he respects you.
...............................
A
female
reader, califnan +, writes (3 September 2009):
 He is telling you the truth .. He is So in love with you that he does not wish to perform the demeaning act of putting his genitals in your mouth .. I don't honestly feel that this is what God had in mind for love-making.. Obviously this man loves you so much, that he does not need this to become aroused by you ... Sounds like a "keeper" to me ..
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): I can only guess that he thinks it's demeaning, and that he thinks too highly of you to have you do anything demeaning. And it's true, some men do use it that way. You never know what people will get in their heads about sex. Sounds like everything else is great, and at least you'll never have to ponder the great spit/swallow question. :)
...............................
A
female
reader, AlexCM  +, writes (3 September 2009):
remembe every person has different sexual activties that they do and dont lke. obviously your man does not enjoy oral sex. or maybe he sees it as something that a couple do when they are just having fun and there is no relationship.
alot of women would be happy for there man not to want oral sex as it is a very popular favourite sexual activity.
ask him if there is a way he can explain a little bit more as to why he doesnt want to recieve oral sex,
its nothing to worry about honey
xx
...............................
|
