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*onderBite
writes:Hey im 17 and am very counfused apparently that after a break up we learn from our mistakes, but I think I haven't or have I?Everytime im with a decent guy I know that treats me right I get scared within the 1st month and start to feel traped and hit the eject button. I don't understand why I do it!!!! Its like if they don't contiune for awhile while my defences are up as soon as they come down they are gone and to late to get them back. I've met a nice guy and I told him that my gaurd fly back up when I get scared when I think I can acuautly fall inlove but im worried it will go 2 high up and lose another decent guy Please help what is wrong with me!!!
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reader, WonderBite +, writes (3 September 2009):
WonderBite is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks =) I don't feel so bad
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): It's hard to learn from mistakes after a breakup, but the hardest part is actually identifying the mistake you made and you've done that!! At the moment, like you, I feel trapped as soon as a guy seems to want a commitment. The thing is, not every decent guy out there will make a good partner for you. Some friends of mine have also been through this feeling trapped stage and when a certain guy comes along, it feels right and they don't experience that panicy feeling anymore. The guy you're seeing now could be it for you, so just stay aware of your problem, do your best to keep calm and take things as they come :)
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reader, AlexCM  +, writes (2 September 2009):
nothing sweetie! that is complety normal after being hurt in the past. of course you are going to find it hard to trust, but i can assure you that you will do at somepoint. just try to relax.
and if this guy likes you enugh he will understand, your still young and it does just take time, iv had the same experience infact most people have. it will get easier to trust again. just give it time.
good luck sweets
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