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writes:Hi,i was going out with my boyfriend for almost a yr and a half when his dad died. this changed everything from the way he looked at life and from the way he acted towards us. he is the nicest person in the world and already in our relationship we had come across alot of problems from outside the relationship but we seemed to come through smiling. we were very happy and were best friends. after his dad died all of a sudden he didnt know if he wanted a relationship so we were on and off for a few months. we started fighting for nothing and be both didnt want that. he was still a great person in my life and was still loving and dependeble but he felt he was tying me down(as he is 5 years older and has a child) because sometimes i made him feel like this. 2 weeks ago we agreed to end all contact as i was findin it to hard to be his friend because i still felt like i had a boyfriend. while we were broken up he nevr met anyone else incase that hurt me but on the other hand he didnt want me so i was confused. 2 weeks has gone by and i miss him and i just hope we will get back together.
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reader, AlexCM  +, writes (2 September 2009):
grief can affect people in different ways and he may come around. but right now he's proberly very upset and finding it hard to come to terms with losing his father. you need to be paitent and give him some space to sort his feelings out
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reader, kahlan +, writes (2 September 2009):
 He will be hurting, and maybe just cant cope with a relationship right now.He sounds depressed.You always take it out on those closest to you,so thats probably why you started fighting with each other.If he hasnt been seeing anyone else then its more than likely not you.Is his having a child something you can cope with?If so tell him that.If it is because he is depressed,all you can do is give him time.Tell him you still love him and will be there if he changes his mind,but dont get yourself hurt in the process.If he is insistant he doesnt want a relationship,then walk away.Dont get yourself more hurt in the process.
Good Luck and Lots of Love.Kahlan.XXX.
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