I don't want him to be offended but I don't like to "swallow". Can I spit it out in the toilet?
Q. Okay here's my problem. I love giving my boyfriend head because i know he enjoys it so much. But, I can't stand the taste of come. With my ex boyfriend, he told me when he was going to come and I just switched and used my hand. But my boyfrie...
A. 12 April 2008: You need not worry about what you "can" or cannot do. Hopefully you're an adult, you're in charge of your own boundaries. Take some of the advice given...I doubt someone would be too disturbed about the way that you deal with the aftermath, while ... (read in full...)
He said that 'Vizen' eye-drops would cure it and I would not get pregnant?
Q. Well the other day me and my boyfriend had sex and he was drunk, so when he ask me where i wanted him to cum, i told him my stomach, but he ask me if he could inside of me, and i said that i wasn't ready for a baby just yet. He agreed with me but i ...
A. 12 April 2008: We all wasted our time answering you at all. First, you are NOT the age you say. You don't want to hear what grown people are telling you. So why did you ask? Stop letting that equally ignorant boy down your pants, at least until you have sense ... (read in full...)
My husband is impotent, will my marriage survive? Please help.
Q. My husband is impotent and feels it's ruining our marriage, we are sleeping separate 'cos of his disabillity. My question is that i've tried so hard to try different things, but he doesn't seem interested. I feel useless. Can marriage survive with...
A. 12 April 2008: Get him to get checked. Viagra, anyone. It's not a difficult problem to solve if it's due to natural aging. That's why that drug created such a sensation; It works!!!... (read in full...)
My mother the tart! She's lied to my face and has a new sexy image- this has to be an affair!
Q. I think my mother is having an affair, I found txts and stuff on her phone and its awful and devestating to think of it. I love my parents and am very close to my dad so its killing me. I tried to confront her but she just yelled and then lied to my ...
A. 10 April 2008: Why on EARTH are you making it your personal quest to "out" your mom's affair (if it's true). Your dad is an adult, you can't PROTECT your dad from his own marriage problems. Look, you are in a very tumultuous time in your own life & believe it or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend "closes up" to serious questions, so how do I get him to open up?
Q. Hi there. i have a problem communicating with my boyfriend. he closes up every time i ask emotional or serious questions. when i ask him why, he just says "cause"! we've talked about marriage, but he says he will talk to me when we are married. so ...
A. 10 April 2008: Nothing AT ALL will change solely because you get married. Except of course that it will be very difficult to unwind yourself from this uncommunicative person. If you aren't fulfilled before the marriage, you damn sure won't be once you're stuck.... (read in full...)
Can you love someone if you've cheated on them?
Q. Can you love someone if you've cheated on them??? Will the relationship work out??? Well see I cheated on my newest boyfriend with my ex-boyfriend.I'm in love with my ex but i love my boyfriend.He's the best thing boyfriend I've had in like ...
A. 10 April 2008: Just date who you want & stop agreeing to see people exclusively. Noone owns you- you have the right to see who you want, but decency requires that you be upfront about it though & not pretend like you're exclusive. Also, you're such a young ... (read in full...)
I'm crazy in love and want him back!
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently had my boyfriend break up with me, but I know it was for the better. He explained to me that we entered this relationship at the wrong time. We know we love each other and he said that even if we didnt get back together he...
A. 10 April 2008: I agree with happytochat. You need to spend time focusing on starting out on your own. This is supposed to be an exciting time for you- life is open wide for you to come & explore, as an adult. As an adult, it's important to know that people have ... (read in full...)
Anal sex hurts her.. also she wont let me give oral... HELP?!?!?!
Q. Hey guys, I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now, we have a good sex life, recently we have been trying to have anal sex, but it hurts her too much. How can i make it comfortable for her?? And another question.. she has only let me give...
A. 10 April 2008: What!? Quit "trying to have anal sex", jeez. You're a kid & regular sex just isn't cutting it for you? Man, lay off of her. It just hurts some people, & others who it doesn't hurt- just might not like it. Just because you've seen it on the ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that it is too late to repair our relationship.
Q. i have a boyfriend who i'm totally inlove with. my actions have not been of the best, i guess because of fear of losing him. i intentionally piss him off when i drink. i have recently decided that alcohol isn't for me and quit. i'm afraid that ...
A. 10 April 2008: I was going to write---well, how recently did you give up the hooch? How bad was your behavior & did he already take definitive steps to dump you? But then I saw q1605's comment -- I'm officially being a cynical turd. His advice is beautifully ... (read in full...)
I've just lost all the trust I worked so hard to get back...and now I feel we're back on square one. Help!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now (with a break in the middle). At the beginning of our relationship, things were very difficult, and basically he treated me badly and alot of people involved themselves and made things very hard. So ...
A. 10 April 2008: If you are as young as you are, why are you wasting any of your precious time on someone who EVER treated you badly. Dump him & move on. Life is short, yours is just beginning, but each day you spend with someone who doesn't deserve you is one ... (read in full...)
What is rainbow kissing? Should I try it?
Q. I might sound really stupid asking this but what does rainbow kissing mean? My current boyfriend is pretty kinky and like trying everything out. I was a virgin when we got together so he's taught me everything i know. He asked me at the weekend ...
A. 10 April 2008: Eccccckkkk! I have to ask- how does a kid get that freaky at such a young age. I cringe easily, but whew. There are SO MANY delicious, fun things to do in the sack. Try some more (protected) practice with the basics before swapping all those ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher that I love him?
Q. i dont know if i love my teacher, its probably just a crush but i cant stop thinking about him. i think he knows by now i like him, because i sent him an email and said i think you're amazing and the best teacher i've ever had, and then yesterday he ...
A. 10 April 2008: Absolutely not. Do you want him to say "I love you too" & enter into a relationship with you that would most certainly end with him in JAIL. It's not a joke. If you do love him, leave him alone & write about him in a journal or something, make ... (read in full...)
He said that 'Vizen' eye-drops would cure it and I would not get pregnant?
Q. Well the other day me and my boyfriend had sex and he was drunk, so when he ask me where i wanted him to cum, i told him my stomach, but he ask me if he could inside of me, and i said that i wasn't ready for a baby just yet. He agreed with me but i ...
A. 10 April 2008: Surely this is a joke. If you're on the internet, you have access to enough information to know that a) you have more to worry about than the major concern of pregnancy---AIDs sound familiar? b) Visine? wow... c) if you didn't want him to come ... (read in full...)
She seriously was my image of the perfect girl and I will never get to know what could have been.
Q. Well guys im pretty much screwed. I like this girl but she has a boyfriend. I really know i should move on but it is so freaking hard. I can't stop thinking about her. I have never connected with anyone as well as her. We are good friends and...
A. 10 April 2008: Wow, good thing you didn't get together. There is nowhere to go from being thought of as perfect, except DOWN. Long way to fall. Ouch. She would be disappointing you for merely committing the crime of being human. You said it---she's your ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of waiting for him. I want to give up on him and find some one else!
Q. Hi. I have been talkn to this guy for 5 years know. We started off as good friends. In the beginning, about 3 years ago, he had a friend but she stayed out of town. Now its been like 1 year since he ''broke it off'' now this year which makes 5, he ...
A. 10 April 2008: You already said it. You want to give up on him and find someone else. Do that. He's been stringing you along. He's probably very fond of you or having you coming after him strokes his ego. You can find something better than 5 years of chasing ... (read in full...)
Why does she hang out with married men? I trust my hubby so am I wrong to be concerned?
Q. I need some advice. I am 31 yrs old, my hubby is 35. We have a one year old daughter and we have lived out of state from our family for approx 2 years. I am a stay at home Mom, and my hubby works outside the home. He has made a lot of friendships at ...
A. 10 April 2008: This is a reality check for Jamer: in my experience the opposite has been true. Married men are WAY more flirty & appear find women other than their spouse WAY more desirable than they would if all were single. The Forbidden Fruit thing. However, ... (read in full...)
My mom is having an extramarital affair!! Should my brother and I confront her?
Q. My brother and I found out my mom is having an affair with a married co-worker.Not to mention, my dad works in the same company as my mom. She secretly has a cell phone and we found love notes in her email. My dad has noticed my mom very ...
A. 10 April 2008: If you've already confronted her, why are you asking if you should do it again? You and your brother are adults, as is your dad. This is between them. You can't fix this for them. To demonize your mom is naive and immature; to try to be the hero ... (read in full...)
The 17 yr old daughter of one of my friends is coming on to me quite strong..it's tempting but I need advce...please!
Q. Hey, I'm having real trouble getting my head around this one. I'm a 45 year old divorcee with 2 children of 22 and 19. They both live with me after my wife ran off with another man. I'm lucky that I have a close circle of friends around me with m...
A. 10 April 2008: Close your eyes...pretend (like you've already been doing) that you're writhing around with this girl...& both of your children walk in...now pretend that your trusting friends, her parents, also walk in. That really ought to do it. While I'm all ... (read in full...)
Why does she hang out with married men? I trust my hubby so am I wrong to be concerned?
Q. I need some advice. I am 31 yrs old, my hubby is 35. We have a one year old daughter and we have lived out of state from our family for approx 2 years. I am a stay at home Mom, and my hubby works outside the home. He has made a lot of friendships at ...
A. 9 April 2008: You're not wrong, but not being reasonable about some free time with his coworkers will not help you. If you're not worried about his faithfulness, don't worry. By the way, they could have an affair in the copy room just as easy. Most ... (read in full...)
I have a problem with him ending sex with masturbation! Does this stem from watching too much porn?
Q. Lately, whenever we have sex, he cums a little and then says he is close to a "big one" and to play with him (i.e. jack him off, lick him, etc) until he's close and then he'll either cum inside of me or just cum. He seems to be in the mind set that ...
A. 9 April 2008: Alot could be related to the frequency of his private computer sessions. Just like women using a vibrator all the time, you become less sensitive & harder to get off. Do you consider fellatio to be masturbation? Are you frustrated because he ... (read in full...)
We are "friends with benefits". But...could he have feelings for me? I really don't want a relationship right now though...
Q. So this one is crazy. I have know this guy since i was in middle school. Had a crush on him then. I was the "ugly duckling and unpopular" girl so it never worked. I grew up and started hanging with him back in 2000. We have been friends ever since ...
A. 9 April 2008: Sound like you're headed on into it. Why is there a choice to make if he has feelings for you, but no choice to make if he doesn't? I don't get it. Do you mean that you would have to be exclusive if he does care for you? No you don't. That's in ... (read in full...)
My insecurities are interfering with the relationship: I keep focusing on what could happen instead of what actually happens!
Q. I feel like I'm ruining my relationship. I'm constantly craving outward signs of affection, loving gestures and reasurrance... Even though my boyfriend gives me these things (even when they're subtle) a week, a day or some time after I'll feel the ...
A. 9 April 2008: Trust your instincts, sounds like you are your own worst enemy. Or you have a cold fish boyfriend. Maybe a bit of both. Face it, you won't -all of a sudden- stop needing reassurance & love...but begging for it or obsessing definitely won't help ... (read in full...)
Follow my head or my heart? He's a loner who doesn't live in the real world like I have to! We'd have a good life together though.
Q. Do I follow my head or my heart? My heart tells me who is the right man for me but my head says although I'll have a wonderful life with him I'll always live my life on the bread line. Neither of us are young, over 50. We were together 3 years, ...
A. 9 April 2008: I say GO FOR IT! Isn't there enough freedom for you both to live the way you want & love each other. Do you have to drop everything to do exactly what he's doing? NO. Is he drawn to you the same way? Does he see you in ways that make you ... (read in full...)
He's 41 I'm nearly 18, but we're two worlds apart. How can I fix this?
Q. I have a 41 year old boyfriend and i'm 17(almost 18). Is this too big of a difference?? What should I do?? It's only 23 years, but he's so much smarter than i am about the world and much more experienced. How can I fix this '2 different worlds' ...
A. 9 April 2008: Take a close look at Namatjira's answer. He's dead ON! I agree completely. I'm a woman who has always liked older men & I have been where you are. I get the appeal. It shows some maturity that you are seeking answers. It also shows that you ... (read in full...)
Every guy I have a crush on, I seem to want to marry!... Is this immature?
Q. I'm a bit confused because it seems like every guy I have a little crush on I seem to want to marry. I know that I'm still young, and i dunno why I want to marry them, because I don't even know the boys very well! Is it just an immature crush ...
A. 9 April 2008: Because everything in your body & mind is designed to want to bond up with a mate & make more humans. I'm serious. It is hard wired into you to "play house" when you really are far too young to do so. You have LOTS of time & NEED the experience ... (read in full...)
My ex lied to me and cheated on me a lot. Even after 6mths, he continues to bring me down!! How do I deal?
Q. I broke up with my 'boyfriend' six months ago. Lots of lying and cheating on his part, all through our nearly three years together. Finally told him I did not want to stay his friend or keep in touch last weekend. Seems stupid because I haven't been ...
A. 9 April 2008: You're channeling boredom or neediness or whatever into this guy. Move on, find some new friends. Date others. Every second you waste on that loser is one that you're diverted from finding someone better to be friends with, date, love- whatever. ... (read in full...)
Ready to divorce over husband's sex addiction! Any last ditch efforts or is this over?
Q. Hello every1 Im a troubled wife who is fed up with my husband's addiction with sex. Just recently in December, I've learned that my husband talks to a female that he met in March 2007. He also tells me that he's been watching this female masturbat...
A. 9 April 2008: Oh my goodness! Ok, first- don't have sex with him again without a condom. I mean this. If he's got all this activity going on, you're probably right. He is probably cheating on you. What's the deal with him watching that woman outside of her ... (read in full...)
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