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writes: i dont know if i love my teacher, its probably just a crush but i cant stop thinking about him. i think he knows by now i like him, because i sent him an email and said i think you're amazing and the best teacher i've ever had, and then yesterday he told me like not to sent emails anymore, because anyone can read them and he feels "uncomfortable" and he could get in trouble. i agree, but i have dreams about him all the time. by the way, hes married with kids. i dont know what to do, should i tell him on the last day of school myself that i love him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): i completely agree with male reader anonymous - eyeswideopen, what the hell is your problem???. btw, what happened in the end?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): The post below eyeswideopen, you really need to stop trying to degrade and insult peoples genuine posts. You are very deeply sad to sit around and act unhelpfully towards troubled people.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 You and your friend SHOULD go together and tell him how much you love him. It will give he and his wife something to laugh about all weekend. Very thoughtful of you to provide such humor to the loving couple. And trust me this is not the first time somebody had a crush on him nor will it be the last. It's just something teacher's have to put up with.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Even after all the people here have given you a definative answer of NO!NO!NO! without the tiniest margin of wavering you still are going to insist on carrying out on this? You dont love him at all. If you loved him you would care about consequences. You have a childish, schoolgirl crush and dont really give have a crap how it is going to make HIM feel.
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reader, Amy2007x  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 No dont, It can only end in misery...
I knwo wht ur going thro i was in a very similar position i used to email my teacher and stuff
mail me if u wanna chat
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): trust me no you'll probably get in trouble
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): I agree, NO! NO! NO!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): No no no no no no no no no no... no.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (10 April 2008):
NO.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Absolutely NO! You are going to get this man in serious trouble. Even if he doesn't return your feelings, just you writing to him could ruin his life. People get weirded out to the max when they think a teacher has done anything to send out the wrong signals. Please do as others have suggested. Get a journal and write in it. You are in a crush and believe us all, this will pass. You cannot be in love with someone you do not really know. I'm so glad though that you thought to write about this here. I think you are very smart girl. You have done something good to write and ask for advice. We are all telling you the truth. If you even think you like this teacher, leave him alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Teachers are mentors and educators. Students are pupil with brains that absorb what is taught. Nothing more, nothing less.
Keep your secret to yourself and get good grades, you appreciate it years from now.
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reader, Guru1  +, writes (10 April 2008):
You are experiencing what we have all been through at school. I know your feelings are very strong but believe me this will pass with time. You'll look back on this in years to come and remember fondly your lovely teacher, who is a grown man, in a trusted position of authority, and who could get into a lot of trouble if others interpret the feelings as being returned. Have your fantasy but leave it there, the future is not with him. Do not take it any further, and if he did it would make him a paedophile!!! Not some knight in shining armour.
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reader, yoginipirate +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Absolutely not. Do you want him to say "I love you too" & enter into a relationship with you that would most certainly end with him in JAIL. It's not a joke. If you do love him, leave him alone & write about him in a journal or something, make out with another 13 year old & pretend it's him if you want but DO NOT approach him again in this way. He asked you not to, so respect his honesty & his very REAL fear of the trouble dealing with you, even just a little bit could bring him.
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reader, TT +, writes (10 April 2008):
 No!!! It is just a crush, and no offence, but in a couple of years time, you'll look back and laugh at yourself. It's normal to be attracted or even infatuated with someone when you're a teenager. But you'll get over it as quickly as you fall into it.
Please save yourself embarassment! :) xx
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reader, MissKin +, writes (10 April 2008):
 no. you shouldnt. he clearly doesn't know how to react. and he can't and doesn't feel the same. ur just going to let urself get hurt. Try not to think about him. try to get over it. i know it's hard and i know it might seem impossible but eventually other people will take ur mind off of him.
He can lose his job if anybody suspects anything is going on between the two of you, so you really should lay off with emails and such. It's okay to think he's great and everything but it's unrealistic and not healthy for you or good for him.
I think u shud try to move on hun. However u choose to do that it's what u need to do. It's not love. it's never love. it's infatuation and obsession in the end. You hardly know him as a person, how can you love him? And how can he love you when he has a family? Don't do this to yourself.
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