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writes:Hey guys, I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now, we have a good sex life, recently we have been trying to have anal sex, but it hurts her too much. How can i make it comfortable for her??And another question.. she has only let me give oral to her twice. She has said she enjoys it but is uncomfortable emotionally letting me do this.. What can i say to her to reassure her? Thanks in advance guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): you have someone who's not learned to relax about sex. If she can't relax enough to have you go down on her, you better belive that she's not going to be able to relax her anus to allow you to slid your cock into her bum...Think about it... she's tense! You need to back way off the anal thing, and get this woman to relax enough so that you can go down on her anytime... work with her to get her to enjoy sex. In a few years, if you work hard (and don't pester her about anal) you might be able to revisit the idea. But until she loosens up (pun intended) it's not going to happen - at least not w/o alot of pain...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): I've only had anal once, and let me tell you, it kills. It hurt me so much, I actually passed out. When I came round (about 10 seconds later) the look on his face! You should have seen it haha. But really, it can really hurt girls. Guys just don't appreciate that. Did you know you can actually tear the muscles around there through anal? Well you can. It's not meant for stuff to go in, it's meant for stuff to come out. Please, don't pressure her into it. Because the only reason I did was because I was a bit pressured, and it honestly does kill. I don't get how some people do it.. I really don't..
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Anal sex hurts?
who'd have thought.
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reader, sarah_s +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Remember she ain't a toy so, don't pressure her. Let her be comfortable in her own way too. Lubrication is recommened if your thinking to do anal penetration again but, only if you both are ready.
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reader, indie girl +, writes (10 April 2008):
Don't make her do something she's not comfotable with. If she does want anal but just can't yet then try some "ass beads" they widen your anus to make room. You can buy them from sex shops but you usually have to be 18 to get them. Hope this helps... (:
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reader, ninjalove  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 don't make her do what she doesn't want to just just cuz you like doing it and as for anal, lay her on her back and use lube and lot of it.I personly like the cooling mint by ID good shit...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Ok - you are being selfish. Can't you see that? All I have read is its about you. You are persisting with things she doesn't want or like. She loves you and you are taking advantage of that - she wants to please you but is finding it all difficult. How about you sticking to what she is comfortable with. Do you realise you could really affect her mentally if you go on like you are making demands. If your girlfriend had posted about the problems you are having I'd have told her to dump you I'm afraid. She is young and you are too. If you are so desperate for anal sex maybe you need to consider your own sexuality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Give her time for the oral.
For the anal, best refrain from it all together. She may not like all the preparation involved. I've heard an enema and insertion of a butt plug is the best way to go.
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reader, Wisdom +, writes (10 April 2008):
 LUBE LUBE LUBE, for that type of sex, its the only way. Plus make sure she really really really wants to try it and is not just doing it for you. Take it slow, you dont need to do it all in one night, take a few nights and work up to it.
Oral sex (just like french kiss but done down under!!! LOL ahhh I know a sad little Aussie joke! but still makes me laugh)... OK this one may be difficult but it is a very personal thing for a woman. Let her know that you love her, you enjoy doing it and that it makes you happy to please her sexually. Let her know that she is your one and only and just keep at it.... she will relax with time..... And once that happens trust me your poor little tounge will be exhausted!!
Good luck
Good luck I hope it all works out for you
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reader, yoginipirate +, writes (10 April 2008):
 What!? Quit "trying to have anal sex", jeez. You're a kid & regular sex just isn't cutting it for you? Man, lay off of her. It just hurts some people, & others who it doesn't hurt- just might not like it. Just because you've seen it on the internet doesn't mean she's got to do it with you. Dawwwm & it might be more comfortable for her if you start to respect her limits. You're not really asking how to make it more comfortable for her, you're asking how to get her to keep letting you do it. Try this one. Let her put a big cucumber up your ass. Doesn't sound too fun? Well, that might be how she feels about it too! Leave the girl's ass alone & be glad you're getting any at all. Dawm! PS You can't do a whole lot of reassuring a teenage girl to instantly become comfortable with her body & EVERYTHING you wanna do with it/to it. That comes with age & it's usually not that uncomfortable a process unless, she finds herself with someone who wants to do everything under the sun before he gets his drivers license. As you both grow up a bit, many things come easier--like looking out for your partners needs, not being selfish horn dog. She'll be come more comfortable with time...chill, things come easier, but not necessarily anal, there chief! She tried it with you, now get over it. Or switch teams, they're down.
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