She lied about so many things, would I be stupid to take her back?
Q. so i've been dating this great girl for the better part of a year now, but recently, i find out (partially because she started to admit and partially because i prodded a bit) that she lied about 1) the number of people she's slept with (probably s...
A. 26 June 2010: I disagree wholeheartedly with Frank. It's an issue of integrity. How does his ex cheating on her previous ex deal with his ego? At best, there is a huge disconnect. You would have to assume a lot about his character to reach that conclusion. There ... (read in full...)
How do I explain to a woman that I don't want to have kids?
Q. I had a vasectomy years ago, and to be honest, I'm quite happy with the decision. I definetely don't want to have kids EVER. But how do I explain this to a woman if I ever find one. Will she hate me? Will she immediately leave? How should I...
A. 3 May 2010: yeah, I think you should definitely tell them. If someone really wants kids, she should know sooner rather than later. I wouldn't bring it up on a first date, obviously, but think about this from her perspective. I would bring it up if a ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend who is says he is?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months and we're pretty serious...We talk everyday and about everything...He is my first real adult relationship and I've fallen in love with him. The problem is that is older than me (I'm 24), my family ...
A. 23 April 2010: The internet is not always right. That I know for sure. He may be telling the truth. If you really want to know, and I don't blame you, tell him to show you his license.
I have to say, I am prone to believe the alumni website though. I am sure ... (read in full...)
Was the whole relationship just a lie?
Q. I had an affair with a married man, I myself am married. The affair lasted for 10 months, it started out as friends, and built into a trusting, wanting, and deep relationship. My marriage was already in trouble and I was just co-habitating with my ...
A. 19 April 2010: Does your husband know?... (read in full...)
Celibate marriage.
Q. *OP's own title* I am also in a sexless marriage. I have been married for almost 6 years. My husband has some very deep issues and hang-ups about sexual intimacy. Through these years he kept saying to me that he will go get help. He finally sees the ...
A. 17 April 2010: I suggest he read The New Male Sexuality. It's really good and informative. I am reading it now. He should also hire a sex therapist.... (read in full...)
Stress is affecting sex with my wife, why am I so negative in life?
Q. I always lost out in my life be it be the studies or any thing ,married for over 12 yrs 2 kids and a very att wife i get alot upset when i think about my future my business is not as good as i want though the people around me find me very sucessfull ...
A. 17 April 2010: sounds like you need therapy . . . I am not saying this in a joking manner, but it is something you should consider. It can help more than you imagine, as long as you find the right therapist.... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 16 April 2010: q1605 - You are absolutely right. I learned the hard way. I put a protective shield for some reason and never really let love in. It looks like I will get a second chance to show my true colors.... (read in full...)
Why do guys take so long to call you back?
Q. why do guys take so long to call back? If they don't call after 3 days dose that mean they lost interest?...
A. 16 April 2010: He can still be very interested even if he calls you 5 days after getting your number. It doesn't really mean much. You can speculate all you want, it doesn't mean that your speculation is true. I called my gf about 6 days after I got her number, ... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 15 April 2010: Simply lack of intimacy . . . check my earlier post, it's all there.... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 15 April 2010: I actually left a voice message last night asking her to meet on Sunday for lunch or dinner. I will see what she says. It is going to take a while to build our relationship and for her to get comfortable around me. I will leave the invites to my ... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 15 April 2010: The ballet is on April 24, a bit over one week. I will post how it went. I figure, most posters will be interested. ... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 15 April 2010: And who says that a love letter to your ex cannot work :)
Thanks everyone for your support.... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 14 April 2010: Yes, I got treatment and I continue to see a sex/relationship therapist. I do not feel pain anymore. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a smoker, I'm an ex-smoker, and now I just can't stand it. Should I stop going over to his house?
Q. Well I am in a long distance relationship. we have been together for a year, and so far it's worked pretty well. My BF ussually comes to see mee, and after all this time i started going to his place more often, because I want to show him I want to ...
A. 14 April 2010: You made no mention of him trying to quit. Is that out of the question? I guess since you accepted him as a smoker when you first dated, I guess he thinks you will accept his habit now.... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 14 April 2010: Quick question - the ballet is in 10 days, do you think I should suggest meeting before hand, or maybe our second first date should be the actual ballet and I should just wait til then? We made no mention during the phone call of when we should meet ... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 12 April 2010: She called me today and said that she is willing to try again. She emphasized that it might not work, but it is worth another shot. She then said that she would love to see me again. it's been 6 weeks since I last saw her.... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 3 April 2010: FYI: I sent the letter this morning (I just changed very few things from the version you see here, but it's basically the same) . . . she should get it by Tuesday after work by the very latest. As promised, I will let you know.
Thanks for everyone... (read in full...)
My ex getting engaged with her one and a half month new guy?
Q. Hello! I found out that my ex, (we broke up about 3 months ago after a year of beeing together) is getting engaged with her rebound relationship. I could tell even after she broke up with me that she was attracted to me and we kept contact cos ...
A. 31 March 2010: I don't even know where to begin. First, I am sorry for the pain and confusion you must be feeling. I am curious as to why she broke up with you. I don't know if she is being truthful about the breakup.
Second, I think you need to give her spac... (read in full...)
I can't get over this guy or put it aside! Help!
Q. Hello. So I've mentioned this before...a person I like in my class. Its almost been a year and I still like this person. We certainly are good friends now but it stops at that. I don't feel as bad as I used to about the fact that most probably...
A. 31 March 2010: ask him to grab a bite after class . . . get the two of you alone. Then take it from there. You can't just drop subtle hints since it obviously isn't doing anything... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 31 March 2010: ballet tickets go on sale on Monday, so I have to wait a few days. I feel so alone in this world man. I feel like a fool for not handling this issue earlier.
I hope she takes me back. I think there is a chance, but I don't know. I also feel bad... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 31 March 2010: WOW . . . thank you for your feedback . . . everyone. I did not imagine so many people would dedicate the time to read and provide their insights on something that is so important to me and my potential future with her. While I agree that the ... (read in full...)
What is your take on this love letter?
Q. XXX is to protect my ex's name, and mine. Please tell me of the tone of the letter, and the idea of the ballet tix. I am asking of as many people's feedback as possible. ----- Dear XXXX, I ask you to read these words with an open mind and he...
A. 31 March 2010: The reason of the breakup was due to pain I had when having intercourse and I kept stopping not knowing what was wrong. I freaked out. I never seeked help due to fear of finding out what was wrong with me. She got impatient. I understand why. She ... (read in full...)
Why didn't she wish me a "happy birthday"??
Q. She didn't wish on my B'day..what does it mean..?? Hi, I found myself attracted towards a girl since i met her in a Train journey. During journey only i got her email ID so I started my communication with her via emails and gtalk. But one d...
A. 29 March 2010: Well . . . sorry to tell you this, but she isn't obligated to wish you happy birthday. She really isn't a friend of yours from what I can gather. it's not like you shared much time together in person, and only communicated by messaging and emails. I ... (read in full...)
I called him up and a girl answered.
Q. is he playing me or what? ok so me and my bf has been together for 18 months, he was my first everything. i truly feel like he loves me. he does the littlest things that make me feel special, all though he is in a different state he still...
A. 28 March 2010: That is awkward . . . I don't know what to say. No one picks up my cell phone unless it is my mom and my brother picks up or something to that effect. But when it comes to a significant other, why would any one else pick up, or worse, return a call ... (read in full...)
I just found out my wife has been having an affair for 4 - 5 years and am devastated!
Q. I am a 56 year old man who has just found out that my wife of 36 years this year has been having an affair with one man for the past 4-5 years. I am absolutely devasted as one can imagine. My love for her is so strong that I rang her and asked her ...
A. 27 March 2010: I think this is beyond what this site can offer in terms of providing help. I think you should seek professional help.
Perhaps you can work it out, but I think you need an experienced marriage counselor. ... (read in full...)
We has sex and now he is not answering my text messages. Do I play it 'cool' or chase him?
Q. i have known this guy for a few weeks now, i have met with him only once and fell imidietly attracted to him... we spent the night together and i didnt sleep with him... after 3weeks i herd from him again wanting to catch up, so we did and had an ...
A. 27 March 2010: Sounds like this is a recipe for disaster. But, if you want to hang out with him, I would just call. Just know that the call might go straight to voicemail. Not sure if you want to leave a message, but I don't think it will hurt. It might drive you ... (read in full...)
Fiancee lied about being a virgin, how can I let her down gently so she can find someone of the same mindset?
Q. Hai, il go straight to the point. My fiancee lied to me that she was a virgin, am 27 years and i kept my virginity she told me she slept with 10 guys and i dont i can marry her. How do i let her go gently so that she can find some else with her same ...
A. 27 March 2010: Was it during your relationship? Based on your wording, you thought she was a virgin, and that was the most important facet about her. If you leave her and find someone else, they will probably have something you don't like. I think you a nitpicking ... (read in full...)
I am in a relationship blackhole. Am I being too picky?
Q. hi all ..... Im having a huge problem.. a relationship "black hole ". since i split up with my ex fiance (3 years ago ) i have been going up and down with relationships, and i just dont know if im being to picky or ifs its me that the relation...
A. 26 March 2010: Trust me when I say you are not the only one that gets into a relationship funk. Naturally, your ego has a field day on your ability to attract and meet potential mates of long term relationships. I think you need to change you mindset, and think ... (read in full...)
What should I do to get the love of my life back?
Q. Here is my situation . . . I will try to summarize it while including all pertinent information. (sorry in advanced if it is too long, but I feel if I do not include important info, then I would get complete advice) I started dating a great w...
A. 22 March 2010: I called and and it went straight to VM, then I texted "Hey Jessica, Hope your weekend was enjoyable. Are you available to talk later today? :)"
I texted her one hour ago and no response. This non-responsiveness is really annoying me. LOL!!... (read in full...)
What should I do to get the love of my life back?
Q. Here is my situation . . . I will try to summarize it while including all pertinent information. (sorry in advanced if it is too long, but I feel if I do not include important info, then I would get complete advice) I started dating a great w...
A. 22 March 2010: Actually, she replied to my last text one week ago. I called her on Thursday and she didn't reply to that call. I really want to talk to her and see her again. Do you think if I write a letter, the possibility of seeing her is slim to none?... (read in full...)
What should I do to get the love of my life back?
Q. Here is my situation . . . I will try to summarize it while including all pertinent information. (sorry in advanced if it is too long, but I feel if I do not include important info, then I would get complete advice) I started dating a great w...
A. 21 March 2010: Update: She didn't call/text me back. It's been three days. This is NOT good. I should probably give her some space.... (read in full...)
What should I do to get the love of my life back?
Q. Here is my situation . . . I will try to summarize it while including all pertinent information. (sorry in advanced if it is too long, but I feel if I do not include important info, then I would get complete advice) I started dating a great w...
A. 21 March 2010: Thanks first responder. That is exactly what I do not want to do. That I know!!... (read in full...)
What happens when your lover asks you to be just friends?
Q. SInce the time I started dating to now I've never per say had a successful relationship. I have never broken up with a guy but every guy I have been with has broken up with me. I've never been able to figure out why but I have thought of some ...
A. 21 March 2010: Guys subconsciously place you in two categories . . . first category - the fun type gal for going out occasionally and having sex or the second category - the serious, relationship type gal. If you invite him to your place that early, you will be ... (read in full...)
She says she wants to be single, but we're hanging out a lot
Q. My girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 2 months now. She is the one that decided to break it off because she felt that things weren't working out. She said that now was not the right time for a relationship and that we can try again ...
A. 20 March 2010: I think you are doing the right thing as far as giving her space and letting her live her life. Space and time does make the heart grow fonder (in many situations). The only question I have is why did she think things were not working out? Do you ... (read in full...)
Thrown to the side for a younger woman...
Q. pls help, my husband came home from work one day and said he didnt love me anymore. after 18 years and 3 children. he always loved me right up until then. he walked out on us and now lives with his parents. he sold the family car and bought a much ...
A. 20 March 2010: I apologize for your hurt and pain. I can only imagine what you are going through. If you look at the facts, which seems to be black and white, then you will realize that your life without him is far better in the long-run. Although it doesn't feel ... (read in full...)
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