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writes:My girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 2 months now. She is the one that decided to break it off because she felt that things weren't working out. She said that now was not the right time for a relationship and that we can try again later. The first 2 weeks were just terrible. I would call her to and beg her to come back and work things out. After a couple weeks, I decided that it would be best if I don't contact her, and just wait until she contacted me. A couple of weeks went by, and she started to text me to ask what I have been up to. I would just play it off by not giving too much detail in what I'm doing, but kind of give her the hint that I am busy. I kept this up for awhile. She then asked to hangout again. We met up for lunch to talk about things. She told me that she wanted to be single for awhile so she can focus on her job and her future. I just nodded and agreed with her. After that, we started to hangout a lot more often. About 3-4 times a week. She even started to come over to my house recently to watch movies, or just to hangout. We started to hold hands and kiss again, and she even started to say I love you again. But she says she still wants to be single for awhile, but she says that she see's a good future with me. What should I do? Should I just keep doing what I'm doing now? I mean I'm over the break up. I'm glad that we're close again, in fact I think we're closer now than we've ever been before. But she doesn't want a relationship anytime soon, but she calls me baby, tells me she loves me, and text's me good morning and good night everyday.
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reader, unwind +, writes (20 March 2010):
I think you are doing the right thing as far as giving her space and letting her live her life. Space and time does make the heart grow fonder (in many situations). The only question I have is why did she think things were not working out? Do you even know? I think the only way she would highly consider getting back together is if she had reason to believe that you were working on the issues, whatever they are, during this breakup. For instance, the next time you have a somewhat serious conversation about what you have been doing lately, I would mention it . . . I have been doing this and that (in terms of self improvement), but say it a matter of fact sort of way.
The other thing is that I would agree to go out every time she wants to hang out. You shouldn't give her the impression that you are available every single time she wants to see you.
Good luck!
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