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writes:pls help, my husband came home from work one day and said he didnt love me anymore. after 18 years and 3 children. he always loved me right up until then. he walked out on us and now lives with his parents. he sold the family car and bought a much younger persons car. he now has a girlfriend who happens to be 13 years younger than himself and has a toddler. shes not even pretty. he barely ever comes to see his children and he never ever telephones them to see how they are. he says this girlfriend is his life now. the girlfriend actually thinks she is so good that he wants her and not me. he is also very nasty with me i did nothing wrong for him to do all this to us.
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reader, unwind  +, writes (20 March 2010):
I apologize for your hurt and pain. I can only imagine what you are going through. If you look at the facts, which seems to be black and white, then you will realize that your life without him is far better in the long-run. Although it doesn't feel like that right now. It may take you over a year or so to get over it. Time heals all pain.
I hope you pull through this and I route for you :) I always wish the best for good-hearted people :)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 March 2010):
 My sympathies to you for going through this heart breaking process.
There is nothing much you can do to change his opinions. You will have to get over the shock, disbelief and grief and see a lawyer about a divorce.
It is better to let him go when there is no more love in him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2010): Midlife crisis. I bet the 13-year old was around the corners before he ended it with you, making him feel all good about himself, good enough to be brave enough to leave. And now he tries to act young for her. Whatever his reasons for leaving you though, we will never truly know. So better not to try and understand, but to ignore him altogether, just like he ignores you.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (19 March 2010):
Sounds like the guy is a total self-centers ass. Try to find some happiness that you're done with him, and get a divorce and as much money as you can from the bum. Odds are really good that at some point he'll come running back- slam the door in his face when he does. Collect yourself, take stock in you, work on what you need to get get back in circulation and GO FOR IT! Many women end up in MUCH BETTER relationships after the jerk they should have never married leaves them. One day you'll break out in laughter at all this... it took me a few years, but life is GREAT now, and NONE of the problems that I had with my ex exist in my relationship!
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