My friend is seriously depressed! How can I help?
Q. This is a very complicated problem, but I'll try to be as concise as I can. My best friend has been very depressed recently--to the point of severe depression, and I don't know what to do. The cause of her depression is the fear of change...
A. 6 September 2008: Thanks to everyone who's replied to this. I just thought I'd give an update.
My friend is a little more cheerful now--whether that's through her opening up to me or she's just pushed the feelings aside I don't know. I told her that I always a... (read in full...)
Together for seven months, found out he cheated, I love him, took him back, but cannot seem to get over the cheating, it is affecting the relationship, any suggestions on how to forget?
Q. Ok me and my bf have been in a 7 month relationship and i love him so much i ha ve a problem he cheated on me on our 3rd montha nd i didnt find out untill 1 month later when they brook up:_( i loved him so i took him back , not i c a change in him ...
A. 21 August 2008: Was your boyfriend actually seeing another girl while he was with you, or was it just a single incident, like a kiss at a party or something? If it was the latter, then you should consider forgiving him. If it was the first one, then you will ha... (read in full...)
Can someone put me in the right direction when it comes to girls?
Q. Hi, i am 21, i have a real problem that i need help with. Im a virgin and i have real girl problems, when i was 16,17 and 18 i wasnt really that nervous or shy around girls but every girl i liked i had my heart set on them and they said they l...
A. 19 August 2008: It sounds to me like you have some self-confidence issues that you need to address first.
Because you've had some bad experiences (sorry about that, not all women are like that) you've been left with little confidence when it comes to approach... (read in full...)
Why does my 7yr old step daughter masturbate?
Q. I have a step daughter who is now 7 years old. The problem is that she has been grinding her legs togather since about 9 months old. She has been to a doc that said it is a form of masterbation. We have taken her to counsuling they say if is a way ...
A. 19 August 2008: I doubt that this is some kind of hormonal imbalance, but more of a habit that she has developed at a very young age and carried on into her childhood.
It is a difficult area to broach, because she has developed this habits, and habits are very... (read in full...)
Will I be judged for being scared to sleep with the guy?
Q. the furtherest i have gone with a guy is sexual contact... will i be judged for being scared to sleep with the guy... will i be judged if i get pregnant... will i be judged if i go on the pill...? the frightening thing is if the condom sp...
A. 19 August 2008: As others have said: it's your body and you decide what to do with it. If you don't feel ready to sleep with a guy, then don't. The absolutely last thing you need to do is sleep with a guy before you are ready. If you're scared still, then you're ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend betray me by masturbating? I want to end it!
Q. Dear Cupid , I just caught my boyfriend masterbating I feel like if he has betrayed me. I ask him if he doesnt like our sex but he answers that he does. So why does he do it. It makes me feel like i dont mean nothing to him. do you think that its...
A. 19 August 2008: Masturbation is a common practice, whether you are married, single or with a partner. It is perfectly normal and not something you should feel betrayed over. Masturbation isn't used as a replacement for sex. It does not mean that he does not enjo... (read in full...)
I'm older than the girl I met, is that bad?
Q. I am a 29 year old male from the UK. Two months ago, I met this lovely 21 year old young lady. I have fallen head over heels for her; we are very much in love. But, the age gap bothers me. Does it really matter that my girlfriend is many years yo...
A. 18 August 2008: There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating a girl who is in her early twenties. There is only an eight year gap, nothing to worry about at all.
I'd place my bets that this woman's (because, yes, she is a woman, not a young girl anymore-... (read in full...)
I don't like being touched... is this normal?
Q. I've noticed for a while now that I feel very uncomfortable when touched by anyone who is not in my immediate family. Whenever I make physical contact with a friend or anyone else, I get an unpleasant shiver and have to fight the instinct to pull ...
A. 4 August 2008: There are a few reasons, I think. The main one is that I'm simply not used to contact from anyone outside my family. I never had many friends, was always bullied, so I shied away from people and kept to myself. I also went through an experience wh... (read in full...)
What can I do so that my girlfriend accepts she is beautiful?...
Q. Do girls and woman really judge themselves harshly on their own appearance? My girlfriend is absolutely gorgeous yet she is convinced that she is plain looking!!!! What can I do to get through to my g/f she is beautiful?! I keep telling her she is ...
A. 4 August 2008: It is a really hard task to convince a woman that she is beautiful. I have been told by all members of my family, and friends and some guys, that I am really quite pretty, yet I cannot see what they find so appealing. I look at my sisters and see ... (read in full...)
I'm new to the UK and trying to figure out sexual behaviour here. Any statistics/experiences/advice?
Q. I was just wondering: In the United Kingdom, what is the average sexual behaviour of people? Are the majority of people ok with no strings attached sex, or do most prefer waiting for a relationship? And is it a foreign concept to wait until you ...
A. 31 July 2008: The best answer is: whatever you feel is best. The UK has often been portrayed to be a well-spoken, polite-society country where people are polite, drink tea and engage in romance and do not even consider sex until they are happily married.... (read in full...)
I can't tell my parents I'm pregnant, what am I going to do??
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 2 years had sex and i think i might be pregnant, and seeing as i come from a Catholic family i cannot tell my parents. What should i do? Love SOS...
A. 30 July 2008: I see, that does make it much harder.
In the end you do have to consider what you think is best for you. Do you think you (and your boyfriend, since he is important as well) are ready to become a parent? I know I don't need to say this, but havi... (read in full...)
My online girlfriend won't come and meet me and wants me to go there. Is that normal?
Q. hey Im 15 I have met this girl on the internet and i really like and she really likes me to. She live 2 houres away from me by train but only 45 minutes by car. I asked is she could get in her car and come and met me but she said no she want...
A. 30 July 2008: Girls especially have to be very careful when they meet someone from the internet. We hear so often of teenage girls meeting someone from the internet and ending up in terrible situations because they didn't take the proper care. So it is no ... (read in full...)
I want to marry this man. He is phenominal. But I'm not sure he'll ever ask.
Q. I have been dating my guy for over a year and a half. We've both been married before. Currently no kids. We're both established. And own our own homes. For the entire length of our relationship I've lived about 100 miles away from him and I b...
A. 29 July 2008: If his ex burned him, then the chances are he will be wary about taking that step again. Such a betrayal can do that to you. He may not want to make that step again, or if he does he'll want to wait a good deal more to make sure you have a solid ... (read in full...)
I can't tell my parents I'm pregnant, what am I going to do??
Q. Me and my boyfriend of 2 years had sex and i think i might be pregnant, and seeing as i come from a Catholic family i cannot tell my parents. What should i do? Love SOS...
A. 29 July 2008: Are your parents devout Catholics? I mean, are they incredibly strict in their beliefs? My parents are Catholics as well (although I am CofE), but they are not strong ones.
If your parents are strong Catholics then you do have a problem. I'd imag... (read in full...)
I gave my teacher a letter explaining my feelings, but he has not opened it, I'm worried he won't...
Q. I love my teacher, but he see's right through me. I think he knows to some extend I love him, yet he ignores me and doesn't act so friendly with me. He always acts friendly to others, and blanks me out. I don't know what to do anymore; because it ...
A. 10 July 2008: I believe your teacher is being cold towards you because of your feelings for him.
I'm sure you're aware of the awkwardness of the situation. You are still young and his student, while he is a figure of responsibility and must set an example ... (read in full...)
Which one of my sisters should I believe?
Q. hi i'm getting married next month and since i'm a virgin i asked my sisters for help. my eldest sister says that i should stop the intercourse after i lose my virginty immediately, otherwise i will damage my vagina. but my other sister says it's o...
A. 10 July 2008: I think your eldest sister is teasing you a little--it is perfectly okay to continue (though I am one to talk, being a virgin myself).
Considering it is your first time it would be best to take it easy, but I doubt you would damage yourself... (read in full...)
I can't bare the pain of deflouring, what to do? I'm only 14...
Q. I am only 14 nearly 15. i have been fingered a few times. the other day me n my boyfriend tried to have sex but i think im to tight. it really really hurts when he puts it half way in and i cant bare the pain i was nearly in tears.and i had to push ...
A. 8 July 2008: I'll give advice even though you're still technically too young to be having sex, and I hope he's using a condom when you do try. Most people will tell you to wait until you're sixteen, but since many teenagers these days do it anyway despite the ... (read in full...)
I wanted to save our wonderful relationship but I didn't get the chance. What now?
Q. My girlfriend just broke up with me three weeks ago. I've been in a relationship prior to her (long term, live-in) but this girl was different. My heart told me the entire time that she was the one for me - meant to be. I never even believed the ...
A. 8 July 2008: Blocking her out of your life does not have to mean never see each other again. It's about giving yourselves personal space and distance for a certain amount of time for you both to adjust to this new situation.
It's clear that you really love thi... (read in full...)
I don't want to be married any more. I don't know what to do.
Q. I have been married for 3 years. I have also been in a relationship with someone else for the past 4 years. I have come to the point where I don't want to be married anymore. The person that I'm in the relationship witb has a girlfriend also. I ...
A. 8 July 2008: If you don't have feelings for your husband anymore then perhaps you should consider calling an end to it. There is no point in staying married to someone that you no longer love. Even if you are not ready for divorce yet, you could separate and ... (read in full...)
My period is always regular. Now I'm 11 days late and I'm worried.
Q. im almost 14 years old and i got my period for the first time in janurary 2008. i always get my period on time. but now its july and im 11 days late! this has never happened to me before and ive never had sex in my life! whats happening? is t...
A. 8 July 2008: Don't worry, this isn't bad, it's perfectly normal.
Your period may always be on time, but you shouldn't be concerned if it runs late once or twice. It is entirely possible, and this has happened to me before, to completely skip a month and not ... (read in full...)
I am small chested, and concerned with my image, any advice for me?
Q. Well this is going to sound akward, but anyways, we were on a school trip a while ago and everyone was wearing vest tops and obvoiusly you could see the shape of there breasts and stuff - okay so that sounded totally strange! but I dont have much of ...
A. 8 July 2008: You are still young so you will continue to develop.
Either way, even if you do end up with small breasts, it doesn't really matter. Bigger breasts don't necessarily mean better. If a guy is attracted to you because of your breast size, then he ... (read in full...)
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