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writes:I am only 14 nearly 15. i have been fingered a few times. the other day me n my boyfriend tried to have sex but i think im to tight. it really really hurts when he puts it half way in and i cant bare the pain i was nearly in tears.and i had to push him off me. what should i do. Reply to this Question
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reader, x Nic x +, writes (8 July 2008):
 For a start you are Under Age so should not be thinking about having sex at all, you are still young. Losing your virginity is something that is very special and should not be lost for the sake of being lost.
You may think you are ready for sex but personally if you are saying you are too tight this could be because at the time you were nervous, tense and were not comfortable with the situation which shows that deep down you are not ready to lose it.
I would wait until you are older, wiser and have met the right guy to lose that special moment with where you can show your love for each other.
Good Luck
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reader, barbie-213 +, writes (8 July 2008):
your body is trying to tell you something. you are tight because it feels it is not ready. i am not talking rubbish. i bet that you are not 110% sure u are ready to have sex and your body has picked up on this. when you are ready, your body will be too. and if your boyfreind is pressuring you for sex then are you sure thats what you want:?
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reader, Umari Solanthus +, writes (8 July 2008):
 I'll give advice even though you're still technically too young to be having sex, and I hope he's using a condom when you do try. Most people will tell you to wait until you're sixteen, but since many teenagers these days do it anyway despite the warnings, I'll give advice to you.Losing your virginity is painful to a degree, but it can be enhanced by the fact that you're probably extremely nervous. Being nervous tightens your muscles and therefore makes it harder for him and especially for you, which is why it probably hurts more than it ought to.You are probably not ready for sex yet--not physically, but mentally. You and your boyfriend need to be more patient and take time just being together and getting used to being with each other. Instead of trying to have sex, just spend time talking about it and getting used to the idea of talking and questioning it.And, ultimately, don't feel pressured into having sex before you're ready. You're still only 14, there is no rush for you to lose your virginity if you don't feel confident enough yet. It's your body so you decide when you do it. You have all the time in the world to start exploring this area.If you do happen to try again, though, just remember to take your time and try to relax. If you're still unconfident, then stop.Also make sure he uses protection, or you are on the pill, so you don't risk getting pregnant, okay?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (8 July 2008):
You should wait until you are more experienced at doing other sexual stuff before you even think about losing your virginity.
It's you've only been fingered "a few times" then it is far too soon to be thinking about full sex. Do everything else for a long time. Learn what turns you on, get to know your body. You shouldn't ever be at a point where you are nearly in tears through pain, you should have stopped LONG before it got that bad.
Wait to have sex till you are legal. Part of the reason they set the age of consent at 16 is because if you are younger than that it is too painful and unhealthy for you. It's not all about being "ready."
Good Luck!! xx
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