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writes: hey Im 15 I have met this girl on the internet and i really like and she really likes me to. She live 2 houres away from me by train but only 45 minutes by car. I asked is she could get in her car and come and met me but she said no she wants me to go to where she lives. But my parents do not drive so i will have to go on the train. So i asked my parents and they said that i could not.Is it normal that she does not want to come and met me?I really like and so i do not want her finding another guy because she has not met me.I asked my parents and they said no. So should i just run away for on day and go and see her and not tell my parents?
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reader, WiccanWonder  +, writes (30 July 2008):
 Heya,
it is possible she isnt telling you who 'she' really is, the problem with internet boyfriends and girlfriends are that you dont know if that person is telling you the true,
yes maybe 'she' has sent you pictures, maybe the pictures are the persons daughter or maybe even grand-daughter?
If you do go to meet her, make sure you go with a friend or one of your parents, incase they are not who they say they are.
Hope this helps
Hugs,
tasha x
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reader, Umari Solanthus +, writes (30 July 2008):
 Girls especially have to be very careful when they meet someone from the internet. We hear so often of teenage girls meeting someone from the internet and ending up in terrible situations because they didn't take the proper care. So it is no surprise this girl would rather you go to where she lives. It's her own territory, and she knows the area, and she will feel much safer.
How long have you two known each other? If not long, then you should not even consider meeting up just yet. Especially when you do not have your own means of getting there. If your parents have said no, you should abide by them and not go, and just continue chatting with this girl and getting to know her more, her getting to know you, and developing a basic trust that could develop in the future.
You should not be worrying about her meeting another guy. You are still young and have plenty of time for stuff like that. I understand you don't want her to, but even if you did meet her in person she could still find someone else after that, so you shouldn't even worry about that, because it could happen anyway. But, if she likes you as much as you like her, then she should be fine just seeing you on-line.
Do not run away for a day. I apologise for saying it, but you are still too young to begin running off to meet a girl in secret. Do as your parents say, and stick to on-line chatting. It's much safer, for you and for her, and it will stop your parents worrying about you. They're interested in your safety as well, you know. Maybe when you turn 16 you could ask again. By then if they still say no you are of an age to make your own decision and meet her yourself if you wish.
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reader, Angela.B +, writes (30 July 2008):
 You are, or should be, aware of the standard advice given to people meeting someone off the internet. Meet somewhere public, with plenty of people around and so on. All these things are said so that you can ensure that you are safe.
Part of the reason why safety is so important is that you can never be sure what the person you are meeting is like. They may seem nice online, but how can you be sure? For that matter, how can you be sure they are a 15 year old girl!?
Of course, the chances are that she is exactly who she says she is, and is lovely, sweet and all the things you hope. But you still have to be safe.
She will be thinking all the same thoughts about you and worried about protecting her own safety and has decided, quite fairly, that she will be safer meeting you somewhere that she knows rather than travelling to a strange place. I don't think that is unreasonable.
Your parents will be thinking much the same things, as well as being concerned about you travelling by yourself if you've not done it before, and therefore have good reasons to say no to you.
This leaves with you 3 options.
One, as you say, is to ignore your parents and go anyway. This would be a very bad idea, because if something did go wrong they would have no clue where you are, and even if it all went well they would probably find out about it anyway. At your age you should be earning their trust and confidence so they feel able to let you do more things, not showing them that you are young and prone to making rash decisions.
The second is to try to convince them that you are sensible enough to make the trip. Find out all the information about your journey (times, costs etc), how you will pay for it, where you are going, where you will be meeting and so on. Show them that you have planned it all out properly and sensibly and see if that is enough to convince them that this is both important to you and within your capabilities to do.
The third is to accept your parents decision and hope that this girl likes you as much as you like her and will wait to meet until you are old enough to make the trip.
I would suggest trying the second option and if that doesn't work, the third.
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