He's the only person I've had sex with, should I have a fling?
Q. I asked a question on this website nearly 2 years ago whether to stay with my boyfriend or move on, I decided to stay with him. We subsequently moved to a different area. The problem started exactly this time last year where I was starting to have ...
A. 16 May 2010: First off a "fling" probualy wont be a fling and will probualy have a viscious cycle on you and not only is having an affair with a married man bad because you may screw up everyones lives around you such as your parents, family, your boyfriend's, ... (read in full...)
Does my fiance have something to hide?
Q. My fiance and I bought a house in July. Turns out, a woman he knew in high school (also friends with her family) lives 1 mile up the road. He hadn't seen her since high school, but when she found out where he lives, she stops to see him. She has ...
A. 15 May 2010: I doubt he has anything hiding from you and i doubt he would cheat on you, but he shouldnt of yelled and say "I dont have to answer to anyone but himself." was a bad call on his part because as husband and wife do or atleast should answer eachother ... (read in full...)
Girlfriends sexual past is causing trouble for me...
Q. I just found this site and decided to ask about something that is causing me trouble to see what others think. I have been with my current girlfriend for two years... She is older than me, and I was a virgin when I met her which I think is one of ...
A. 15 May 2010: Look even though you seem to not being able to satifie her she's with you because she wants to be with you and not another guy and this is not the past but the present and later, the future. As for not geting as "wild" then since your a virgin then ... (read in full...)
I need space from my husband of 25 years. How do I tell him?
Q. Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles, I posted a message a couple of weeks ago and had some good advice from some kind people. My previous question to you was whether I should leave my kind, caring, loving, gentle and attentive husband of 25 years be...
A. 15 May 2010: zayla80 is correct and not only did you cheat on him and gave him false hope for 25 years but your husband in his case will probualy be on this very site asking "im so lonely, i wasted 25 years of my life to the women whom i loved but never loved ... (read in full...)
Did I spoil her...? Did I do something wrong???
Q. Hello everyone, i love my girlfriend and we have been together for 1 and a half year. I am 20 y.o and she's 19. It’s our first real relationship. We are comfortable with each other, since we spend a lot(!) of time with each other. Before i sta...
A. 15 May 2010: Although zayla80 is mostly right about how you need to settle it and try to make your girlfriend gratefull and all their are some things you shouldnt say like how you ask her to get her parents to do things because when my sis moved out aswell we ... (read in full...)
Women, what is this?
Q. Well this is embarassing. I don't have any idea what this is. Earlier today I went to the bathroom after this I was about to take a shower when all of a sudden all this white discharge came pouring from me down my legs. I don't think I have an ...
A. 15 May 2010: Mabe just and discharge that just happened to discharge alot but i think its because it was just cleaning itself because girls have self-cleaning sex organs.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my partner I was abused when I was younger... by my brother?
Q. When I was a child I was abused (sexually) by my older brother. I've had no contact with him for years except for the past year when my father got sick and he was there. Aside from my mom, the rest of my family does not know about it. Being in my ...
A. 15 May 2010: I say yes if you trust and love him because if something happens to devulg your information or come back to haunt you in some way then your boyfriend would have a hard time understanding whats wrong when he wants to comfort you and same goes with ... (read in full...)
A very complicated mess with my wife, the girl I lost my virginity to, my best friend and now the boy I have found out is my son......
Q. When I was in school I was on the swim team. We had an away meet which was the regional meet so the school put us up in a hotel. This wasn't chapperoned very well and I went to the room of some girls from a school that was from a rival school in ...
A. 15 May 2010: This is sorta weird... did your brother in law hook up with her w/i the year of conception when she didnt even look pregnant because that seems strange that he would be able to know if a chick was pregnant ... well all considering that he was your ... (read in full...)
Could it be obsession or destiny?
Q. i am really confused, i had this guy that had a major crush on me back when we where in elementary school, we met on his first day of school, i was playing hop scotch with my friends and my mom started talking to his mom, i noticed him immediately ...
A. 14 May 2010: He's not a phyco because if he's loved you for 21 years then thats great because their have been people in love WAAY longer and marriage is just the same... some people in marriage love eachother well past 20 years, and you love him too, right? I ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that this might end up being a sexless marriage! Help!
Q. I got married four months ago to a man I badly knew intimately. I have come to realise that he is impotent. He's older than me by 14 years, I am in my mid-30s. He's not opened up to me about his condition, but I notice he hardly sustains an erection ...
A. 14 May 2010: Go consult a doctor their medicines and products that can help him and remember that your together because love eachother and comfort him about his problem. Stress/tiredness can also cause impotency. As for the premature i think their is a product ... (read in full...)
Why cant he just tell these other women he is married to stop them flirting with him?
Q. Hi, My husband's exes are getting in touch with him, calling and sending texts even though he doesn't answer them. I do understand that he is committed now but the problem I have right now is that this line they are texting and calling he got afte...
A. 14 May 2010: He may just seem as old friends to him. I meen their are alot of people being rejected or becoming exs that want to become friends but for the fact that he doesnt even pay attention to their texts is good.
But if you still bother about it... just... (read in full...)
I married him so I wouldn't lose my best friend, but I don't want to kiss him
Q. It may not seem serious to u, but am desprate... He is everything any woman whould want in a man, he loves me so much. I have known him for 4years now... We got married last year, I married him not b/cos I love him,but b/c am use to him, he's my ...
A. 14 May 2010: Mabe you just havent made love with him for awhile? if so then seduce him. lol. And its obvious that you love him alot even if you imagine that sorta stuff, and its OK if you do aslong as you dont actualy act on that imagination
because you'd trul... (read in full...)
Do you think these are good gifts for my boyfriend's 17th bday?
Q. Hi, it's my boyfriend's birthday tomorrow and I urgently need to know if what I've got him is an ok present. We're 17 (well, he will be tomorrow) and have been together over a year. I got him some fred perry trainers and a wallet. I also got him a...
A. 14 May 2010: This is an amazingly sweet gift im sure he will be pleased or even embarased himself ;)... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and he wont marry me so I left him. Do you think he will come back to me?
Q. Hello. Me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years and are very much in love. We are now expecting a child together and happy. I want to get married before the child come but he doesnt. It means alot to me and its all i think about. We are both ...
A. 14 May 2010: Well saying some thing like "i can no longer be unhappy" is something that could make a guy not even talk to you because he may be depressed or fear of akwardness, but if he was'nt willing to take responsibility then he's the worst but if he truly ... (read in full...)
I need him to grow up!!!
Q. hi, I am 20 years old and my bf is 23, we meet usually twice a week, for sex most of the time, he only text me, no calls! I'm the one who rarely calls.. we had a great romance a long time ago, he is my first real bf and I still love him like I did ...
A. 14 May 2010: I dont believe you should listen to Tisha-1 on the question for her answer can easily turn to disaster even if her bf didnt want it to because this can cause him to not even try to contact her even after her fake out because he may already feel ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is crumbling after I had to move in with him!
Q. I recently became homeless and was forced to move in with my boyfriend. Now our relationship isn't the same and it seems to be crumbling down. We're always fighting and it seems like every little thing we do or say gets on each other's nerves. What ...
A. 14 May 2010: Just sit down and talk CALMLY and i stress calmly because if you just start raising your voice back at him then it wont do any good but bad even if your not at fault. Then see work out your problems together. He may also be stressed from something ... (read in full...)
Help!! Where did I go wrong???
Q. Hi, I've always known that a close female friend of mine has had a thing for me. I've always had a soft spot for her, but never really acted upon it. Until recently where I realised I've liked her, and always have done. We've always been text...
A. 14 May 2010: Ight... the first 2 answers are completly right. But i think you should confess saying what you just said to us! What you said to us is more than enough to figure it out except you should condense it more... and use less what have i done... either ... (read in full...)
How can you tell that hes not after your money or expect you to pay for things?
Q. i am new to the dating world, here goes. i have been dating a guy for the last 2 months. at first 3 dates he paid for everything a gentleman and now we share which im happy with. my question is i dont know if expecting too much from him, but how i...
A. 14 May 2010: Although it does seem like it.. do you know if he's wealthy? if he's not he mabe in a rut aswell on cash or not notice he didnt bring enough on him to pay... Even still he should suck it up and bring enough money to atleast pay for himself,... (read in full...)
How do I get my point accross and tell him that his porn watching is affecting our marriage?
Q. My husband is very addicted to porn. i have asked him over and over to stop, but he still wont. i have even threatened him with divorce and told him he would never be able to see his daughter. he still watches it. i feel like crap when he watches ...
A. 14 May 2010: Ight.... 3 things you can do... make yourself sexy and seduce him so he doesnt want to watch porn but you LOL. or... sit down and watch it with him because porn IS addicting and its probualy harder to quit than cigarettes... Ok then the final option ... (read in full...)
My mate was abused--how do I get her to go to counselling?
Q. Hi Me and my partner are engaged and we are hapy together. Although this, I want to know how best to cummunicate about the issue below:= My parner has gone through a touch sexual rough time and I feel that she is a bit too dependent on me...
A. 14 May 2010: Mabe you can consult a counselor on your own and get tips or pointers on things you should ask or do with her to comfort her or say that you dont want her to be scared anymore (if thats truly the case, which it most likely is) and try to get her to ... (read in full...)
Am I really attracted to my husband's best friend or is this only happening because my marriage is on the rocks?
Q. I fancy my Husbands best friend - is it just because my marriage is on the rocks? My husband and i have been together for 10 years but only married for 3. Earlier this year we began to have major problems in our relationship and therefore jointl...
A. 13 May 2010: right... their are ups and downs in a marriage and some lower than others but out of those, the ones that keep trying and wanting their marriage to work are the ones that get back up their (most of the time), so if you hang in there and discuss ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him that we are nothing but friends
Q. OK. i have a boy best friend and it seems like everyday we get closer and like each other more and more. i mean i like my best friend but i think he wants more than just a bff friendship. how should i tell him that it is nothing more than best ...
A. 13 May 2010: ight... you cant do anything until he says something to you because it will only bring him awkardness and ruin your friendship although its the same possibility when he asks you or something.
but if he does asks you out then say your answer sinc... (read in full...)
Serious relationship, or live my life as a young woman while I can? please help.
Q. guys and girls, i have a big problem. this may drag on so i apologise but im so confused i need to ask someone for advice. so please listen and give me any advice you can. i have been with my boyfriend for a while now. i love him very much but we...
A. 13 May 2010: .... "Ight" is what i usualy say when i start and answer but holy crap... i can tell you now that your obviously almost on the same boat with saying how much you care about him in one parapgraph and how much you say things like questioning and ... (read in full...)
G/f flirts every day and its really getting old!
Q. OK my girlfriend and i have been dating for 9months, we have are good days and bad days, i usually start the fights. ino were only in high school but she flirts every single day. it gets really old quick and i dont know if i should just take it or ...
A. 13 May 2010:
Ight... So.... just talk with and tell her that it hurts you when whe does that and if feels like she being taken from you. Tell that your jelous even if your a big macho guy but w/e cuz it's the truth right? and if thing dont go your way in the ... (read in full...)
I regret cheating on my boyfriend, but I just can't say "No"...
Q. Hi, I'm 20 and in a five year relationship with the best guy in the world. But recently I have been messing around with one guy I have become very attached to. It's been happening a few months. I love my boyfriend and am very happy in my ...
A. 13 May 2010: Ight, although this question has been up since 2005 im'a still say it... first you CAN'T be friend with him anymore or even have contact with him because it will only make you remeber and regret. Second... Tell your boyfriend what you have ... (read in full...)
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