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writes:I recently became homeless and was forced to move in with my boyfriend. Now our relationship isn't the same and it seems to be crumbling down. We're always fighting and it seems like every little thing we do or say gets on each other's nerves. What do I do to make the situation better for our relationship's sake? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks! I did exactly as you said and it worked. My boyfriend is acting more romantic now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): It's always hard to mesh 2 lives together, especially if it was more out of need then out of want. Both of you are used to your lifestyles. You should sit down and talk about what exactly your fighting about. When moving in together both people need to compromise. Also it's difficult to go from seeing someone only when you want to see them, to seeing them all the time whether you want to or not. You both need your alone time. Whether it's a hobby or going out with friends.
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reader, missyd  +, writes (14 May 2010):
i think you two should sit and talk. Your situation is not ordinary. Usually when a guy and a girl move in together it's because they want to, and they moving further in the relationship.
You say it in your question, you were forced. I'm not saying that you didn't want to move in with him, but maybe not now, not like that..
And he may feel the same way. Obviously you love him, you wouldn't try to enhance the context.
there's also the intimacy factor. the thing you did in your appartement alone, now you daily sharing.
there might be some things he can't do with you around or have to do. like keep everything tidy and clean.
and so do you. making a facial, or sleeping in your comfortable/teared/ugly/with cats on it/ shirt...
or vice and versa.
talk to each other, try to take it easy. put the good and the bad on the table, and fix this together. you can also try not to be always together. living together, hanging together.. do something on your own and him to. so you'll be happy to find each other home.
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reader, True +, writes (14 May 2010):
Just sit down and talk CALMLY and i stress calmly because if you just start raising your voice back at him then it wont do any good but bad even if your not at fault. Then see work out your problems together. He may also be stressed from something because afterall he is taking care of you because he doesnt want the person he loves on the street so try not to get too upset.BUT i'm sure although he's stressed he still want's to care for you. So... when he gets home have him lay down or sit and message him if the stress really is the believed case(which is most likely).
Well GL :)
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