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writes: Hi,I've always known that a close female friend of mine has had a thing for me. I've always had a soft spot for her, but never really acted upon it. Until recently where I realised I've liked her, and always have done. We've always been texting frequently to and fro, about general every day chit chat, light hearted stuff, and she lives with some of my other best freinds so I see her a lot socially.I confessed that I liked her and she reciprocated, everything was going really well and I was happy that I'd finally told her, we had arranged a day out together and started flirting a bit more. But all of a sudden, literally over the last week and a half, she appears to have done a complete 180, to virtually coming accross as not interested at all. It was only the weekend before last that she was telling a few of our good mutual friends that she liked me and that we had arranged a date. We have been out together with friends on nights out in between our admittance of feelings toward each other, and the proposed day out. I had been told to make a move on these nights, but i'll admit i pussied out, and decided to wait for another occassion perhaps, after all, what was the rush?As i said, over the last fortnight her attitude and interest levels have completely changed, and i naturally distanced myself as I felt as though i have behaved in a manner or done (or not done) something which has completely changed her opinion of me. I did reassure her that despite this, I was still interested etc. but the texts still dwindled in frequency, to none now in fact, and she hasn't expressed any feelings towards me. The date never went through which was meant to be the Sunday just gone, as I wasn't sure whether she still wanted to go, I did text the night before to see if she still wanted to, but she didn't respond till the next day saying she had arranged something with her family (which is true) and that we could do something in the week, again, no mention of this since. She's always been fairly active on my facebook and still is, commenting on things here and there, this was where it all kind of stemmed from between me and her.Can she lose interest just like that, despite having first indicated to a friend that she liked me months and months ago? I can't understand this. We have still been talking and laughing well when we have been out, and she still makes lots of eye contact, but again, what was once there, seems somewhat lost from her side. I have spoken to other people regarding this and they are none the wiser, and I have been assured there isn't another guy, for now.Can't figure this one out. She's been after me for months, and now she's so close to getting me she acts like I've done something unforgivable.I don't know how to rectify this, I've been afraid to text or call her, for fear of further rejection. What have i done?
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reader, True  +, writes (14 May 2010):
Ight... the first 2 answers are completly right. But i think you should confess saying what you just said to us! What you said to us is more than enough to figure it out except you should condense it more... and use less what have i done... either that or you should do what tisha-1 said and make a move and try to show interest instead of telling her.
**keep in mind**
The "period" answer could be correct aswell but i highly doubt it.
Well GL :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 May 2010):
 She hasn't lost interest. She's waiting for you to show actual interest, rather than "pussying" out again. By withdrawing from her, you've given her the idea that you're not really into her, that you've been basically pushed into dating her.
So if you like her, go for it. Ask her out, properly, NOT via text, with a phone call, like a gentleman, and make real plans for a real outing. Like a date, which is the whole point.
If you're not really into her, if you've been subtly or overtly forced into "asking" her on a date, then be honest and tell her that while you enjoy her company, you don't see yourself dating her.
She wants you to woo her. Go woo! Or tell her you won't be doing any wooing.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): maybe she's on her period. let it slide, give it a week or so. and resume chatting, hanging out, etc., good luck!!
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