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*obme
writes:I have been seeing my guy now for alomst a month and we have worked and known each other for over a year almost 2 years now. He used to call me nightly if not daily and thats because our schedules conflict with his band (his hobby) my kids, or our work schedules conflicting alot lately. I noticed after only seeing him at his house one night a week for 3 weeks now he is not calling me as much now.I am the one calling or texting if its late and I just want to check in with him before bed.We watch movies together and talk all the time when I am there just not always sexual but when it is its passionate alot. He says my name 3-4 times always during sex and I am all over him too.We will lay in bed and just talk alot and kiss here and there too.Its sweet.I am not being paranoid but wondering why he has not called as much and is busy I know sometimes but he always would hit me up, now nothing much.I asked if we could see each other two times a week since every thursday is long and alot we are losing touch in a face to face connection.He said he would let me know of course and we could do that on sundays and thursdays too. He used to bring up us all living together and now I dont hear that much too. I am wondering if it is all because he knows he has me now that he isnt keeping an effort up. Like he is comfortable now. I have no idea and we are so much alike and I know this and I just love spending time with him outside of work! Neither of us want to rush into anything but dont want to stop either. We both agreed we are too good together and damn near perfect alot too in a match.
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reader, tobme +, writes (9 March 2008):
tobme is verified as being by the original poster of the question UPDATE: Well I went to his house as usual on Thursday night like always. We always had our Thursdays together in the last month. Surprises all over that night!! He told me right away we need to "step it up" I asked do what? He said that we need to start seeing eachother more weekly and at least twice a week now. WOAH! :)How he misses me alot and that it is too long for Thursday although its before every weekend.We are keeping our thursday nights now trying to figure out what other night now too. That I am leaving to him since he is planning all that. I was told too that he loves this that and everything about me and I was happily shocked alot by kisses and hugs and holding me tight all through the movie I brought over to watch. We had a beer together afterwards, he kisses me and says happily "ohh I love the taste of beer in your mouth" kissing me. He loves new experiences with me and I see that now! Obvisously while I was wondering why he wasnt calling me so much was all because he was thinking about us and our relationship I think now. I cant wait to see him again and happy as ever we can see eachother two times a week instead of weekly now!! WOOHOO!! :) I am thinking this is going to be a great relationship! :) I know he is there for me 100% and he keeps reminding me that all the time. :)
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (2 March 2008):
 You've only been dating for a month. It is possible that the relationship is just fine and he's just busy. It is also possible that he is re-evaluating things. Just give him space, don't worry so much about it. It could very well be normal for him in a relationship to be distant from time to time.
Take it easy. I hope things are going well with you!
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reader, kendylsmom +, writes (2 March 2008):
 Well honestly maybe he is stepping back to see where he really wants to be. I would call him and ask him why he hasnt called so much. Maybe he just needs some space, if its meant to be it will be!
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