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writes:I recently went our to meet other coworkers on a night out for all of us.I met a cute guy that knew one of my coworkers.He ended up buying all my drinks and we talked for over 3 hours that night.He was the one that approached me and we had a hilarious fun night! As he was leaving we exchanged our numbers for home and our cells.He showed me that he added me to his cell and had my name on it.Asking that we could go out if I could always get a babysitter and I said yes.We hit it off so well that alot of my coworkers thought hey this guy will be with her for now on.They even took some pictures of us acting fun.Well its been 3 days and I did call him the next nite to say thanks for the drinks and a great time and he can call me whenever and have a great night! I left it on his voicemail.No call from him that have been returned and I am confused..I thought we hit it off! He kept saying something about me has him intrigued.My fellow coworkers have said he is using the 3 day rule thing on why he isnt calling..I have no clue why he wouldnt since he was the one that approached me and bought the drinks and stayed around to talk all night!I am pretty new on the whole dating scene as I was married for 12 years and now happily divorced and starting over!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): ..maybe he's married, that's why mine won't call...
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reader, tobme +, writes (19 November 2007):
tobme is verified as being by the original poster of the question So I texted him last nite and he replied and we texted back and forth for almost an half hour this morning and he said he would call me laters and was excited to hear from me ..saying COOL and hey how are yas? That he didnt have my cell and said in the text my home number and repeated the number to the T.Said he was happy to now have my cell now too. I know he works in a mill and this time of year they are busy alot too. He is working major overtime and on weekends now.I guess I should just wait and see.. :) Surprised he had my home number still and recited that.Why he hasnt called is my guess that he is tired and busy alot.Working 7 am till 7 pm 6 days a week.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): Well if you called him the next night and he hasn't replied yet that's not a good sign. Maybe he felt you are needy. I mean, sometimes when I hit it off good with someone and end up talking all night long with them and they call me soon I get like sofocated. And it makes the guy look real needy. Also, if you have a kid(s) he might be thinking about it twice. I hope he calls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): Well it could be lots of things. It could be the "3 day rule" but as you called him first, I don't see why he wouldn't just call you back. Well what is his status?? I mean has he too been married and does he have kids of his own as well??Because if he doesn't have kids, I have heard from guys your age who don't have kids, say that they would rather be with someone who doesn't have kids either. It is possible, NOT CERTAIN, that he may have had second thoughts about it once he sobered up when he thought about the fact that you have kids. Its ONLY a possibility. Cause I'm sure, some guys wouldn't mind. On the other hand, maybe he was just looking for someone for that night. I mean you don't know this guy. Maybe he has a girlfriend. But who knows, maybe he will call. Since you are 'new' to the dating scene, I have several rules that I always follow. First, I always wait for them to call FIRST. If they don't call within a week, I move on. Second, I never let myself become infatuated from a first impression. NEVER. Cause usually you have to go through dating about ten guys before you meet the 'right' one. And when you are 'new' to the dating scene sometimes it is easy to fall into the pattern of becoming infatuated too soon and expecting too much too soon with the first guy that comes along. This can scare guys away. Also, don't worry so much what your coworkers think. They just want to see you happy but nobody knows you better than yourself. So who cares if they think you two looked cute together or whatever. My friends have thought that I have looked real cute with some guys who personally I don't like. So judge this relationship not on their opinions but solely by your own. Look, I would just let it be for now. If he calls then great. And if he doesn't, oh well. Don't let that get you down. But don't expect anything not just in this instance but in general. The rule to being successful in the dating scene is to keep your expectations at a minimum. I have hit it off with MANY guys who it didn't work out with. The less expectation you have going into this, the better off you will be, and the higher your chances will be of hitting it off with someone. Just let it be.
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reader, Come talk to me  +, writes (17 November 2007):
Hey ok so this must be a confusing time for you but you must take some questions in to cosideration have you thought that maybe he has lost your number or not able to talk but if this is not the case then maybe he had fun but felt that there is no chemistry dont get down about it pick yourself up dont wait act on it do tell me what you think .
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