Would you stay in an orgasmless marriage??
Q. Where do I start..... As a single, I was very sexual and had multiple partners both male and female. I met my now husband this way so he knows what my past was like. I have always wanted sex with multiple partners, but for many years I let...
A. 26 June 2008: I would not stay in an orgasmless marriage. We are all sexual beings and the thought of not having an orgasm is horrible. You mentioned that you have kids and are worried about your kids. I'm not sure how old they are, but don't sacrifice your own ... (read in full...)
I really like him but I'm unsure whether he's just in it for the sex.
Q. okay, so i met this guy at my school, who im gonna call "travis" (not his real name). we have been talking for a few months now about dating, but when we discussed sexual circumstances, it was a little awkward. he is three years older than i am, ...
A. 26 June 2008: This guy is a player. If you're not going to sleep with him, he's not going to hang out with you. It seems to me that his libido is extremely high and is not willing to wait for someone like you. I think you should kick this guy to the curb and move ... (read in full...)
Just out of a bad relationship, how do I get over it?
Q. Hello there, I need some help getting over this guy. I wrote yesterday but didn't get much replies. Thing is now we're on a break, but I'm sure he'll break up with me anyway. Ok, so here it goes. We clicked from the beginning, amazing chemistry...
A. 26 June 2008: He's using the guilt card against you to make you feel bad. Since you feel bad about lying to him, you feel that you owe it up to him, right? So you ditched your friends, you didn't get mad at him when you found out he wasn't studying, you seem give ... (read in full...)
Can I get back with my ex by just being friends at the moment?
Q. Is it possible for be to get back with my ex? We didnt leave it on bad terms and i have seen her a few times since we split up. But i know she wasnt happy the way the relationship was and she said she just wasnt been herself and felt so sad. We ...
A. 26 June 2008: It is possible, but the relationship has failed once. If you want to get back with her, being friends is a step, but you shouldn't wait forever. It's possible that you will only develop an even greater friendship which may not be your intended goal. ... (read in full...)
How do I make sure I'm not sending mixed messages?
Q. What can I do to ease the transition from lover to friend? I finally broke up with my boyfriend after a year because his mental health was ruining our relationship. As a result he took an overdose of 64 paracetemol and is now in hospital. I've ...
A. 26 June 2008: The transition is a very difficult one especially if one still clings onto the past relationship. The best method is for you to distance yourself away from him if he still clings on to you. It seems very clear that you only view him as a friend, but ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work out despite the opinions of others?
Q. hi, im 14 and in a realtionship with a boy at my school. we both believe that we are one anothers soul mate (yes it sounds corny but im serious)isnt it normal that parents should be supportive of their daughter's relationships? well mine arent ...
A. 26 June 2008: It is possible, but the people around you are older and more experienced. They see things that you may not see and what they say is out of love and not to spite you.
Understand that your parents, family, and friends may say certain things b... (read in full...)
How can I be sure I lost my virginity?
Q. well i had sex with my boyfriend. who is 19 and i am 15. yes i love him and i know he loves me and i dont regret doing it with him. but i didnt feel much pain so how am i sure i lost my virginity without telling my doctor?...
A. 26 June 2008: If you have been penetrated by a penis, then you are not a virgin anymore. A lot of people believe that if you break the hymen, a layer of tissue outside the vagina that partially covers the opening, then you're not a virgin anymore. But the h... (read in full...)
Crush on my friend's little sister
Q. I think I have a crush on my friend's little sister. The problem is she's turning 13 and I'm turning 17. I have a feeling most people will dissaprove because of the age difference. What do I do?...
A. 26 June 2008: A general rule that I keep is to not date any of my friends' sisters. You're a bit older now and you should understand that there's a chance if you pursue this relationship and things go bad, your friendship may be lost. However, the age differen... (read in full...)
I'm very worried about this! My gf is on the pill and has been dripping with red and brown stuff...
Q. hi there i am worried and badly need help and a load of weight of me mind. bascially my girlfriend has been on the pill for about 2 to 3 weeks now and last night me and my girlfirend had sex without protection, she said it will be ok because she w...
A. 24 June 2008: There is approximately a 95% chance that she will not get pregnant, but that means that 5 out of every 100 people who are on birth control will get pregnant. ALWAYS use a condom, even if she's on the birth control pill. You don't want to be s... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and am not sure I can continue this relationship. Am I over-reacting?
Q. Ok I met this lovely girl 6months ago when i was on holiday in another country. We were instantly attracted and had a holiday romance for a week. I expected nothing to come out of the relationship. Then we communicated online and she flew to my ...
A. 24 June 2008: My suggestion to you is to stop wasting money on this woman. Women have needs just as men do and when you're not there to satisfy her needs, she'll find it somewhere else. To find out that she has been on anti-depressants make it worse since this ... (read in full...)
Can love really happen this fast?
Q. I met a wonderful woman online a few weeks ago. It took me one week to fall in love. I met her online first, and in only one round of email correspondence back and forth, we both had made one Hell of a connection. We both immediately sent our ...
A. 24 June 2008: It's true that love doesn't have a time table, but for love to happen this quickly? I'm highly doubtful, but I wouldn't say impossible. From what I've read you guys are in that "honeymoon stage." Everything is going perfect, you can't stop hanging ... (read in full...)
I miss the romance! Is he losing interest?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We started out as friends and slowly (VERY slowly) progessed into a comitted relationship. In the beginning he would do such cute, sweet things for me. For example, he brou...
A. 24 June 2008: It's also possible that this guy isn't for you. You're still young and you seem to want more than just what you have at the moment. If where you're at makes you unhappy, then this relationship isn't for you. Just my thought. Best of luck to ya!... (read in full...)
I don't understand, is he jealous?
Q. This guy who i think likes me,but claims not to. i think he is mad because another guy said i like another dude i work with. Usually i would drop him off but today its like he didnt even want a ride because of what another coworker said. well thats ...
A. 24 June 2008: It's a possibility that he's jealous, but I would recommend NOT having a relationship with someone at your workplace. If things don't turn out the way it suppose to be, things can get really ugly around the office.
My question is, are you interest... (read in full...)
I love her and I trust her, so why do I get so jealous?
Q. Ok, well i have been in a relationship with this girl for eight months. I know i love her, if anything happened to her i swear i would die. And i know she loves me. I really think im the problem though. I trust her, i know she would never cheat on ...
A. 24 June 2008: It sounds to me that you're trying to protect your relationship by not allowing any outside influences affect your relationship. You're afraid that she might leave you and you act the way you do. As many others have posted already, you should have ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my online friend for a date?
Q. This girl is sending me signals.. But I've never met her, was supposed to hangout but never did and now I dont know how to approach her. I've only talked to her through the computer and she hasn't been dating but she wants to date. I really like...
A. 24 June 2008: I think that gabberjackranch says it best when she said to "just ask." I've met many people from online before for friends and dating. The only way to meet is to be the one to ask and set up something. If your conversations are as well as they ... (read in full...)
It's been three years but I'm still not over her!
Q. How do i get over her from 3 years? I mean I worked through it and lstened to everyones advice and I have been doing that for the past 3 years, but its still very hard for me. I still have to see her at church every weekend and her friend are my ...
A. 24 June 2008: I don't think you did the no contact and sacrifice that you were suppose to do. You still see her at church every weekend and your friends have a link to her. You need to sever that link in every way and over those three years I can see why you ... (read in full...)
Is she still in love with me?
Q. ok i use to date this girl we went out for about three months everything was going ok then we broke up...it all started going bad when she told me she kissed anotha boy and me i count that as cheating...but i didnt breake up with her i stayed with ...
A. 24 June 2008: Why are you so caught up with this person? You're reading into the lines way too deep. I believe it's a natural reaction for a young person to respond with "I love you, too" when someone says "I love you." So in essence, she is not in love with ... (read in full...)
We just click and get on completely, but I'm worried about the past violence stuff
Q. Hey, im in a bit of a perdictement here... Iv been seeing this lad, and i really really like him and always have, im just a bit concerned about his past anger problems.. He really is the nicest guy ever, the sweetest and the loveliest, just he's had ...
A. 24 June 2008: That's his problem and his issue. You should find someone else. There is definitely someone out there that is better for you. You shouldn't make large compromises to make this relationship work. He's known to hit his ex, violence used on his sister, ... (read in full...)
Why do nice guys finish last?
Q. I would say I fall into the 'nice guy' catagory and yet everytime I ask a girl out (and I've done this many times) they say no and end up with some jerk who just wants to use them. I don't even think there is anyone even remotley interested in me. H...
A. 24 June 2008: As someone mentioned previously, personality traits are apparent when you compare a nice guy and an asshole.
A majority of women find the jerk more appealing because of confidence. Generally speaking, nice guys don't have the kind of confiden... (read in full...)
My sister keeps fainting. Does anyone know what it might be?
Q. My little sister keeps on fainting. It's pretty scray. She says that it only happens when she's really tired. She'll get up out of bed or from sitting down and a few minuets later she'll hit the deck. I saw her faint this morning (It was the f...
A. 23 June 2008: The way that you're describing the symptoms may indicate that she was having a seizure, which may happen when blood flow to the brain is stopped for a period of time. Susan mentioned that your sister should get an electroencephalogram, which is an ... (read in full...)
We split after 4½ years. Is there a chance we could get back together?
Q. My girl friend and I split after 4 half yrs because she says that we just can't live together anymore, because there are issues that need to be fixed. She wants to stay friends and adds that once we both fix our issues we can see what happens, she ...
A. 23 June 2008: There is a chance for you to work this out and get back together as a couple, but I'd suggest that you take your time alone and use it to reflect on your entire relationship and most importantly the issues you're having problems with. I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? Or am I one of those people who can't?
Q. I am fifteen years old, and my ex boyfriend and I we're dating for around seven months. October 12 07 - May 9th 08. We had alot of unprotected sex, and it started in febuary and ended early June. I never have got pregnant but I've had alot of ...
A. 23 June 2008: I agree with smiles on this subject. There is a possibility that you will be bleeding or spotting if you are pregnant. Technically, when you're pregnant, your menstrual cycle is disrupted, so you shouldn't be having your period, but there are times ... (read in full...)
She doesn't believe in sex before marrige, how can I bring her around?
Q. Hi, I'm 19 and from the UK. I've been living in Banff, Canada for the summer and have met a girl that I really like who's a similar age. We've got with each other a few times and I've slept round her house after nights out and what have you......
A. 23 June 2008: I agree with lazyguy's comment. You're leaving back for the UK at the end of summer. Sounds to me as if you just want a story to tell back at home with your friends. Sorry to say, but you're too immature in your way of thinking. It's possible that ... (read in full...)
I suspect I have been dumped because of her friends. Would it be wrong and stalkerish to message one of her friends about this?
Q. I need someone to smack some sense into me. I get the feeling that part of the reason this one girl dumped me (dated 2 months, long distance, she's 20 in college, I'm 23 out of college) was because of her friends. I never met them and I probably ...
A. 23 June 2008: The age difference from 23 to 20 isn't large at all, but I suggest that you forget about this girl. What good would it do you if you did find out that it was her friends that influenced her to dump you? Nothing will change. You're still single, so ... (read in full...)
Are these fortune tellers giving me false hopes?
Q. Hi, I broke up with my b/f, I felt depressed so went to see several fortune tellers. They were pretty accurate about some stuff...and 2 of them said that my ex likes me a lot and he would come back next year. I dunno if this is giving me false hope...
A. 23 June 2008: As someone stated previously, the reason you're seeing these fortune tellers is to seek an answer that you were looking for: your b/f coming back with you.
It is false hope that you went out to seek. If he's not willing to make sacrifices for you ... (read in full...)
Does he have anger issues, or do most guys act like that?
Q. Is it normal for a 21 year old guy who is a total video game freak, to get really - and I mean really upset when he is losing in a game? He starts cursing so bad, over and over and then punches the couch if he loses. When I say "that sucks I'm sorr...
A. 23 June 2008: The upset and frustration of losing to other human players in a video game is similar to any sport in real life. The games that I've played are EXTREMELY competitive and I've seen many players become violent, not towards other people, but at ... (read in full...)
What's a good movie genre for a date? I want one that will make it easy to touch her hand or kiss!
Q. i'm due to go on date to cinema with my friend. I want to kiss her, but problem is there's no romantic film out to watch, in fact there's so many horror movies. Is horror movie good to watch? Any genre film which will make her or make it easy for me ...
A. 23 June 2008: Personally, I wouldn't plan my date around a movie since most of the time you're not talking with her. Perhaps after a movie, go to some place and chat it up and if things are right, you'll get that kiss you wanted. But remember not to expect it. ... (read in full...)
Is it true love?
Q. ok. well i am 16 and my girlfriend is 15(almost 16) We have been going out for 4month. We have not once argued at all. We have spoke about adding sex and had sexual intercourse. We are still fine together. We are always together almost, as soon as ...
A. 23 June 2008: Considering your age and the amount of time you've been with her, I'd like to call this the "honeymoon" stage. During the first few months (even possibly years), this honeymoon stage is by far the best part of the relationship and I believe that is ... (read in full...)
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