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writes:My girl friend and I split after 4 half yrs because she says that we just can't live together anymore, because there are issues that need to be fixed. She wants to stay friends and adds that once we both fix our issues we can see what happens, she still loves me, wants to be with me, but right now she can't. Is there a chance that we could work this out and get back together as a couple?
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reader, theOC +, writes (23 June 2008):
There is a chance for you to work this out and get back together as a couple, but I'd suggest that you take your time alone and use it to reflect on your entire relationship and most importantly the issues you're having problems with. I wouldn't want to smother her at all with rings or flowers because in the end, you'll still have the same issues. The ring and flowers are only a temporary issue to the big problem.
I don't know what kind of issues there are, but you mentioned that you BOTH have some issues to fix. It could mean that she has some issues with herself and doesn't love you anymore. From my experience, for someone to say they want to stay friends is a red flag that they don't have the same type of compassion as they use to and is a cheap way out of a relationship. Take this time to reflect on what has happened. Hope to hear an update from ya! Best of luck.
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reader, anathaniel  +, writes (23 June 2008):
 What are these "issues" that need to be fixed?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (23 June 2008):
Well, she's said that if you sort out the issues then you can see what happens - she can't be much clearer than that.
Make sure you know what the issues are and then work on them. Give her a ring and ask, for either one at a time or all at once. Tell her how much you want to work things out and sending the odd bunch of flowers wouldn't go amiss either. Prove to her that you are the man she wants in life.
Simple as that.
Good Luck!! xx
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