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writes:I met a wonderful woman online a few weeks ago. It took me one week to fall in love. I met her online first, and in only one round of email correspondence back and forth, we both had made one Hell of a connection. We both immediately sent our phone numbers, and talked non-stop throughout the rest of that week. We met, and initially I just wasn't physically attracted to her. But because of the connection we had made and because of the shallowness I felt I was letting get the better of me, I decided to stay and let things play out. I'm super glad I did. I started noticing little things about her physical appearance I found attractive, and before I knew it she was as beautiful to me on the outside as on the inside. We've talked every day, throughout the day and night, and I feel like she's the one I've been searching for forever.I guess my question is, has this happened to anyone else, and have any of you found that the time taken to fall in love doesn't matter as much as if you really ARE in love? We've talked about this, and in both of our experience, usually love just doesn't happen this fast..but I've also never been in love this intensely..ever. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2008): Infatuation happens that fast. Love takes longer. Love is when people can be good to each other even when one or both are in a bad mood, sick, upset, scared, mistaken, or being a pain in the tuckus. Love is a lot of work but the best thing in life.It took me about 20 minutes to "fall in love" with my husband. It took about 2 years for the passion to wear off, but the love has lasted for lessee, about 16 years now. We're doing great still, and we even still have that spark once in a while.Passion without love, or love that never had a spice of passion... neither of them are enough to make long lasting happiness in a relationship. Best of luck and hope it has finally happened for you!
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reader, Chumley2222 +, writes (25 June 2008):
Chumley2222 is verified as being by the original poster of the question All of the answers provided really help guys, thank you so much. I'm glad because I really feel like we're on the right track. My life had really been going downhill..and then she arrived and I feel like maybe..just maybe things will get better. Here's hoping, and thanks again!!
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reader, theOC +, writes (24 June 2008):
It's true that love doesn't have a time table, but for love to happen this quickly? I'm highly doubtful, but I wouldn't say impossible. From what I've read you guys are in that "honeymoon stage." Everything is going perfect, you can't stop hanging around each other, talk to other all the time, very very very very very happy. But it takes years to know who a person really is and in the short amount of time that you've spent with her, there's still lots for both of you to know about each other.
Since both of you are having a blast, congrats! It is rare that love moves this fast, but if it is love, best of luck to both of you.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (24 June 2008):
 You're most welcome!!
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reader, Artistry +, writes (24 June 2008):
 Hi, It hit you without face to face contact, you met her , didn't quite like her, then you hung around, got to know her snd really got to like her. Sounds to me like a country western love song.:o) Seriously, it has happened before. Someone I know, met a gentleman online, they wrote back and forth, talked on the phone, neither could stop giggling like
teenagers, the emotions took over and they both fell into a committed relationship, without ever seeing each other, face to face. They did exchange pictures. So it can happen, it does happen. Take your time, and get to know each other more, it can only get better, if you two as they say, are meant for each other. May your happiness grow, judge your relationship by what goes on, between the two of you. Good luck to both of you.
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reader, Chumley2222 +, writes (24 June 2008):
Chumley2222 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSee, THAT'S the answer I was looking for..I guess because I already knew it. Be DAMNED with what the 'status quo' is..we're both so happy and I'm going to take this ride as far as I can..but is that the consensus of others? I suppose only time will tell..Thanks Peter!
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (24 June 2008):
All right!! Put a point in Cupid's corner!!
If there's one thing I know now at the ripe old age of --*grumble-grumble*-- love moves at its own speed. As long as both of you are comfortable with the pace, be damned with what anyone else says!! But to answer your question, yes I know people that have fallen for each other without having see each other at all!
Go forth and be happy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Oh, I think love can happen that fast...but I'm not sure true, life lasting love, help clean up her vomit after the flu, sort of love can happen this fast. I don't doubt that the love you have is real...but give it time before you make any life long commitments. You need to see her at her worst, and vise versa until you will really know if she is the ONE. I pray that she is the one for you. Because there is nothing better in life that my Lord and Savior, and my husband and soul mate, and my two kiddo's.
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