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writes:Hey, im in a bit of a perdictement here... Iv been seeing this lad, and i really really like him and always have, im just a bit concerned about his past anger problems.. He really is the nicest guy ever, the sweetest and the loveliest, just he's had a bit of a violent past, out of the 2 years that iv known him iv never witnessed any of it, but he has apparently gone for his sister when she tried to wake him up, pinned her against the wall.. And he has hit his ex a few times too. But all along he's said that he dont even remember doing it, like it was a black out, an anger black out, when he hadn't really had a reason to be like that, wasn't provoked or anythin. Please help me out here because we both seriously like eachother and its pretty obviouse that things could be good with us. We just click and get eachother completely, im just worried bout the whole past violence stuff.. It was quite a while ago now but that dont mean anything really does it,.. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirstly id just like to say a big massive thanks to WizardOfWaz! Your spot on there, it was when he was younger, about 16 i think, (by the way im 18 just as im on here on my mobile the web's a bit dodgey and i couldn't select the right year) and he has matured majorly and grown up since then. So i get the feeling i can believe that he wont be like that again, but as i said you can never be too sure. And to whoever it was who wrote about the kid going to wake daddy up and the police or whatever, he's amazing round kids, he's been living with his sister for the last couple of years and she has 3 little ones ranging from the ages of 1 to 9. And he's never laid a finger on them! And to theOC, as iv said it was along time ago now and he was quite young at the time, he's grown up, he's had to. Just because of someones past doesn't mean dont give them a chance at all, if your reading this and think oh well she has no problem then, well i did, it was one of those things that niggle in your head and you have to get it out if you get me, anyways thanks again to those that posted their replies, and a special thanks to the Wizard dude lol x
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reader, theOC  +, writes (24 June 2008):
That's his problem and his issue. You should find someone else. There is definitely someone out there that is better for you. You shouldn't make large compromises to make this relationship work. He's known to hit his ex, violence used on his sister, and there's a high probability that he'll do it again.
He has a very serious issue and until he can get over it, I wouldn't recommend you stay in a relationship with him at all. It says you're only 16-17 which is VERY young. You will meet plenty of other guys out there in your academics.
The bottom line is if he ends up hitting you, that's your fault for staying in the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): Let me ask you this......Perhaps you and he decide to have a child together, and that child wants to go wake daddy up. How are you going to explain that to police and yourself? He needs help, as well as you.
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