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| Latest articles: To Change Or Not To Change... That is the Question?!
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11 August 2010: On so many occasions I have had friends, relatives and total strangers come to me with the same problem... "I think my partner is trying to change me" or "Maybe i need to change". The answer to this is simple!! No, You shouldn't need to change. ...
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To Change Or Not To Change... That is the Question?!
Q. On so many occasions I have had friends, relatives and total strangers come to me with the same problem... "I think my partner is trying to change me" or "Maybe i need to change". The answer to this is simple!! No, You shouldn't need to change. ...
A. 10 September 2010: Compromise goes without saying!!!! The change that you are referring to is what I would class as mutual changes! What I am referring to in this article is when shortly into a relationship people begin trying to change each other. I do not ... (read in full...)
Sex still hurts her
Q. alright so my girlfriend and i had sex for the first time like a month ago and we have had sex like 5 times sence and it still hurts her...why? shes always wet when we do? she said the first time it was really painfull and the more we do it the less ...
A. 14 August 2010: Hey there,
The best thing I can advise is that you take plenty of time with foreplay, although she is wet when you have sex she may not be particularly relaxed, especially if she is thinking it is going to hurt or be uncomfortable for her.... (read in full...)
How do we get our relationship back on track?
Q. we've been 9 yrs already and we're planning to get married nxt year. however something is wrong. We argue and fight most of the time on small things. he actually asking for time and space and I was feeling bad, thinking what to do.. I texted him for ...
A. 13 August 2010: Hey there,
You need to give him a little time and space if that is what he wants, it may just be that he is a little scared of marriage. I know from experience that planning a wedding puts a huge strain on any relationship. I think you shou... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be a virgin at 28?
Q. I'm a virgin at 28, is this wrong? I've 'technically' never had a girlfriend, but I did have a fairly decent amount of girls flirting with me back in college. I've also dated a few but we never officially had a relationship, although the dis...
A. 13 August 2010: Hey there,
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at all! The fact you are holding out for someone you love is quite inspiring, it also shows you have more willpower than most :)
I think if you are wanting to meet someone... (read in full...)
My girlfriend masturbates but doesn't want to have sex very much.
Q. I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 19. We've been dating for 7 months and just moved in together 2 months ago. We have had periods where we have had a lot of sex, but here recently it is just about 1-3 times a week, usually on the lower side. The thing ...
A. 12 August 2010: I think the best thing you could do is to just be honest with her. Talk to her in a calm environment and just express what you feel then give her a chance to do the same while you listen.
Successful relationships are built alot around communic... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing?
Q. ok i met a guy online. we were talking on the phone.. he used to flirt a lot.. and we used to talk about wat we want to do etc.. i want to be in a r/ship so i was second guessing his moves by then.. then i saw him comment on some girl's fb page.. ...
A. 12 August 2010: Hey again,
I dunno chick, the only thing I could recommend would be that you speak to him honestly. Get him by himself for a bit, perhaps go out somewhere together and find out what he wants. If you aren't comfortable just asking dire... (read in full...)
Should I helped my depressed ex?
Q. My ex gf has been in contact on and off in the past few months. after we broke up, we didn't communicate for around 6 months. Anyway, recently I believe she is suffering from depression or something similar. She told me online that she feels d...
A. 11 August 2010: Hey there,
My husband and my dad both suffer from depression, what you are describing sounds alot like it. She may not actually be that much of an awkward, difficult girl after all, she may have been suffering for a while. You should keep... (read in full...)
I love her and she loves me but she's dating my friend!
Q. Sooo Ive known this girl for 11 years now and ive always had a thing for her. Time went by and eventually she started dating my best friend. he treats her like crap and all i can do is watch. He recently cheated and i told her what happened. i ...
A. 11 August 2010: Hey there,
The first thing you need to take into consideration is that she stayed with him! Also I don't think you and him are really best friends, you are in love with his girlfriend and you seem to get on alot better with hr than you do w... (read in full...)
I kissed another guy! Help!
Q. recentally i had a campout with some friends, earlier in the day my boyfriends cusion told me that he had feelings for me, then later that night we kissed. my boyfriend found out and we had a massive argument and broke up but then he took me back ...
A. 11 August 2010: Hey there,
I think he will be thinking that you kissed cousin. Unfortunately these things can be forgiven but are never forgotten. I also always say that if you are willing to cheat you shouldn't be with your partner, when you truly love... (read in full...)
I can't remember my childhood!
Q. Don't know where to start but ill start with I don't remember anything about my childhood.. and when I try to remember I get this bad feeling type of deal.. I know I had my far share of bad things my best friend got tooken away and my great grandma ...
A. 11 August 2010: Hey there,
First of all you are in the age 13-15 bracket so you are still in your childhood. The times you can't remember are not that long ago, what exactly are you trying to remember? It may just be that you don't really have any mome... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing?
Q. ok i met a guy online. we were talking on the phone.. he used to flirt a lot.. and we used to talk about wat we want to do etc.. i want to be in a r/ship so i was second guessing his moves by then.. then i saw him comment on some girl's fb page.. ...
A. 11 August 2010: Hey there,
It sounds to me like you perhaps have a bit of a jealousy issue, the fact he would have been happy to delete her profile says it all. Saying you no longer want to speak to him may have been a little bit of an over reaction to t... (read in full...)
My bad back and her sex drive make it hard for me to walk!
Q. I usually date females that are older then me, but just recently I found a girl that I have a lot in common with and she is amazing. Well the problem part is that I have a terrible back for my age and it is hard to have sex most days. I mean at the ...
A. 11 August 2010: Hey there,
First things first, you HAVE to go to the doctors and be completely honest with them about how serious the problem with your back is! Covering up how much pain you are in will not help anyone. It will just mean that they can'... (read in full...)
I'm having second thoughts about this relationship, should I move on?
Q. I did a google search and read something on this site which was really close to my situation. I am 20 years old and I have been in a serious relationship with a 40 year old man for 8 months now.We actually have a long distance relationship an...
A. 11 August 2010: Hey there,
This is so familiar to things that I have been through.
First of all the fact that your partner is 20 years your senior means he is automatically going to have some trust issues, not only that, but he will constantly w... (read in full...)
Should we just put our fun in the past?
Q. Ah. ok how important is kissing?... me and this guy that i really like well (we have liked) each other on and off since 2008. Had a little fling before he went away to school. the week before he left he came over to my house friday he took me ...
A. 11 August 2010: hey there,
If you and this guy care for each other as much as it seems like you do, the distance shouldn't matter, although you have some trust issues it would be possible for you to work through them. If the feelings are strong enough neit... (read in full...)
I have been in love with this woman for over 30 years but she wont see me until I am divorced!
Q. Hi I am married with grown kids they are from 26 to 30 and I am still in love with my first love for over 30 years, and i contact her a few time but she would see me but not until I am divorced what do I do I going crazy! Help Im at my end...
A. 11 August 2010: Hey there,
Are you currently waiting on a divorce?
If not then you need to take into consideration that what you are doing isn't fair to your wife and kids.
If you have already separated then you an suggest to the woman you are in lov... (read in full...)
We moved too fast and now he just wants to be friends, will anything come of this relationship now?
Q. I was dating a guy and we hit it off and we really emotionally connected but defianetly moved too fast. The end result was that he freaked himself out by moving so fast and said that he wants to be friends and doesn't want to lose me as a friend. ...
A. 10 August 2010: Hey there,
Obviously every situation is different but i'll tell you what happened with me first. I met my other half in November last year, we got together the first week in december, we got engaged in february and got married in may. We s... (read in full...)
There's a chance I could be pregnant to my 18 year old cousin, but he already has a pregnant girlfriend!
Q. I need help when i was 13 i lost my virginity to my cousin i know what you are thinkin EWWW GROSS!! but i dont wanna hear it! well now im 14 and my cousin is 18 now and we still have sex once in a while and we use a comdom but im scared because i ...
A. 10 August 2010: Hi there,
First of all although in some places it is legal to enter into relations with your cousin. It is most certainly illegal to have sex with ANYONE at your age!! If somebody found out about it your cousin would be arrested, and he woul... (read in full...)
I feel I will always be second best in his life...
Q. Heys guys, i was wondering if you can give me an outside opinion... i have been with my partner for around 2 years now and to be honest we didnt start on the best grounds. in the first month of our relationship he has cheated on me with his ex g...
A. 10 August 2010: Hey there, It is not selfish of you to want time with your partner and I know what it feels like thinking you are second best (my husband spends all his time on his cars) Unfortunately the start of a new business IS extremely time consum... (read in full...)
My girlfriend masturbates but doesn't want to have sex very much.
Q. I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 19. We've been dating for 7 months and just moved in together 2 months ago. We have had periods where we have had a lot of sex, but here recently it is just about 1-3 times a week, usually on the lower side. The thing ...
A. 10 August 2010: Hey there, This could be a simple problem, Women when masturbating obviously know their own bodies, we can generally bring ourselves to climax alot quicker than if somebody else was touching us. The best thing i think you could do is to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend finds it really easy to lie to my face! Should I be worried?
Q. okay so basically, my boyfriend worries me. i don't know if he has mental health problems, as i wouldn't want to put a massive label on him, i'm not naive. he has no parents as he lost his mum due to drink 3 years ago, he's been dealing with an ...
A. 10 August 2010: Hello again, I think that perhaps he is struggling to cope alot more than he lets on. As hard as it is, when you see him starting an argument try going out for a walk, take a book or something with you, find a nice place to sit and just... (read in full...)
How do I go about contacting this man I met through work?
Q. hello everyone. I would like some advice please. I recently undertook a temporary job for 8 weeks and met some lovely people, in particular a nice man! I did not see him everyday for the 8 weeks, as he only worked for 3 days and only came back fro...
A. 10 August 2010: Hello again,
If you add him on facebook, he doesn't know it's because you really like him! As far as he is concerned you may just be trying to aquaint yourself better with those you work with.
It is surely better to try than to regr... (read in full...)
What are we doing wrong in this relationship?
Q. [OP original title] Hi, I really need help here as I'm in a confused state right now. My guy is 5 years younger to me. We started seeing each other 5 years ago. At the beginning of our relationship, he really showed his love and concern for me. ...
A. 9 August 2010: Hey there,
I think the key here is compromise... You are bound to find him immature in some respects, A) beacause he is 5yrs your junior and B) because men mature slower than women do.
As for his spending habits, try compromise o... (read in full...)
I'm hurting him but he won't let me go
Q. my best friend (a guy, im a girl) is on love with me and i dont feel anything back. its not just him i dont feel anything towards anybody or anything. i just dont care, im so apathetic. its horrible to see what pain i am causing him but he has said ...
A. 9 August 2010: Hey,
Have you tried speaking to him to explain that the feelings he has for you are not mutual?
If you have, and that hasn't helped you just need to somewhat distance yourself a little emotionally. Take into considerations things you may say ... (read in full...)
My (same sex) best friend is hitting on me! Help!
Q. can you help? i live an average life in uni, but i have a best friend and she is really cool and sweet but a bit too friendly recently. she is just my bestest friend, shes had more boyfriends and break ups than days in a year, and when she does ...
A. 9 August 2010: The answer to this problem is a simple one, all you need to do is talk to her... if you don't feel comfortable coming straight out with it then i would suggest perhaps hinting towards her sexuality and see if you can get her to open up to you about ... (read in full...)
How do I go about contacting this man I met through work?
Q. hello everyone. I would like some advice please. I recently undertook a temporary job for 8 weeks and met some lovely people, in particular a nice man! I did not see him everyday for the 8 weeks, as he only worked for 3 days and only came back fro...
A. 9 August 2010: Hi there, I would probably just go ahead and add him on facebook. The worst that could happen is that he ignores your request.
If he adds you then you can start chatting to him again, if you got on well together, as you said he was funny and a re... (read in full...)
My boyfriend finds it really easy to lie to my face! Should I be worried?
Q. okay so basically, my boyfriend worries me. i don't know if he has mental health problems, as i wouldn't want to put a massive label on him, i'm not naive. he has no parents as he lost his mum due to drink 3 years ago, he's been dealing with an ...
A. 9 August 2010: Hi there, I am 22 years old and have recently married my partner of only 8 months who suffers from mental health issues. I know it can be hard but this relationship will require alot of extra help and support from you. As much as you need to openly ... (read in full...)
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