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writes:Ah. ok how important is kissing?... me and this guy that i really like well (we have liked) each other on and off since 2008. Had a little fling before he went away to school. the week before he left he came over to my house friday he took me grocery shopping for my mom and when we came back home in the car we kissed and i got extremely wet! that never happened before from only kissin. then saturday he drove my aunt to the airport at like 3 in the morning,monday he came and met me after work in the city and went shoppingthat day we kissed again i didnt want to stop:) then the next day i had to go up to school and i got a text from him saying hes in front the school and he came and met me i was like ok...then we shopped a lil more, after we hung out on these days he would come over to my house till like three in the morning and jus chill and spend time with me or my brother playing video games, then one night him and my whole family went to the movies he sat next to me even tho we didnt kiss we fought for the arm rest(in a playful way) and jus basically did silly stuff like he wud pinch my knee hold my hand and i put my head on his shoulder. urgh this is the sad part we liked each other since 2008 but never tried till now and after this week even though we both know it was gonna come to an end he went to south carolina for two years to finish up school.I went with him to the bus terminal I didnt want to go I jus wanted to say our goodbyes at my house and him and his buddies go but he insisted i go, so i did:( Since hes been down there we speak alot. And alot of times even wen he was in new york he asked if we could try a relationship. I told him No. I dont trust him up to an extent a bad ex left me wounded. he is in south carolina and i know hes gonna meet new people girls. Im not gonna be stuck on him cuz if i meet someone new that is genuine I am gonna at least talk to them and see what they are about. But I dont want to lose this guy we have been friends since I was 11. I just never felt so at ease with someone kissing hanging out i dont have to go through the awkward stage of bringing him home to meet my family cause they all know him. Question is how do we keep the friendship even though one of us will be hurt wen the other moves on?I told him we can try to be good friends and we speak to each other about relationship. Or should we just put the past in the past?
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reader, T-Marie  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 hey there,
If you and this guy care for each other as much as it seems like you do, the distance shouldn't matter, although you have some trust issues it would be possible for you to work through them. If the feelings are strong enough neither of you will have a desire to cheat.
I think that you shouls at least consider trying a long distance relationship because surely it would be better to try and fail than to live in regret wondering what could have been.
Alternatively you could discuss the possibility of staying friends and if either of you meet someone then fair enough but when he finishes his schooling, if or when you are both single you could agree to give it a go then.
Hope this helps xxx T
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