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writes: can you help? i live an average life in uni, but i have a best friend and she is really cool and sweet but a bit too friendly recently. she is just my bestest friend, shes had more boyfriends and break ups than days in a year, and when she does break up, she ends up hurting and blaming herself and hating her life like an emo. recently she just broke up with [yet] another ugly hitler guy, and always comes to my crippes shoulders to cry on. it has been the longest single status shes had, 3 MONTHS, thats a record!! since then shes stayed with me to keep up her reputation, i dont mind, but shes gotten a bit too close and talking a lot about intimate stuff and looking me straight in the eye, i cant look back. i dont want to offend her but i think shes starting to give up men and hitting on women (ie: me :S) i live a very passionate life with my distant boyfriend, who im going on holiday with in a few weeks, during that time im worried she might do something we'll both regret.
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reader, T-Marie  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 The answer to this problem is a simple one, all you need to do is talk to her... if you don't feel comfortable coming straight out with it then i would suggest perhaps hinting towards her sexuality and see if you can get her to open up to you about how she is feeling. If it turns out that she does in fact like you as more than a friend all you need to do is politely explain that the feelings are not mutual, be sure to reassure her of your friendship though.
As for her being your bestest friend, i'm afraid to say that it really doesn't seem that way, just in the fact you were fairly quick to judge her relationships (not everyone meets somebody and has a long-term relationship, there are alot of factors to a relationship that have to be taken into consideration. Every relationship I had lasted around a month until I met my partner and now I am happily married)
You were also quick to point out the fact that she hurts herself, fair enough if it was out of concern but this felt a little more like you are fed up with her coming to you. Best friends should always be there for each other regardless of how often you must do it or how much of a burden it seems.
I hope this has helped xxx T
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