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writes:ok i met a guy online. we were talking on the phone.. he used to flirt a lot.. and we used to talk about wat we want to do etc.. i want to be in a r/ship so i was second guessing his moves by then.. then i saw him comment on some girl's fb page.. and it was like you're hot, haha.. so i confronted him and he said he was just commenting and if i was pissed he wud ignore or delete her from his friend list.. but still he never told me how he felt for me.. and i wanted him too.. so in the end i told him we shud stop talking.. so we did.. and then i came to know he was talking to the girl becos he wants to issue some bands in a magazine.. but still he had written one more suggestive comment on her page.. it was a month now.. and he writes to me.. "u still dont want to talk?". i told him no.. but now i feel like maybe im just being unreasonable..?
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reader, T-Marie  +, writes (12 August 2010):
 Hey again,
I dunno chick, the only thing I could recommend would be that you speak to him honestly. Get him by himself for a bit, perhaps go out somewhere together and find out what he wants. If you aren't comfortable just asking directly you can always do a bit of fishing for information, hints and related topics to get him talking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ tmarie- hey thnx he's actually frens wid some of my girl frens.. so its totally ok.. plus i think i can box him :)) haha
im just not sure what he wants... often he says we're frens but then continues to flirt... and i want to be in a stable committed r/ship so its frustrating.. its like im on a swinging pendulum... wat u reckon?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim not saying he is or was my boyfriend. wat im saying is i want one. because we had been talking for a while i started developing feelings. and he was flirting.. so i wanted him to tell me how he felt.. i asked him what is our relationship.. but he never told.. but still wanted to talk.. then i see him writing on some other girl's page.. and so i told him lets stop talking.. still i checked his fb and saw he had left another comment on the same girl's page.. so i forget about the whole thing.. a month later he mssgs me if i still dont want to talk to him.. i tell him no.. but im not sure if i did the right thing.. we live in two different places.. he lives like 3 hrs away from here.. and he used to often ask me to meet etc..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionplease can someone atleast answer.
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reader, xAx +, writes (11 August 2010):
 I think that you found a reasonable explanation and should give this guy another go.
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reader, T-Marie +, writes (11 August 2010):
Hey there,
It sounds to me like you perhaps have a bit of a jealousy issue, the fact he would have been happy to delete her profile says it all. Saying you no longer want to speak to him may have been a little bit of an over reaction to the situation i'm afraid.
You should get back in touch with him, if he has tried to contact you after a month then that tells me he is still very interested and always has been, otherwise when you stopped talking it wouldn't have phased him.
Just be careful, if you haven't met him he could be anyone. Make sure if/when you meet him you tell someone where you are going, make regular calls to them and have a set time to be back so that they can make sure you are safe.
Hope this helps xxx T
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