What is the normal sex range in a month?
Q. Ok so me and my husband have been married foer 4 yrs. He acts like he loves me he takes care of and our 3yrd.old son. He always tell me he loves me and our son but he don't show it he always too Bussy to spend time with us. he either to sleepy r to...
A. 4 April 2009: Are you concerned that your husband does not want to have any more children (because of your health), or because he does not want to have sex with you anymore? These two are very different issues. If he does not want any more children, both o... (read in full...)
I think I need more than just love.
Q. Is love enough? Or do I need more than just love? I'm dating a guy right now who is very loving towards me, both physically and emotionally. We are both in college. I will be graduating in May and will be moving to another state, and he will be i...
A. 4 April 2009: Yes, it could get a bit difficult later on in life. There is a big difference when one has potentials but decided not to optimize these potentials than those who have potentials but could not use them due to limitations or disabilities that are ... (read in full...)
Am I in any way tied to her after wearing that chain/necklace?
Q. i broke up with my gf recently ...we were committed for a year and were planning about convincing our parents for our marriage... but being only 17 always used to talk about our marriage and kids and was super excited which made me feel awkward ... ...
A. 4 April 2009: As Emily said, if you are the one wearing it, take it off and put it in box for safekeeping. She was a part of your life, and who knows. 30-40 years from now you'll come across this necklace (or her) again and you can smile and remember your teenage ... (read in full...)
How do you know if your man has cheated on you?
Q. [This is a follow up question to a previous posting: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-dont-know-who-to-believe.html) How do you no if your man has cheated on you, if u havent seen any signs,or never have thought he ever would cheat. u just hea...
A. 4 April 2009: Do you trust the people from whom you hear these rumours? Are they always reliable whenever they give information to you (i.e. in general, not just about your partner)? That is to say, if these "people" normally would spread/forward any other ... (read in full...)
HE keeps reminding me that I said we were just friends!
Q. I had been dating this guy for about 4 months; during that time things were ok, but never really felt he cared that much. so one day he had to leave to another state so we stopped talking. After a while he came back to stay here, so for sum reas...
A. 4 April 2009: To a certain extent, you know he is right. If we made a statement and then contradicts it with our actions, where would that leave us? So talk to him, and tell them how you feel about each other and that you wanted to get back together. Go... (read in full...)
Follow up: I'm interested in knowing what you think about me spilling the beans
Q. I had asked a question a couple of months ago and wow you all had it sooooooooo right! I'd been with a man (married w/sick wife) for over 8 years who swore up and down he was gona be with me....... Well, I found out through his "friend" that not ...
A. 1 April 2009: What is your objective when you spill the beans? Does it benefit anybody in a constructive or positive way? Will it bite you back in the ass if you did it?
As Klara said, he is no longer your concern. Rather than spending that energy in "prepari... (read in full...)
My Husband cheated on me. I do not know what to do !!
Q. Hi, I am going to describe my problem in two phases. Thank you for taking time to read this : Phase I I have been married to my husband for 5 years. we met on the internet on a chat site. We decided that we like each other and decided to mee...
A. 1 April 2009: Namaste, Sweta.
Congratulations on your new resolution to salvage your marriage. And I like your vows too! Now all you have to do is work hard to keep those vows! But if you have the strength and clarity to come up with a good SWOT analysis... (read in full...)
How long should you wait to go on a vacation with your boyfriend?
Q. How long do you wait to go on a (4) day vacation with your current boyfriend? Is there a time limit or just as long as you're comfortable with that person? ...
A. 1 April 2009: Vacation can be fantastic and full of joy when you are comfortable with each other. But, remember, when you are on vacation away from your regular "environment" you are basically away from your regular "support groups" (i.e. friends, family, ... (read in full...)
My husband is verbally abusive and has been physical lately too!
Q. Hello, I have been in a relationship for 15 years and we have an 11 year old daughter together, and he has 4 children from another marriage. We are not married, however he is verbally abusive and has been physical lately. It is hard for me to leave ...
A. 31 March 2009: You have the best advice already given by Britt429, who lived it and successfully rebuilt her life by refusing to stay a victim.
Couples have differences, arguments, "fights", debates, that is common and to be expected. Some do it more often th... (read in full...)
What I want is a deep passionate, yet reserved relationship
Q. I'm a 16 year old female and I've had one boyfriend, long distance and it didn't work out (2 years ago). I never really wanted a boyfriend and then it hit me one day that I'm lonely and want a romantic relationship. My problem? At school everyone...
A. 31 March 2009: To the OP: Smile! Don't let people get to you. Show them you are better than them ;-) Just say "Thank you, but lets just agree to disagree". Don't get tempted to then criticize them too in the same manner.
It is difficult to get "the whole pi... (read in full...)
Do you think chatting with people online is considered cheating?
Q. Do you think chatting with people you don't know online (like on adult friend finder" is considered cheating or almost cheating?...
A. 31 March 2009: It depends on a number of things, such as (a) knowing that people who go on sites to find "dates" or start a relationship, what is your intention on joining this site? If you are looking for a friend to chat, surely there are other options that you... (read in full...)
My Husband cheated on me. I do not know what to do !!
Q. Hi, I am going to describe my problem in two phases. Thank you for taking time to read this : Phase I I have been married to my husband for 5 years. we met on the internet on a chat site. We decided that we like each other and decided to mee...
A. 30 March 2009: Namaste, Shweta.
I can understand now why you wanted to to salvage your marriage. You are both victims as well as perpetrators of the domestic abuse. That is, if you are telling the truth in saying that 70% of the time, you hit him too. Which me... (read in full...)
I want to seduce my 26 year old gardener..not sure I remember how? HELP!
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a 46 year old lady and I fancy my 26 year old gardener. We are always flirting and now I'd like to make a move on him, hopefully get him in my bed. But the thing is, it's been so long since I've done anything like this that I'm not ...
A. 30 March 2009: If you watched "Desperate Housewives" - I think it was in seasons 1 and 2 - you will see how Eva Longoria-Parker seduces her gardener(s). But, she was married :-(
... (read in full...)
B/f is bipolar..but I don't think I deserve the treatment I get from him!
Q. My boyfriend is bipolar and he can really treat me like crap, he blames it on his emotions but I can't stop thinking that I don't deserve this. I love him and I want him to get better but how much of my happiness and my life do I give up before he ...
A. 30 March 2009: The thing with bipolar person is, that when they have an "episode" sometimes they do not realize that they are having it. Like any other disorders, there are degrrees or levels of this disorder, some "mildly" some "highly" affecting their daily ... (read in full...)
Me. my husband, my affair, my affair's ex-mistress, and my husband's affair
Q. Hello, I'm married for almost 10 years. I am having an affair with a married man since 2 years. First of all we are great friends, I frequently go to his place and I know his wife and children. He says I'm like his second wife. The problem is w...
A. 30 March 2009: The culture in India on what is "socially accepted" in a relationship is vastly different than in the West, so perhaps this forum is not really the appropriate one for your question. It is also interesting to hear that Karma - an aspect of Hindu-... (read in full...)
In society how do people view what old in age
Q. Mode note: This is a follow up question to http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-being-in-your-30s-young-or-old.html is 30 ,31,32,33 year old is old or young. or mature in comparison to some 27 years + is being 30 + old.in society is ju...
A. 30 March 2009: People always mistake me for my age. Professionally, they think I look too young. Men who are attracted to me are more often than not 10-15 years than my real age. I dated an older man before, and they thought I was half his age! Professionally, ... (read in full...)
I am afraid he will be gone by the time I get home today.
Q. Can some please give me some advice. I am living with my partner and we broke up on Saturday after a lot of fighting over stupid things. I am devastated and I don;t know what to do. We live together but I own the house. He is still there living o...
A. 30 March 2009: I don't know the "frequency" of these fights over "stupid things", but if his response is "he's had enough", it sounds like these fights are just a tad too much or too often for his liking. If such is the case, then you need to "self reflect" and ... (read in full...)
Natural remedies for period pain???
Q. Hello Ladies, it's another women's health question really... I've got really horribe period pains, I swear if child birth is anything like this I may just adopt. I've tried taking paracetamol and ibroprofen (together and separatly), other so called ...
A. 30 March 2009: First of all, listen to what your body is telling you. Pain is there for a reason. One of the reasons that we keep hearing about professional athletes have serious injuries, is because they tend to "force" the pain out until it is too late. Not ... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to my older boyfriend anymore... why am I feeling this way?
Q. Ok please help me based on these facts........... * I am 28 years old * I have been with my 45 year old boyfriend for 5 years * We haven't slept together in over 2 months because I don't feel attracted to him in that way anymore - I could kiss ...
A. 30 March 2009: Like Satin said, it probably has nothing to do with the age difference.
After 5 years of being with him is there something that you think is missing in this relationship? For instance, were you expecting [subconsciously perhaps?) somethin... (read in full...)
I'm alone in this universe
Q. Sometimes I feel like no one really gets me. I have a sincere appreciation for the friends that I have and new people I meet, but I feel like no one is really on the same wavelength that I am...does that make sense? I understand that all people are ...
A. 30 March 2009: Exactly in what way do you feel that no one is on the same wavelength that you are? It sounds more like that even though you have a lot of friends, none or very few of them are not interested in deep thinking discussions. When I say "deep thinking" ... (read in full...)
My fiancee and his little brother passed away and I don't know how to express myself
Q. hi everyone. my fiance and his little brother just passed away. me and my best friend are supposed to speak at his funeral. they are having two separate funerals, and i am supposed to speak at them both. i have no idea what to say. right now i cant ...
A. 30 March 2009: First of all, I am sorry to hear of this very sad news. Losing someone you love is always hard on anyone.
You don't need to say a lot of things to the person who is experiencing the loss. Anything that comes from the very bottom of your heart, i... (read in full...)
In love, 22 age gap..is it bad?
Q. I'm 18 and dating a 40 year old man.. we have been together for 7 months now and I'm completely in love with him! he has a little girl who i love being with.. is it wrong that i'm in love with a 40 year old man?? i hate being away from him at any ...
A. 30 March 2009: Every big-age-difference-couple is unique. As Denny said, don't look for problems [and ya shall see one]. Look for happiness. I have a cousin who is about 20 years older than his wife, and they are happily raising their twins. They have been married ... (read in full...)
What I want is a deep passionate, yet reserved relationship
Q. I'm a 16 year old female and I've had one boyfriend, long distance and it didn't work out (2 years ago). I never really wanted a boyfriend and then it hit me one day that I'm lonely and want a romantic relationship. My problem? At school everyone...
A. 29 March 2009: How sweet that you are "romanticizing" romance. However, anything that is romanticised or idealized, very rarely happens in real life.
Having said that, it is actually good that you already have an idea in the qualities that you would like to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't touch me
Q. my boyfriend dont like to be touched. what do i do? he dosnt even like to talk to me i been asking questions then talking. he makes noises when i talk or touch him. what do i do?...
A. 29 March 2009: Hi Bradley,
Have tried any of the suggestions give to you on your earlier posting (26 March 2009)? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/boyfriend-doesnt-like-to-be-touched-and-doesnt-talk-to-me.html
If he is not responsive to the suggestions made... (read in full...)
Am I right to tell my wife to drop this stupid idea?
Q. I have a situation which could have serious ramifications for other people, not just my wife and I. My wife and I are married for 7 years now, have 2 great kids, and are timing out having a 3rd child. The issue is, when I was younger (18-19),...
A. 29 March 2009: We have only heard a fraction of the story from your perspectives only. Your wife's perspective has only been - based on what is written here - what just what your wrote: ".....I think she thinks she is doing the right thing by wanting our children ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else experience this with their spouse or partner?
Q. When I was working in another job I used to earn an okay amount of money. My husband and I have a joint account and every month we would both put in £700 / mth that would then pay off all our bills for the month - ie mortgage, electricity, water, ...
A. 29 March 2009: He sounds like a very contemporary person, not old school, who thinks that every able bodied person in a household has an equal share in maintaining that household. Irrespective of the external conditions.
If he is "driven" by financial concerns... (read in full...)
What do I when he changes to be cold hearted and doesn't care anymore?
Q. i've been in this relationship for 2 years and my boyfriend and are now common-laws we live together and we have 3 cats. he just turned 21 and i'm going on 22, he changed 3 days after his birthday it went on for 2 weeks and after that he was fine...
A. 29 March 2009: He can only get back to "normal" when and if he wants to. This would require a "self - reflect" into his inner being. If the motivation does not come from himself, then what we do or say may not matter to him. Because he would probably say "But ... (read in full...)
Why can't men understand how women feel about porn?
Q. Why cant men understand how many women feel about porn? Especially after we marry and have babies.Like it or not guys, we mothers often give up a lot when we marry and have kids, Its pretty heartbreaking when we lose our pre baby bodies and end up ...
A. 29 March 2009: Each case is unique, though similarities and case studies can be drawn as reference.
One female anom has it correctly. Have a stack of sexy pics of men with rock hard body or chiselled looks, then masturbate to them, in front of him (particu... (read in full...)
What do I when he changes to be cold hearted and doesn't care anymore?
Q. i've been in this relationship for 2 years and my boyfriend and are now common-laws we live together and we have 3 cats. he just turned 21 and i'm going on 22, he changed 3 days after his birthday it went on for 2 weeks and after that he was fine...
A. 29 March 2009: How does he make you happy? If he makes you happy, should he also be there for you to make you feel better, instead of walking away from you?
It's been three years since you have this depression. Are you still on medication or counsell... (read in full...)
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