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writes:Ok so me and my husband have been married foer 4 yrs. He acts like he loves me he takes care of and our 3yrd.old son. He always tell me he loves me and our son but he don't show it he always too Bussy to spend time with us. he either to sleepy r to tired to have sex with me. He even told me he don't want to have another baby when i toild him I wanted a little girl.I know we too Young right now but how much longer does hewnt for our son a his sis r brother to be a part? He keeps using the excuse that he don't want me to die since I went throw preeclempsia r whatever u spell it through our 3yr. Old son I almost die of high blood pressure but I want a little gril before I turnwd 26 thts I'm 3 yrs. Him and his sis are 13 yrs. Apart but tht don't mean tht my son and his don r sis has to b u know? Idk he wnt even have sex woth me he too tired to do it and we finally do it aint tht good. And don't even wnt to buy por r sex toys he keeps ignoring my suggestion idk y but he always doi wnt to spice thngs up. Is tht bad of me trying to?I just don't want to through our marriage throght da drain if this our only prob. But he wount have sex woth me its always 2 times a moth. Wht should I do if I try hard to get him to have more sex with me and he wount? Does tht mean I'm addicted to sex bc I wnted more dan I get it? Whts the nornmal sex range in a month? Help pls????
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): yea, that was really hard to read…anyways, do you have a job? he doesn't want to have sex b/c he's tired…and he doesn't want anymore kids b/c he's already tired as it is and having trouble keeping up…if you're having a struggling relationship, then adding another addition to the family is only going to make it that much more difficult…start giving him massages when he gets home from work…that should help to relax him and either put him to sleep or get him in the mood :p …don't over-evaluate your relationship…it all sounds normal to me…your man loves you and he's working hard for your family…sex isn't everything…my bf and i don't have sex too often b/c we're both really busy, but it doesn't mean that it's the end of the world…just pounce on him if you're really that horny…when my boyfriend gets home from his 12 hour shift as an ER nurse and i ask him if he wants to have sex…typically he'll say sure, but then i just have to pounce him and do all the work b/c he's too tired otherwise :p
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reader, SweetSerendipity  +, writes (4 April 2009):
Are you concerned that your husband does not want to have any more children (because of your health), or because he does not want to have sex with you anymore? These two are very different issues.If he does not want any more children, both of you could always use birth control (pill and condom). If you wanted a little girl, you could always adopt (there is no guarantee that your second child will be a girl or a boy). If he only wants sex twice a month, there could be a myriad of issues there. So why don't you ask him? If he is too tired, maybe ask him to cut down his work hours. If he is worried about a second child, talk to him about your longing and see how that can be resolved.
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reader, Tewebag +, writes (4 April 2009):
honestly i only looked at about a third of your problem because of how you typed it like that, but the problem is your husband wont have sex with you anymore right? it could possibly be because he doesn't want you to die giving birth again, he could also possible be getting it elsewhere. how about instead of asking strangers who don't know you or your husband you talk to your husband about why he doesn't seem to want to have sex? tell him that you would like it more, and you feel neglected without the closeness you once felt. talk to him not us cause i hope you don't talk in text type in real life....
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