Despite making myself very clear he insists on pursuing me
Q. Hi everyone, I am in a bit of a difficult situation so if anyone has any advice or comments, it would be greatly appreciated! Just last year I moved back to my home town to attend college, and I got in touch with an old childhood friend. He and I...
A. 9 July 2012: BONDGIRL - it's comments like yours and the whole When Harry Met Sally thing that gets in the way and causes problems in friendships.
"But, when there are two adults present and you see one another regularly, that is usually considered "dating"... (read in full...)
Should I move away in the hopes of finding a partner?
Q. I have been single now for 18 months and I just don't meet any potential partners anywhere. I can't even get a date using online dating and with the net the rsponse is always because I don't want kids and there seem to be very few women in their ...
A. 4 April 2011: Cindy (OP here) - thanks for this. She is my best friend and has said I am like the brother she wishes she'd had. She is also the sort to ask a guy out if she likes them, so I think if she really had those sorts of feelings and thought I was going ... (read in full...)
Why do men like shorter women and shy away from tall ones?
Q. I am a 5'7 3/4" female. I'm proud of that quarter inch below 8, because I hate being tall. So guys, honestly, what is the real reason why you flock to short women and pass over the tall ones? Is it because they're cuter and more fragile and make ...
A. 7 September 2010: Average male height is 5ft 10, I believe, so if it is true that men prefer shorter women, I don't see why you should have a problem.... (read in full...)
Playing hard to get--how do you do that?
Q. theres this guy i have a little crush on and i know the key to a guys heart is to be yourself.. but how are some ways to play a little hard to get? you know keep him guessing... ...
A. 7 September 2010: Why do you want to keep him guessing? You either want him to know or you don't. Playing these sort of games is really childish and pointless (and men are particularly useless at picking up these things anyway).
The old adage about men liking a... (read in full...)
I cheated on my unromantic boyfriend and am now struggling to repair things!
Q. Please dont tell me how I am such a horrible person or anything like that because I know I am and I know its a blessing that things worked out the way they did: I cheated on my boyfriend just shy of our 4th anniversary. First of all I want to sa...
A. 13 August 2010: I feel dreadfully sorry for you but I think the answer is that YOU have to walk away, rather than give him the option. It is obvious he still loves you, which is why he has tried and doesn't want to end things, but he is so dreadfully hurt but what ... (read in full...)
If he wanted me he'd just after me
Q. So my best friend is male and I'm female. We used to hate eachother when we were younger. And with recent events we have become best friends in the entire world. I tell him everything and visa versa. And let me say this. He is the type of guy that ...
A. 19 July 2010: Just to respond to Cindy - as a male with a lot of female friends and a female best friend, I can tell you now that a man is just as scared about ruining a best friendship by making a move as a woman is.... (read in full...)
Are there any decent guys out there who just want a normal girl, someone who is just normal?
Q. I have lost of faith in men, I feel so stupid, I have just found out that this guy who I have just starting seeing has multiple "girlfriends", I had no idea and I poured my heart out to him about my past and why I was so shy and scared to commit and ...
A. 12 July 2010: Yes, there are some of us out there!... (read in full...)
How do I make my husband want to have sex?
Q. Hey every one ........... Need a lil advice on how to make my husband want to have sex with me. its bin 2 months now that i try to make the moves on him and he rejects them ive gone as far as going oral and he brushes me away by saying oo babe c...
A. 21 June 2010: Not everyone has the same sex drive/libido. You're a couple TALK about this!... (read in full...)
She let her ex stay at her house!
Q. I have been with my girl freind for 4 months now, She did tell me during our initial days that she is still good freinds with her ex, on saturday her ex and a few other common freinds had dinner while i was with my freinds watching a game, the ...
A. 21 June 2010: Agree with CaringGuy (as is often the case). I don't have a problem with a partner staying friends with an ex (in many cases these days there are children involved anyway). However, I think staying over is a no-no as even with the best of motives ... (read in full...)
Help! My wife found out about an affair I'd rather forget, how can I get her back now?
Q. F*^ and ! Sorry for my language but everything is horrible. The woman I had the affair with some how found me on the internet and sent me a message. Say how she wished the night ended differently and how even. Though it was only a couple mintues ...
A. 21 June 2010: Previous posters are right. You messed up big time. Gotta live with the consequences of your actions and focus on your daughter.... (read in full...)
Splitting the bill on a first date?
Q. I was on a first date with this guy and we went to see a movie, then had dinner at a Chinese restaurant. We're both students. He is a year older than me. So, he bought the movie tickets online, then announced the price out loud - "so it's 22.50 f...
A. 14 June 2010: Throwing another thought into the pot...
You've now said you told him the 'date' was as 'friends'. In which case, it was not a 'date'. If 'friends' go out to a movie or a meal, generally 'friends' pay their own way or split it down the middle. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends libido is much lower than mine, don't know what to do next!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend just over a year, we fell in love instantly and I moved in 8 months ago. The problem started then for me. In the beginning we were having sex at least once a day and usually more. It was brilliant and I remember ...
A. 14 June 2010: I won't comment on the porn thing but there are a LOT of people out there who would be OVER THE MOON to have sex with their partner 2 or 3 times a week! Be grateful! But if it is an issue now that you really can't get over, then get out. I stayed ... (read in full...)
Worried about our age gap down the line..
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend now for two years. We've been talking about getting married in the future, and I'm want to be his wife, but there's one little thing that worries me: He's 18 years my senior. Now, I've told him abou...
A. 14 June 2010: Age gaps CAN work. In the Victorian era, it was the done thing for a man in his 30s to marry someone just out of their teens.
But we're not in that era any more and I don't know what the statistics actually are, but in my experience - from my ... (read in full...)
I'm in need of hope that this heartbroken feeling won't last forever!
Q. It's the worst when you've come to realize that the guy you've loved for so long doesn't even care anymore... It feels like you'll never be able to move on from that one first (everything) love. I need some hope that this feeling won't last forever ...
A. 14 June 2010: It often takes longer than you think or hope, but it does ease. The cliche of "time healing" is annoying but fairly accurate, although often there will be lingering thoughts for years to come.... (read in full...)
How can I get over someone I can't have??
Q. I desperately need advice because I am feel I am about to just completely fall apart or do something stupid. I have a female best friend, we do everything together, we have the same interests, and we both mean the world to each other. I have been ...
A. 26 May 2010: Hey guys thanks for this. Some clarification:
She regularly tells me she loves me, that I mean the world to her and says I am like a brother to her, so that means she doesn't like me in the other way, right?
Well, everyone else says if we'... (read in full...)
My parents wont listen, I am 14 he is 24
Q. im 14 and going out with a 24 year old. We both love each other very much but my parents hate him.I can understand why but they cant accept that im actually happy. He still wants to be with me even though my parents have givin him loads of grief in ...
A. 5 February 2010: Your parents are right not to be happy, even if you are. Someone of 14 should not be dating someone of 24 and he knows it. If you really love him and he really loves you, you can both wait. When you are 16, you can see who you like whether they ... (read in full...)
My partner says I am being selfish as I want to be with him all day on Valentines day because that is the day he has access to his son
Q. My partner has a 14 year old son who sees him every sunday 10.30 - 7 to be precise (not an hour less neither an hour more) and he only lives down the road so i can't see why he can't see him whenever. i work saturdays and he has his son sundays so i ...
A. 3 February 2010: If you really don't see the issue, I fear that this will become a recurring pattern in your relationship with this man who is trying to be the best father he can (bearing in mind he doesn't live with his kid) by ensuring, as far as is possible, to ... (read in full...)
My partner says I am being selfish as I want to be with him all day on Valentines day because that is the day he has access to his son
Q. My partner has a 14 year old son who sees him every sunday 10.30 - 7 to be precise (not an hour less neither an hour more) and he only lives down the road so i can't see why he can't see him whenever. i work saturdays and he has his son sundays so i ...
A. 3 February 2010: How interesting, there was a very similar question yesterday and I suspect we're all going to say the same thing. You answer your own question at the end - his child is going to come first and that's natural. End of.
There is indeed more tha... (read in full...)
Why do I always end up just being 'the friend' when I want more than that?
Q. Why am I one of those guys that women want to be friends with but nothing more? Of my ten closest friends, nine are female. They all say I would be a great catch. I have asked them, seriously, what I could do to make myself more appealing but ...
A. 1 February 2010: Hi guys, thanks for all this. I've always had very close female friends because where I went to school it was a class of 22 and only 5 of us were blokes and three of them didn't live where I did, so it was inevitable I spent more time with girls ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her I love her but can't see her anymore?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. Have appreciated your advice in the past and need it again now please. Having weighed up previous advice, I now realise I can't go on with things as they are. I am in love with my best friend (who is female) and while other ...
A. 27 January 2010: Emily's - nice idea, but sadly neither of us drink much at all, so that's a non-starter!
Angzw - get where you are coming from too, but I couldn't bear to have chats with her down the line about who she is seeing, and I know that every time we ... (read in full...)
I told my friend how I felt and now he has ended the friendship!
Q. i had a male friend of six years and fell in love with him and i told him this, he has now ended the friendship. What should i do?...
A. 31 July 2009: A problem not too far removed from my own. I have fallen for my female best friend but I know if I tell her, the friendship will be over as another male friend did this and she just couldn't cope with it and shut him out. I'm not sure I could bear ... (read in full...)
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