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writes:i met a man on the internet and originally it was just for slightly kinky sex which neither of us had tried before, this didn't really get started as we soon were contacting each other daily and seeing each other weekly.over the past 2 months, and I always let him contact me first, he texts me first thing in the morning "morning babe", we text, speak on the phone and on msn all the time, the sex became more "normal", not so planned. I have met his friends, been to his work xmas party and see him at least once a week. Up until xmas we were getting on fabulous with, having sex when i saw him, he bought me a very expensive piece of jewellery for xmas and said he'd told his mum about me, that i was a "really good mate", he starts conversations saying "we're not just sex buddies, i really enjoy your company, i'm not looking for anyone else" etc, etc and i have confirmed that I am not looking for anyone else and that I do really like him. Then the last 3 or 4 times i have seen him, there has been no sex, he is still texting and ringing me, we laugh all the time, last week we sat on his sofa and he held my hand and kissed me but that was all - I am confused - I don't know if he fancies me, is scared that he is falling for me or just wants me as a friend - please help!!! I'm 43, he is 41 and he was divorced 6 years ago which was very hard for him and he has not had a serious relationship since
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 I think you should just ask him. It's the only way you're gonna find out.
I was like this with my current bf. We didn't have sex until we were in a relationship but we did talk about such things before it began.
I just said "What would you say our relationship status was? We're not really just friends anymore, are we?"
You won't find out unless you ask him. Invite him round and have a talk. Don't be too pushy, just say that you feel things are going a bit further and ask him how he feels on the situation and to be honest. I'm sure you'll get some answers.
Take care xx
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reader, Sisyphus  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Do you even know what you want from this? It obviously wasn't something that was planned. Relationships are not the clean cut, romanticized fiction you see on TV, they're messy. Chances are, he has just as little an idea of what's going on as you do.
Personally I would sit him down and ask him directly once you know what you want from this what it is that he is after. I know that this is confronting way to go about dealing with it, I don't pretend that it will be easy either, but hopefully it will be worthwhile.
If he has no idea what he wants and you have no idea what you want by the end of the talk then my advice would be for the two of you to just see where things go and keep your minds open to all possibilities.
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reader, messedupfemale +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Are you a virgo? You sound like me! It sounds like you are analysing things a lot, maybe you fear he will reject you and so you are picking up on any little thing that might mean he doesn't want you. the fact he didnt initiate anything the last 2 times might mean he is waiting for you to initiate it, does he usually initiate? If so, he could be testing you to see if you will make the first move.
Dont worry and just next time you see him, initiate sex and if he turns it down or is weird, ask him what is wrong and go from there
Good luck xx
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