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writes:Hello,So I'm gay, and I recently met someone online who is two years older than me. When I went to meet him, he told me that we have actually known each other for a very long time. He told me his full name and I was in shock, and I immediately became comfortable around him. It has been a little under a month since I re-met him, and we have been on two dates. The first date we went on he paid for, and then after that we ended the night making out in my car. The second date we went on, I wanted to pay but he refused, so we decided to split it. He told me that night that he has been battling with himself regarding this. He said that he thinks we should just be friends right now because he is so caught up trying to manage and balance opening a store and spending time with his family. I understood, and agreed to being friends for now (I didn't want to rush anything). However, I sent him an email saying that I think being friends is good right now, but I'm not opposed to seeing where that might lead to, and that I believe things happen for a purpose, and I don't want to see something like this just slip on by. He responded, "I think you are a very wise man. I am excited for our future and what will be to come. I think that is a great plan. I would like to get to know you in our mature state and you me as well... There are all kinds of fun things ahead... Im sure. I look forward to talking soon. Keep up that thought process- This will not pass."On our third date, we went to a jacuzzi and hung out. He asked me what I was thinking, and he made a move. We made out for a good while, before going to a park on top of this mountain overlooking the ocean and again making out up there. He got out of his car when he dropped me off and gave me a kiss. We have a date planned for next friday. I'm taking him out to dinner in LA and taking him to a show. He seemed really excited about itI really do enjoy talking to him and seeing him, however it seems like I'm always the one initiating the conversation. I try to limit how much I talk to him (maybe once every other day or two) because I don't want to come across as obsessive. I'm not sure if it's because he is really busy and doesn't have the time to call me, or if there is another explanation, but I'm trying to be positive about it! Do you guys think he likes me? What do you guys recommend I do in terms of communication? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sisyphus  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 I think he really likes you but as he said is really busy. I think that you are doing the right thing in neither smothering him, nor ignoring him. Let me end this with a quote, "There are all kinds of fun things ahead... Im sure... Keep up that thought process- This will not pass."
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reader, xtatic_kid  +, writes (1 October 2010):
He may just not be the type of person to initiate things. He certainly sounds like he likes spending time with you/making out with you!
Take it slow, you seem to be doing the right thing.
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reader, natmarie +, writes (1 October 2010):
 It sounds like he likes you. You are doing the right thing by not calling everyday. Maybe at the end of the next date say - hey call me!! and see if he does (I'm aure he will.) then he will get the hint, and hopefully the communication will balance out. :o) xx
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reader, Zuni +, writes (1 October 2010):
 He might just be shy or nervous around you and doesn't want to say something stupid and make you feel differently about him. I think he likes you or else he wouldn't want to continue the relationship and keep going on dates with you.As far as communication goes. If he has an email and checks it regularly, that would be good, because if you were checking your email often then it wouldn't seem like you were "obsessing" just someone who checks their email. Texting works also, because its not like a full out conversation and can be short and carried out throughout the day at leisure. Verbal is a little harder just because constantly calling can seem "obsessive" however, I find that skype is a great program, Its free to download and all you need is a web cam. All calls on skype are free too. It's just something different and fun that you could try. Good luck!
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