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writes:I have recently started seeing a girl, this is the first girl i have been dating for several months now. She is extremely nice and sexually stunning.After seeing her a few times we decided to make the next step to the bedroom. Unfortunately half way through sex I lost my erection. I would like to say this is the first time, but it isn't this has happened 3 or 4 times before. The strange thing is this only happens as i am putting on the condom. I am able to get a full rock hard without one, but once the protection value comes in, my erection simply goes, I think that becasue I know its going, it goes faster, but I don't know what to do. can anyone suggest something. By the way, my life is not stressful, i am always happy, and well am generally normal as a human being. hope to hear soon. thanks
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reader, Sisyphus +, writes (29 April 2008):
 You might need a larger sized condom, if it's too tight you won't be able to get blood pumping into your cock.
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Have you tried asking her to put the condom on you rather than put it on yourself? And try different condoms - avoid the "novelty" ones because they don't always give proper protection or reliable contraception. There are a range of perfectly good options available on the shelf at most chemist shops - tighter or looser; bumpy; tingly, and so on.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I think this is like the "don't think about an elephant" kind of thing. The more you worry about losing your erection the faster you droop. Perhaps one of the ed medications would bolster your concerns and get you over this hump (sorry about the pun). Speak with you doctor and see what he recommends. I can guarantee that he's heard this problem before. Condoms are part of today's necessities until the couple have decided to commit permanently to each other, so not using one is just not a good idea.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Did you look under the bed?
Sorry, couldn't resist that.
Seriously tho', I believe it's all down to relaxing and taking things slow, but most of all, it does seem that the main problem here is because of the condom, and the time you're taking to put it on.
Like the previous aunt suggested, try a different form of contraception, and see if your girlfriend can go on the pill.
Good luck, and I hope you find it soon!
; )
BigSis
xXx
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reader, :):):) +, writes (29 April 2008):
Hi, this is alot more common than you'd think and is almost always down to the pressure of having sex. Maybe wanting to impress her the first time left you stressed? And now everytime you are getting ready you subconcsiously worry that it will happen again and lose your erection. It happens to loads of guys and is very rarely the result of a medical condition. You just have to relax. If the condom is the main source of problem then maybe you could use another form of contraception (assuming you and you gf have been checked out at a family planning clinic).Good luck xxx
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reader, lexilou +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I think you've answered your own question by saying she's sexually stunning!! There is obviously some anxiety caused by this, maybe the first time you were worried about pleasing her as she is so stunning, even though there was no reason to think that. Once you lost the erection the first time it's in your subconscious and will keep getting in the way. You need to relax and forget about penetration for a while and get her to explore your body in other ways. This is probably just a temporary problem and you can retrain your mind to overcome this. Good luck xx
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