How to be honest with my homegurl without hurting her feelings?
Q. I have a homegurl who I call my sister. I knew her for years but we are so different, from the way we dress, to the guys we meet and date. I'm pregnant now and she claims to be the god mother and suppose to be the host of my babyshower. She hasn't ...
A. 27 September 2010: Hi Candygurl, it sounds like there are some interesting dynamics between you and your sis. Sometimes, friends do part and it's okay, but you may want to talk with her first. There could be a good deal of secret resentment forming. She might surprise ... (read in full...)
He doesn't deserve to be a father so what do I do? Have it aborted or what?
Q. I am nine weeks pregnant, almost ten. I am engaged to my boyfriend. I was not planning on getting pregnant and never thought having kids was something i had to do. I found i was pregnant and told my finace and he was so happy and exited. I was not. ...
A. 24 September 2010: Hi Anonymous, I'm not a big fan of abortion because 12 weeks is not enough time to make such an important decision. You seem uncertain, so waiting to decide seems like the best choice. ~Shapoopsy... (read in full...)
Am I just being an obsessive girlfriend or is he just not that into me anymore?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out since january. At first we texted all the time. I swear there was hardly a text where he didn't answer me.Every e-mail was answered, he was never to busy for me and i him. We saw eachother everyday in class ...
A. 24 September 2010: Hi Anonymous! Sometimes, a person can feel pestered and it causes him to withdraw, but he is being a rude coward. It is very wrong of him to ignore you and talk to your friends. I'm sorry that this has gone down such an unhappy path, but you simply ... (read in full...)
His ex wants him back and he is confused!
Q. I started talking with a guy that I met online in May of this year. Things progressed. We met, were very attracted to one another, but live about an hour away from each other. Things continued to progress. He was very romantic and is a writer. ...
A. 13 September 2010: Dear Anonymous, I am very sorry to hear of what has happened to you. That was very wrong of him to make you worry when he did not keep his plans or reply. He probably didn't want to face you, but I'm proud that you tracked him down on Friday and ... (read in full...)
Religious Parents
Q. A little background before I ask my question - I grew up in a strict and controlling environment with very traditional and religious parents. I still live with them and I have to abide by their rules (i.e. – not going outside freely like most people ...
A. 9 September 2010: It sounds like your mother may have a personality disorder, which is a mental illness. You cannot work upon her or the situation for that matter. All you can do is cope with her as one who is unhealthy. Keep this in mind in all your dealings with ... (read in full...)
His friend wants to be more than friends
Q. My Current boyfriend is friends with a girl whom I have issues. Upon meeting her i had the sneaking suspicion that she had feelings for him. She lives in another state, so the last time she was in town she stayed at his house. I considered that I ...
A. 9 September 2010: Dear Anonymous, What a horrible dilemma! Without more information, it is hard to give the best advice. So, I'm going to go with my gut on this: He's not the one. How do you know that anything he has said on this matter is true? The bottom line for ... (read in full...)
How do I know what he is thinking and how he feels?
Q. I have been married for 18 years and have a serious crush on my (4 months) new co-worker who has also been married for a long time. Both of us have spouses with health problems and would never leave them. My relationship with my husband is pretty ...
A. 9 September 2010: Sweet Misskitty, Of course you want to have conversations with one who really knows what you're going through, but I fear the potential for an emotional affair is far too great in this situation. Perhaps you could find this companionship in one who ... (read in full...)
Do colleges look at teachers comments?
Q. Do colleges look at not only grades, but teachers comments too? I'm just wondering, like if you had a good grade (say a 90) but they didn't put a good comment or something..like doesn't participate or bad behavior.....
A. 9 September 2010: I'm certain the admissions department of any college do not view comments on specific papers. You would be one of many applicants and their concern is your finances, test scores, GPA, and activities. Worried about a teacher's comment? Try and learn ... (read in full...)
Wife/ girlfriend sharing. Experiences, thoughts, where does the idea stem from, is the after experience worth it
Q. Guten tag! I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 and a half years. She's an open minded person, and we love each other very deeply. From time to time we discuss our fantasies, and hers tend to be very genital, which is surprising to me. For e...
A. 5 September 2010: Hello,
I have seen many couples experiment with threesomes and it seems to be the best way to destroy the relationship. If you are concerned about her forming emotional attachments to another man, inviting one into the bedroom might not be the b... (read in full...)
If we have nothing in common is it wise to get married?
Q. hey guys thanks a lot for spendin time in order to help me with my situation i ve been with my girlfriend for ages and we actually been talkin about gettin married and spendin the rest of our lives together we truly love eashother so much but th...
A. 4 September 2010: Hello, How wonderful that you have found such a great experience in love! A lot of couples do not love many of the same things and are happy. It's okay to have different interests. The question might be, "Can I imagine living without her," or, "Can ... (read in full...)
Is he lying about mobile games?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years takes his phone to the loo..had no problems with this until I thought id send him a text to ask him to bring my watch down out the loo and it ever made a noise? yet when he came down he answered my question and said my watch ...
A. 4 September 2010: Hi Angelwithwings!
This could go either way. He could be texting other girls and going into the bathroom for privacy, or he could just be playing games on his phone while doing his business. Either way, the bathroom is one place you are probably... (read in full...)
If I'm obsessed should I talk to him or leave him alone?
Q. Dear Cupid ive just got to High school and im already starstruck by this guy I really like. Im obsessed and I go this phone number every time i walk into the cafeteria I try very hard not to look in his direction. That never works I basicall...
A. 4 September 2010: Dear Anonymous, It seems like he might be into you! At the very least, you have his attention. Have you called him? Does he have your phone number? Try giving him a call and see how it goes. Then, see if he calls you the next time. Relax around him. ... (read in full...)
Am I reading him right? Is he flirting?
Q. I am new at all of this since my husband died early this year. I guess I just do not know how to read men and if something is "flirting" or not. So like I said, I have been through quite a rough patch losing my husband unexpectedly in February and ...
A. 4 September 2010: Hello! He seems to be flirting with you! It's a bummer that he has a lady friend because it was sounding so good! He is in the beginning stages of pursuing you for sex, which leads me to believe he's a pretty rotten person to be in a committed ... (read in full...)
I don't like when the guy I have been seeing for 4 months just shows up at my door!
Q. I am dating a guy for the last 4 months. I feel like he is already trying to mark his territory. Gave me two teddy bears with his colone sent.. three pictures of him on a frame. He left his toothbrush with his name labled. Now he is starting to ...
A. 4 September 2010: He gave you pictures of himself? Classic! Most women would be upset if they hadn't been given anything by four months. It's your space and your life, but you do come across as a tad picky. If you like him, you should consider cutting the guy some ... (read in full...)
Why do guys not like makeup?
Q. Why do guys not like makeup? Whats wrong with it. i mean if u look like a clown then yes but what if you only wear a lil bit?...
A. 4 September 2010: It could be because guys want to touch your face and don't want makeup interfering. Kissing lip gloss is rather sticky and strange. It makes more sense that a guy wouldn't want to trace his fingers across one's concealer!
Perhaps there are some... (read in full...)
How do I get him to look at me like he used to?
Q. theres this guy in my class that i really like.we always make eye contact and he smiles.i got a new hair style and when i came back he smiled and said that he liked it alot. But now he has a girlfriend and he hasnt really made any eye contact with ...
A. 4 September 2010: Dear Mimisoph3, The good news is that it sounds like this "B" holds very little potential for anything lasting. For some reason, males go gaga for gals like this and I'll give you one hint: It starts with s and ends with ex! Some girls are so deeply ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my aunt
Q. hello again everyone. i have previously posted my question, but again, i would like to hear more advice from people so i am reposting it again. please let me know how you think and thank you very very much! i am in love with my aunt. im 21 and ...
A. 3 September 2010: Dear male, I am sorry to say, but it is not likely that your family and friends will accept this. You seem very sincere, but it was wrong for your aunt to allow the kiss and everything after that too; and she knows it. This may not be what you ... (read in full...)
I used to fancie a guy who's now my best friend but I love him now what do I do?
Q. before you read this sorry about the amount of writng but i felt it needed explaining in full: about a year ago i had a crush on a boy who was friends with a couple of my best friends so i asked him out and he rejected me, but its been nearly 1 an...
A. 3 September 2010: It's hard, but is there any way you could wait? I just don't see this going well for you and don't want you to be crushed any more than necessary. He could be oblivious to your feelings or has sensed them, but most men will act if they want it bad ... (read in full...)
I've been secretly dating an older guy. Should I tell my parents?
Q. i really like this older guy and we have been secretly together for the past 7 months but my sadly i am not allowed to date. should i tell my parents? how do i keep this older guy interested in only me and no other girl?...
A. 3 September 2010: If the older male you've been dating is 18 or older, you may want to consider talking to your parents. It is not uncommon for one to use their age difference to manipulate or even abuse the younger individual.
Any way you slice it, it could ne... (read in full...)
What is he getting from this?
Q. 17 years ago, when I was 17, I fell in "love" with a guy that I worked with. I know it was an immature, obsessed kind of love that only a 17 year old could feel. He was Mr. Popular, with a string of girls following him; I was a gawky, nerdy ...
A. 3 September 2010: a better question might be, "what are YOU getting from this?" examine your sexual history with this person and you may find there are more satisfying alternatives. you're still young and likely more lovely than you know. you deserve to be ... (read in full...)
How do I understand his mixed signals?
Q. attention guys! I need your help. what does it mean when a guy sends some major mixed signals? I really liked this guy but he always refused to answer the question "do you want to be more than just friends?" yet told me once that he thinks abou...
A. 3 September 2010: i see this is an old question, but the answer is simple to one who has already learned: he's answering your question alright. he's telling you he doesn't want anything and he's using you for sex. he thinks of you every night before bed and in the ... (read in full...)
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