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writes:hello again everyone. i have previously posted my question, but again, i would like to hear more advice from people so i am reposting it again. please let me know how you think and thank you very very much!i am in love with my aunt. im 21 and shes 34. my uncle passed away 3 years ago and shes been single since. it happen one night when we drank and kissed. we both realise it might not be acceptable by somebody, but i dont feel any guilt out of it. instead, i feel that i want to protect her and take care of her for my late uncle. i was very close with my uncle. she's working alone self employed now and helped by some relatives to pay for her house mortgage, but sooner or later she will need someone else to help her with the work, and as i can see, i am the most preferred person by her and the relatives, but no one knows our relationship.i do not wish to give up on this, as i look into her eyes i realize she is the woman i want to be with for the rest of my life. please advice me on how should i handle this relationship, so that one day in the future we are acceptable by friends and family.(p/s she is not directly related to my family, but my uncle is) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2010): Dude I know exactly how you feel I too is in a similar situation I am involved with my aunt(non blood related). I havent done anything physical yet but she is having an emotional affair with me that is only increasing into something physical soon. In this situation its best to go with your heart, but if you do decide just know whatever you decide. You are going to have to live with yourself for the rest of your life so choose carefully. Is she really worth it to you? Does she really mean that much too you? Are you willing to risk everything and anything for her? Would you risk mind body and soul for her? If you answered no to any of those question than No you shouldnt do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): Your aunt is not blood related to you, so it is not incest. It is perfectly legal as you are 21 and she is well over 21 as well.
Both of you are adult and if you want to be together and make love all day and all night long, go for it. But keep in mind that the rest of the family will likely never accept it, so you will 1) have to keep it hiding it from the family or 2) say f the family and move far away with your aunt and enjoy your life, and forget all the negativity feedback from people who are so uptight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): dear shapoopsy,i am the original poster of this question. frankly, i got mad when i read your comment. she did not at all try to take advantage on me. in fact, she knew i might change some decision about my life in the future because of her, and tried to convince me not to care about her and do what i want to do myself. and besides, i do not consider her as a old lady, or me being a young men. age isnt a problem at all to me. women are very fragile, and will need someone to take care of them in the future. imagine yourself in this situation, what will you do. we love each other, and there is no way saying this is 'taking advantage'.
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reader, shapoopsy +, writes (3 September 2010):
 Dear male, I am sorry to say, but it is not likely that your family and friends will accept this. You seem very sincere, but it was wrong for your aunt to allow the kiss and everything after that too; and she knows it. This may not be what you wanted to hear. I'm sorry. You may be very much in love with her, but it's likely you will feel this way for at least a few women before you find your match.
Besides, she's a 34 yr. old woman who should be taking care of herself, not taking advantage of her 21 yr. old nephew. If she doesn't have little ones, she can work to pay off her own mortgage.
I'm certain there are plenty of beautiful, sexy, and smart ladies that are closer to your age and not family. For yourself, don't allow your aunt to do this to you. Take care. ~Shapoopsy
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2010): Go for it, don't wait for a time. You love her and if she loave you too, don't be shy make your move. Don't ask anyone again take your aunt to your girl now.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (3 September 2010):
 It doesn't matter that she isn't directly related to your family. She is still considered your aunt, for your uncles sake don't do this.
I read questions about incest so much on this site and I'm astounded by how typical it seems to be. Incest is the one moral that ALL cultures agree is wrong (google it or something if you don't believe me).
You have an unhealthy relationship with your aunt and I recommend therapy for yourself and your aunt. She is obviously vulnerable because of her husband's death. You feel like you need to be there for her, but there is no need to be sexual, there is no need to take her husbands place, your uncle, your parent's brother's wife.
What you are doing and feeling are wrong. I know that there will be people who read this and think "but love is love and you can't help how you feel" but you can control your actions and know right from wrong. You don't always need to act on your feelings and in this case, you shouldn't.
that is just my personal opinion, sorry if I was harsh but I don't think thats even legal.
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