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writes:hey guysthanks a lot for spendin time in order to help me with my situationi ve been with my girlfriend for ages and we actually been talkin about gettin married and spendin the rest of our lives togetherwe truly love eashother so much but the thing is . WE REALLY HAVE NOTHIN IN COMMUN its weird isnt it ? i mean i know that i love her so much and so does she but i just dont get howcome we both have the feeling to get married even tho we really dnt like the same stuff, we dont even like the same food or have the same taste or anythingim actually wonderin if that really does not matter coz im sure it doesmaybe we just lasted so long coz we dont live in the same house but what if we get married and face these stuff. how would we manage that. im pretty sure love aint enough when it comes to marriage i just need some real advice to see where im goingor if i should really consider gettin married or noteven tho im crazy about my girlfriendthnx a lot Reply to this Question
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (4 September 2010):
If you have nothing in common right now, you might want to try to develop some common interests. If you each pick something you each like, and the other person agrees to spend some time doing that (be it watching a show/movie you like, or games, or sports). Some interest might develop, even if it's something you wouldn't originally do on your own.
Also, before getting married, you should consider living together. It's like a trial run for being married, and very different from dating while living separately. More issues will come up, and if you can still survive that, then there's a good chance marriage will work out too.
You're right that common interests are important, but if you can both support each other in your different interests, and still have good companionship, it might still work out. Give it a try.
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reader, shapoopsy  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 Hello, How wonderful that you have found such a great experience in love! A lot of couples do not love many of the same things and are happy. It's okay to have different interests. The question might be, "Can I imagine living without her," or, "Can I live with our differences?"
Just for fun, you two might enjoy taking a Myers-Briggs personality type assessment. (Check online.) Then, you two will understand how the other ticks even better, which helps when living together.
The most important thing is that you two are a team! ~Shapoopsy
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reader, Artistry +, writes (4 September 2010):
 ..Hi there, Well for starts the one thing you have have in common is your love for each other. Good start. Now two people can like different things but the easier relationships and the longer lasting relationships in my opinion are the ones where two people enjoy the same things. What to do? Well for starters why not look for something that neither of you have an interest in and see if you both can grow to like that thing, then find another thing neither of you have shown any interest in and see how either of you like it. There are so many undiscovered things in the world. Anybody have any ideas about photograpy? How about rock climbing? Or
researching both your families geneology? Remodeling old furniture after you puchase a piece at a flea market? Searching flea markets for hidden treasures.
Once a friend of a friend bought a ring with a foreign inscription in it at a flea market. Turned out it was owned by Louis XXVI or somebody and worth a 1/2 million dollars, you never know. There are so many things that neither of you have an interest in that both of you might find an interest together if you try. Start by both listing different things that you might be interested in but never indulged and put the lists together. Finding new common grounds of interest could be fun. Good luck Let me know of your progress. Take care.
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