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... Send *avenxx91 a private message | | | *avenxx91's profile:Hello. My name is Raven, Im 19 years old.
What qualifies you to help people?
I am a Qualified Health Care Professional and I am planning on becoming a Midwife and then a Midwife Consultant. Because of this on Dear Cupid I focus on pregnancy, sexual health and relationships. However I currently am a Customer Service Advisor and aim to be a Deputy Manager as soon as possible!
Where do you live?
I live in my own two bedroomed flat in Little Hulton which is a district within the City of Salford in England!
What makes you tick?
My Career Goals, Working well within my job. My Family and of course My Fiance.
Whats your relationship status?
I'm engaged and will be getting married 10th November 2012.
Anything else?
Ive noticed there are some aunts and uncles on this website who send very judgmental answers to people. However I give facts, the truth, a professional suggestion and I DO NOT pre-judge people at all. However I will say it as it is with all that above. So as regards the judgmental aunts and uncles that gives you the answer to my rating board in the poor section!
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Boyfriend likes me to do things I don't really want to do
Q. My boyfriend likes me to do somethings during our alone time that sometimes I just don't particularly like but it's hard for me to say no, especially because I have done it a few times before when he had asked. I love him and don't want to hurt his ...
A. 6 July 2010: Not quite sure what type of things your talking about.
However in general, if theres something you dont want to do, if he loves you he will accept it and stop asking x... (read in full...)
False Security In A Facebook Love Letter
Q. Ok so there is a guy that I've liked for a while who is about 5 years older than me. I've been crushing on him for over a year now and he has already graduated and is going to a grad school elsewhere. since he is no longer attending the same uni...
A. 6 July 2010: All you can do is wait for him to reply. I always say dont send out anonymous things unless your prepares for it to get back...and thats what you want surely. nothing to loose! x... (read in full...)
I want to get thinner but exercise isnt working!
Q. i'm going on a camp in a couple of weeks and i really want to get thinner. excercise doesn't really tend to work for me. any ideas?...
A. 6 July 2010: Try swimming, it not impactive and exercises all of your muscles and burnts calories easily! Or walk or cycler to school. Shopping in a large mall is good as well. You dont realise it but I did and from shopping for about 3 hours it turned out I'd ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been chatting secretly to a girl, help!!
Q. My boyfriend of 10 months is very private about his emails and facebook, which is fine.... until I went on one of his friends facebook pages this morning and saw she had written "she would like to hop in the shower with a certain person". my ...
A. 6 July 2010: My advice would be to sit down and talk to him. Ask to look at his messages with him present adn when he says no say "well what is there to hide". Either way push until you see the messages. If he has a problem with it or is annoyed or gets angry ... (read in full...)
Why has these flutters stopped?
Q. Hi All I'm slightly a bit worried and wondered if you think this is normal and could you give me some advice. I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my first, for weeks i felt small little flutters every day, but for the past 5 days there has been no flutters...
A. 6 July 2010: Hi I'm a student midwife. First of all I would call your midwife. Her number should be in your pregnancy pack.
If you are in any pain in your abdominal area then go to your local walk in centre, or ask to see your midwife. You can also ask for ... (read in full...)
I love you...??????
Q. I say I love you to a woman who is 20 years younger than me, and she says I love you to me too. Now every time I say I love you to her, she just smiles. Does she really mean it when she says I love you to me? We are both married....
A. 6 July 2010: Married to eachother or other people?
Either way love doesnt have to be spoken the fact she smiles means she knows and you should know she loves you. ... (read in full...)
How can I approach my parents about paying less for my keep?
Q. This question isnt really about relationship or Sex but I need help wit this one :( I used to be on the dole and got 100 Pound a week and I gave up keep of 25 pound to my parents. a couple of weeks ago I signed off the dole and got a job. Now i...
A. 5 July 2010: First of all, start making lunch - saved me loads!
Second, if you want it lowered maybe ask for like if you do jobs such as cleaning adn cooking you get whatever amount off. Like earning it x
My dad used to charge me 20% of whatever I earn,... (read in full...)
Could oral sex make a pregnancy test positive?
Q. Just a little help needed. Today my girlfriend took a home pregnancy test with pregnancy stick and it came positive. She had symbols of pregnancy such as constant precum leakage from vagina and cramps in legs and tummy from last 15 days. It all ...
A. 5 July 2010: Oral sex has nothing to do with it.
If the test came back positive then it means it picked up HCG (a hormone) in her urine - this is nothign to do with testosterone, oestrogen or progesterone...HCG comes from an foetal placenta. If she is pregn... (read in full...)
What are the chances of my girlfriend being pregnant?
Q. So my girlfriend and I were messing around and I ejaculated. I cleaned it up with some tissues and about 15-20 minutes later we started messing around again. She wanted me to stick it in but I noticed some precum at the tip of my penis, so she ...
A. 5 July 2010: I doubt shes pregnant but theres is always a risk. All you can do is a get her to do a pregnancy test if here period doesnt come from about 3-4 weeks from now. x... (read in full...)
Abortions, what do you think?
Q. *OP's Original Title* Hey aunt and uncles. I just wanted to know your opinions on abortion. About a year ago i went with my brother and his ex girlfriend for them to have an abortion. I know it wasn't me having an abortion but it really a...
A. 5 July 2010: I personally feel their wrong in alot of situations. For example teens and even adults which have gotten themselves into that situation from purposly not using protection. However with human rights it is their lives. My point is i think people ... (read in full...)
I want to keep my baby, but my partner thinks it could split us up for good. Please help
Q. Hey, i am in a real dilema....me and my partner of 3 years on a break as we have got into alot of debt and it is getting us down...plus i have lied to him about alot of things that have got us into debt so he is hurting and needs a break..we have a ...
A. 5 July 2010: If theres even an inch of you not wanting to abort then dont. You may regret it for the rest of your life. You live in britain and there is alot of help you can get from this situation and if all fails theres adoption if you cant provide for another ... (read in full...)
Period is late - Am I pregnant?
Q. My period is now a week late, my average cycle is normally 28days and my period is very regular. In my 24 years of living I have never missed a period, i have never been late. My period is like clock work.my husband and I have been trying to have a ...
A. 5 July 2010: Possible, all you can do is do a test. x... (read in full...)
Period is late - Am I pregnant?
Q. My period is now a week late, my average cycle is normally 28days and my period is very regular. In my 24 years of living I have never missed a period, i have never been late. My period is like clock work.my husband and I have been trying to have a ...
A. 5 July 2010: Possible, all you can do is do a test. x... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the name of the tablet that delays your period?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles Does anyone know the name of the tablet that delays your period? Its not the contraceptive pill or anything like that, just uses progesterone to prevent ther period coming. Its just im on holiday next week and I was due ye...
A. 2 February 2010: No No no, its definatly not the pill - been on that before. Its just one that can be used to delay it, my sister used it but i was asking last night.. Ill phone the doctor up tonight and ask him. ... (read in full...)
When wuold it be best to try and have sex? Before her period?
Q. me and my gf will be attempting to have sex for the first time, for both, soon. before she said that she only got her period about 4 times a year, but recently she started getting it every month, and she did around this week. i wanted to know, when ...
A. 2 February 2010: To be honest id have sex after her period, she will want to be uncomofortable, however use protection! she can get pregnant any time within her cycle ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my husband wear his wedding ring?
Q. My new husband is always forgetting his wedding ring. It drives me crazy and a little offended as well. I asked him if he doesn't want to wear it and why, he says that thats not it and I don't believe him. Why do you think he doesn't wear it?...
A. 2 February 2010: In old traditions men never wore wedding rings, when my parents were married i never ever saw my dad or my grandad wear ther wedding rings, i cant see anything wrong with it. ... (read in full...)
Does everyone know if STD's can be transfered by oral sex?
Q. Does everyone know if STD's can be transfered by oral sex?...
A. 1 February 2010: Yes it can be spread via Oral. ... (read in full...)
How can I retract my foreskin safely?
Q. I am a 23 old male. I have never had sex. My foreskin does not retract as I have never tried so I am perfectly ok with masturbation. I am a bit afraid about forced retraction.. How to do it safely?? Circumcision is not an option for me for relig...
A. 1 February 2010: Try doing it, slowly, in the bath, a nice hot bath, just a bit each other night =]... (read in full...)
Should I still put this vibrator in the pack I'm making up for him?
Q. I ordered a vibrator to go into a pack I'm making up for my boyfriend for valentines day that includes various lubes etc. however now the vibrator has arrived I'm worried it's too big and may intimidate my partner. The reason I chose this one w...
A. 1 February 2010: Im loving the second answer from the female reader. I think thats perfect. Be honest with him...what she said was perfectly put!... (read in full...)
Blow job problem!
Q. Ok i started seeing this guy about late november and in december I tried to give him a blow job (doing what i've always done in previous relationships which never had any problems to say in the least!). However after about ten minutes of nothing ...
A. 1 February 2010: To be blunty honest, if thats what you want to do ask him what he likes. If he goes shy just start working towards it and doing it. Then encourage him to guide you and tell you what he wants, it might work from there on.... (read in full...)
Baby blues at 16!!!
Q. I'm 16 and I really really want a baby, have done for like 2 years. My boyfriend's almost 19, we're engaged and hoping to move in together when I've finished my A levels. I don't have a job at the moment but I'd like to get one part time. He's got 2 ...
A. 1 February 2010: Hey i think your being smart as aposed to many i see on here! Just it is best to do your A Levels First, However I would suggest doing a Level Vocational Course as getting a job is easier with them. But yeah wait until your both working, then move ... (read in full...)
Tampon troubles...
Q. I feel really stupid because I am 13 and don't no how to put a tampon in iv tried but it just won't go in....
A. 1 February 2010: Being able to relax is the key. Many find that having a leg up on the toilet, bath or bed is helpful. ... (read in full...)
Mothers medical conditions! need advice.
Q. Hey aunts and uncles I'm asking this for my mum,(aged 57) she wants to know why she is getting 'hot suddenly' she's had her menopause 7 years ago ...the heat comes up suddenly and lasts for about an hour, makes her sweat and only slighty cools when ...
A. 27 January 2010: Thanks very much Ask oldersister - mum said that the advice you gave is very helpful and thanks, you gave a very excellent answer. Yes Emphysema medication is mainly steriod based to strengthen the lungs. That could be part of it, were not worried ... (read in full...)
Mothers medical conditions! need advice.
Q. Hey aunts and uncles I'm asking this for my mum,(aged 57) she wants to know why she is getting 'hot suddenly' she's had her menopause 7 years ago ...the heat comes up suddenly and lasts for about an hour, makes her sweat and only slighty cools when ...
A. 27 January 2010: Hey, thanks for the advice, but there is no need to say she doesnt ask the doc or takes the perscription and leave?! What kind of advice is that, in actual fact she tries to sit and talk to the doctor to get his help, but as a very busy doctor he ... (read in full...)
Mothers medical conditions! need advice.
Q. Hey aunts and uncles I'm asking this for my mum,(aged 57) she wants to know why she is getting 'hot suddenly' she's had her menopause 7 years ago ...the heat comes up suddenly and lasts for about an hour, makes her sweat and only slighty cools when ...
A. 26 January 2010: Hey, she went to the doctor, who gave her Difflam Spray which after a few weeks have done nothing...shes not particularly worried but she would like to know for curiousity. ... (read in full...)
I have taken pregnancy tests, they are negative, so what else could be wrong?
Q. i need help....i'm 18 and 6 days late on my period, i had sex on my ovulating day which was the 26th of dec, on the 1st of jan i had some brown stuff like blood, but a few hours later it stopped, i've been havin some cramps under my belly, but thts ...
A. 19 January 2010: wait about another week, take a test, if thats negative wait another week then go doctor, no point being scared, its just a pee in a cup or a needle x... (read in full...)
I have taken pregnancy tests, they are negative, so what else could be wrong?
Q. i need help....i'm 18 and 6 days late on my period, i had sex on my ovulating day which was the 26th of dec, on the 1st of jan i had some brown stuff like blood, but a few hours later it stopped, i've been havin some cramps under my belly, but thts ...
A. 18 January 2010: Ie had this happen (was negative in the end)
Wait another few weeks, if no period comes, do a test if no period comes and its still negative go to the doctor who will either do a urine test or a blood test. If thats negative and you still dont have... (read in full...)
I want a baby, I don't want a baby..
Q. Ok, I am 18 and in my second semester as a college freshman.My boyfriend and I just got engaged and we really want a baby. we don't live together but he said If we had a baby we would just figure it out. I plan on finishing college after I have the ...
A. 18 January 2010: Tbh finish college first, get a job, a place, then try.... (read in full...)
Pregnant without having sex?
Q. dear cupid, my period is one day late. I am a virgin and I wonder if there is any possibility of me getting pregnant without having sex. if not, what is happening and what could be the causes. for the record, I have been menstruating since I was...
A. 18 January 2010: Your not pregnant, probably a mini bit late or stressed. It has only been one day honey.
Ask if your pregnant after you have had unprotected sex and are at least 3-4 weeks late... however the only response you will most likely get form some peo... (read in full...)
He dumped me and I may be pregnant with his child!
Q. hey about a 14 days ago a fella i was going out with for near a year out of the blue dumped me.. i was in bits he was 28 and told me that i was the girl he had ever sleep with so we had shared sumthing speical.. i had heard fromm him in near 3 weeks ...
A. 18 January 2010: you need to find out your pregnant before stressing about this. ... (read in full...)
Which one do you think could be the father? I'm two weeks late.
Q. Ok ive been so naughty and feel so bad but ive slept with 2 different guys this month... The 1st one my ex boyfriend we had unprotected sex but it was only anal sex and he came there.. the 2nd guy i met on new years eve i have slept with twice we...
A. 18 January 2010: Before you panic who is the father get a pregnancy test done first, then come back give us a positive or negative, then its best to listen to advise....
find out if your pregnant first!... (read in full...)
Introducing my boyfriend to my family...
Q. How soon do you reckon i should wait before introducing my boyfriend to my family?? We've only been going out like 4 weeks already but i've met his family already but by accident and i really can see myself with him for a while. I'm worried inca...
A. 11 January 2010: If you think 2 weeks is right then wait two weeks, do it when YOU BOTH are ready x... (read in full...)
He's very big, I'm very small, I'm worried he tore something inside me
Q. I am head over heels for my boyfriend, and today we did it for the first time. We were a little rushed so there wasn't any foreplay, and he is very big, and after we finished I was bleeding a lot. I am a really small girl and I am worried he tore ...
A. 10 January 2010: No worries x ... (read in full...)
Small hard bump inside me?
Q. Hi. I'm a 15 year old girl, and I've never had any sexual relations other than a simple peck on the lips with anyone. I recently found a small, painful bump on the right side of my privates. It's not in the vagina. When I feel it it's like a ...
A. 7 January 2010: Is this 'bump' inside the skin or on the skin (like a spot)
If its just a spot, it should clear up within the next week. If not, go to the doctor, if your embarrased you have the right to ask for a female doctor. Its nothing to be embarrased abou... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of this flu bug???
Q. Hi, Sorry this isn't a relationship question, but I have had awful flu for nearly four days and it's really getting me down. I haven't been out of the house and not been at work and I feel lonely and miserable with a terrible cough and sore che...
A. 7 January 2010: Best way to beat it is remaining rested and warm whilst drinking water or vitamin C! Vitamin C is good for the immune system and helps it as well as proteins!!
Just try that and rest up!... (read in full...)
Ladies: do you think guys that are virgins are cute?
Q. Do ladies around my age (17-23 I guess) think it's cute for a guy that's 19 to be a virgin? I know a few girls, one is 18 now, and she said she wants a guy with experience. But on the other end, one day when I was in class these "experienced" (lol) ...
A. 7 January 2010: I kind of cant see what your getting at there rhythmandblues2 ? Mainly probably cause its nearly 2am...hmm ill work it out.
"And Ravenxx91 is 18 and giving all the youngsters on this site advice about how to lose their virginity"
Correct..... (read in full...)
I'm hoping to be pregnant... what are my chances?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had sex three times and he went inside me I should start my period in a week but I need to know my chances that I might be pregnant because I want to be....
A. 7 January 2010: take a test in a few weeks if you dont come on your period x... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and might be pregnant and afraid to tell my family
Q. ok i am 13 and i might be pregnant. i am stuck in a horrible situation. my parents just got in devorce and three or four days ago i movfed eight hours away from my mom and boyfriend. we used protected ex but the condom broke. he is 16 and loves ...
A. 7 January 2010: first of all stop panicking and talking about supporting a child and telling your parents about it before you know it even exists. So hold off on freaking out, it wont get you anywhere. Take a pregnancy test in four or so weeks if your period doesnt ... (read in full...)
I really want another baby but I don't want to push my boyfriend into it!
Q. hi im 19 years i have 2 year old girl ive not long told my boyfriend that i want another baby i told him just a few months b4 xmas just gone and i was going to stop taking my pill December but we both decaded not to until after xmas wall from then ...
A. 7 January 2010: To be honest i'd focus on working and not even try until your daughter is in something like year one so she is settled in school. 3/4 years would give you plenty of time to develop a career if you dont have one or build it! ..dont push it either, ... (read in full...)
Are there certain times of the month where she might not get pregnant?
Q. Ok I really need to know. My girlfriend told me she was on the pill so we decided not to use condoms because she doesnt like the fell of them or something. Wel anyway a few days after we did it my girlfriend confessed to me that she had forgot to ...
A. 7 January 2010: A woman can get pregnant at any time of the month but it is more likely around day 13 onwards of their menstrual cycle. x... (read in full...)
He's very big, I'm very small, I'm worried he tore something inside me
Q. I am head over heels for my boyfriend, and today we did it for the first time. We were a little rushed so there wasn't any foreplay, and he is very big, and after we finished I was bleeding a lot. I am a really small girl and I am worried he tore ...
A. 7 January 2010: To be honest. As it was your first time and there was no foreplay i would assume this was your hymen. The bleeding should stop within 12-24 hours. If it hasnt, go to your doc and explain everything to them but i think they will say the same as i ... (read in full...)
Ladies: do you think guys that are virgins are cute?
Q. Do ladies around my age (17-23 I guess) think it's cute for a guy that's 19 to be a virgin? I know a few girls, one is 18 now, and she said she wants a guy with experience. But on the other end, one day when I was in class these "experienced" (lol) ...
A. 28 October 2009: Im 18!
And i would say, if i was single now, i prefer it! Mainly because as a girl i wouldnt feel compared to previous sexual partners if that makes sense? x I guess im weird like that. =] x
Btw its nice to hear there is a boy your age saying t... (read in full...)
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